You’ve been running into dead end after dead end in your love life. Another ghost, another playboy, another narcissist. Or maybe you’re just attracting no men at all and are wondering what’s wrong with you. Well, nothing’s wrong with you, but there is a reason that love hasn’t been easy for you, and luckily it’s fixable. Listen to this episode to find out what it is.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

– Why finding love seems easy for some

– How important healthy relationships are

– How single people today are LESS prepared for commitment than ever before

READY TO CHANGE YOUR LOVE LIFE FOR THE BETTER, FOREVER?

If you’re ready for the first step towards major transformation & true love at last, head over to https://singletosoulmate.com/call to book a FREE 1-on-1 call with Lara herself. She’ll assess exactly what’s been holding you back in love, how to get what you REALLY want, and if or how we can help you get it as quickly as possible.

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to single The Soulmate Podcast where we help you, the love warrior or love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate. Living the life of your dreams. All right. Well, let me go on record and say, like every human being in this modern world, that I wish that everything in life were easier, you know? But especially as I get older, man, I find that some things in life are much easier, mostly because I’m just less willing to tolerate BS. And also some things are a little tougher because of, Oh man, okay, that could be kind of long, but you know, getting older, stuff like that. So some things are tougher. But anyway, I’ll just leave it with this. Such is life. All right. So anyway, I just wanted to say that, yeah, I wish everything in life were easier. Hey, I’m glad that you’re here. We are going to a great question today that we hear from lots and lots of people. Thank you, Lisa, for submitting it. And today’s question, we explore what’s really easier, what’s really tough, or how can either help you out on your journey to go from single to soulmate. All right. So here’s Lisa’s question Why do some people find their soulmates without having to do this type of intentional work? It seems so easy for some people or am I making assumptions? Great question, Lisa.

Speaker1: [00:01:28] We hear this type of thing a lot, if not the exact same question. And I want to share a little quote you might have heard. All you see is the glory, but you don’t know this story. So what that means, basically, is that for some it may look easy, but we don’t really know the full story of what they did before they met randomly, quote unquote, in the grocery store or at work or something like that. Most of the time, people don’t know that they were taking certain steps. Most of the people haven’t done the kind of research that Laura and I have done and really mapped out our experience back before meeting one another, diving into what exactly was Laura doing, stuff like that. So most people don’t do that. They think, I don’t know, it just happened. And usually what we find by asking a