Facing a hard decision can be energy-draining and very confusing. It doesn’t have to be that way though if you have a framework for it. So what questions should you be asking yourself? Listen to this episode and find out.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

– Why your energy is being drained by a decision

– The questions you should ask yourself

– How these questions will help

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to single The Soulmate.

Speaker2: [00:00:06] Podcast where we help you, the love warrior or love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate. Living the life of your dreams.

Speaker1: [00:00:18] Hi there. It’s me. And I wanted to talk today real quickly. Just about. How we make decisions. Johnny and I teach our clients a lot about how to make decisions around their love life, certainly, and we do a lot of that in our advanced program. And what we have found, though, is that there are lots of decisions that we are making on a day to day basis. And actually, you may be actually feeling like some sort of like decision fatigue. Do you know what I mean? Like there’s so many decisions to make. And but anyway, I want to just kind of just give you there’s a lot to it, more than I can share here. But I just really wanted to quickly talk about that, about two questions to ask yourself before making your next hard decision. And so, again, this is something that many women struggle with. Single or married or in between in many areas of their life, from their careers to their health to their personal life to. How do they choose a soulmate? How do they choose a guy to date? How do they say yes or no? All kinds of things. And so there’s a lot to it. But I’m just going to give you a couple of tips to get you started to kind of think about for yourself. And I’m doing this actually, I’m coming at you live from my my office here in Little Benicia, California. And as you can see, I have behind me, I have a some pictures of our clients wedding pictures.

Speaker1: [00:01:59] And just really lovely to share that. I love looking at them. I have them actually in different places, all different clients, different places all over the the office and I, I share that to to remind me of why I do what I do. Why am I working? Why am I here? What’s my purpose as a love coach and just a woman who is has been blessed to kind of pave a path to myself or create a path to finding the love of my life and doing it in an intentional way. And so anyway, so I’m going to share with you a couple of questions to ask yourself. So whenever you’re coming across a difficult decision like a, like instead of like doing like your normal kind of pros and cons list, which is it’s a good way to get started. But instead of like just doing the pros and cons list, something you might want to consider is. Instead of waiting till the last minute to do a pros and cons list about something you may be having a difficult decision about. Maybe it’s a maybe it’s a decision between two hard decisions or too easy or. Well, I could just say or two good decisions. Like to like there’s two things that should I go to the this great concert or this amazing party. Those are two kind of difficult decisions. So. I’m just going to kind of lay it out as basic as I can, so as quick as I can. So you might want to consider asking.

Speaker1: [00:03:47] What ah, is this? Is this life draining or is this life giving to me energetically? And this is something I’ve heard from some version of this from different teachers over the years. I’ve kind of made it a little bit more of my own. Where is it life draining or life giving? So if you like, had that kind of tea bar on a piece of paper and you’re you’re trying to discern between two questions. Is it life draining or life giving? And consider that now, if that’s about anything that can be a general kind of question to ask about any anything you’re you’re trying to decide about. Right. But around this intentional path to finding the love of your life, if that’s what you’re doing, you might want to ask yourself, will this bring me closer to my soulmate dreams or further away? It’s kind of a similar question, isn’t it? Well, this brings me closer to my soul mate. Dreams are further away while I feel more connected to the love of my life or to this path. Or will I feel less? And so, you know, as many of you know, John and I are doing our once a year live event, the library through the library through weekend, and it’s coming up. We have our first one. We have two, two of them every year. And it’s only in April, one in a week and a half. I can’t believe it. A little less than a week and a half. April 13th and 14th. And the other one.

Speaker1: [00:05:28] April 27. Seventh, 28. And so if that if you have been around in our community here on Instagram, here on Facebook, and you’ve been kind of on the fence and you’ve been wondering. Is this life with the love breakthrough weekend. Be good for me. You might want to ask yourself these questions. Will this bring me closer to my soul, my dreams, or not? Could the love breakthrough which can be life draining or life giving, and that that’s something for you to consider for yourself. So. And here’s the thing. There may be a lot of reasons if you’re on the on the fence, if there may be a lot of reasons why you say no to coming to breakthrough weekend. There might be a lot of reasons why you say no to coming to it. But please, please, please, please don’t let fear. Don’t let fear be one of those reasons. Fear is that voice in your head that stops a lot of amazing women from attracting the life of their dreams. Fear is what stops us. And I do believe that fear. There is a purpose to some fear. It can protect us right from getting harm, getting hurt. But fear most of the time. Fear. Fear actually holds us back most of the time. That fear is that voice in our head that stops us from moving our life forward in a significant way. And so you might want to ask yourself, is fear leading me or is really love leading me love of myself is my own inner power leading me.

Speaker1: [00:07:12] So that’s something for you to consider. So. If you have any questions about that or like comments about that, I welcome them. I’d love to have a conversation with you about Will doing this bring you closer to your soulmate dreams or or not. And, you know, is there is this a life draining activity or action or is it could it be a life giving? And so for you to really feel into that, like I know for myself this morning, John and I are blessed. We live in this little small town here in Benicia, and it’s just a really cute little it’s in Northern California, in the Bay Area. And we are blessed to live about a ten minute walk, a ten minute walk from me like a seven minute walk for Johnny. He’s got longer legs than me, about ten minute walk from our house to our office. And this morning it was a little cold and chilly out. And I had this kind of choice, like, because I felt it felt like it was even kind of sprinkling a little bit. So a little cool and rainy feeling lightly sprinkling sprinkling. And I was thinking to myself, Hmm, do I really want to walk to work? To work, though that’s obviously the best thing for me is to get out and take a good ten minute walk in the morning, or do I want to get in the car and just get my coat, my dry garage, walk into the car and drive over here and then get into the and go to the office.

Speaker1: [00:08:43] And I had to this is kind of a simple question, but I had to really ask myself what would be more life giving? What would be more life giving? What would support me in taking better care of myself? And of course, that was the walk getting out and getting the walk. And so what I did on my walk is I took a little bit of a long, long way to the office and I pick there’s a jasmine Bush that’s got it’s never like groomed and it’s never like really cut. And so there’s so much jasmine on on the bush. So I take a little bit from it every year when it’s blossoming. Look at that and look at that. I love the kind of contradiction or the it says, get shit done. This is Johnny’s mug, by the way, that I use the office for my my vase. But I love the contradiction, the juxtaposition of the beautiful feminine flowers. And they smell so good and the get shit done, the masculine. So this is this right here is just a beautiful juxtaposition of feminine and masculine and how it can work, I think beautifully together anyway. So that was definitely a life giving a life enhancing choice. So I’m asking you, what life enhancing choices are you making for yourself these days? Love to hear back from you welcoming a conversation. Thanks for joining me. Just thought to keep it real quick and I’ll talk to you again soon. Bye bye.

Speaker2: [00:10:11] Hey, thanks for tuning in to today’s episode. If you’re a single professional woman who wants your success in your love life to match your success in your career, and you’re looking to get crystal clear right now about why Truelove hasn’t been knocking on your door and how to have that happen sooner rather than later. Like, not literally though, that would be weird, but I hope you know what I’m saying. Anyway, you’re going to want to book a call, a love breakthrough clarity call right now with my dear wife, Dr. Laura. Yes. Laura herself will get on the phone or Skype with you one on one to assess exactly what’s been holding you back and love what it is you really want and how to get there as quickly as possible. Just go to single to soulmate dot com forward slash call to book a call that single day soulmate dot com forward slash call for free love breakthrough clarity call that is for you if and only if you’re a single professional woman who is as serious about her love life right now as you’ve been about getting your degree or your career success. So again, that’s single soulmate dot com forward slash call to book your life changing love breakthrough clarity call right away.

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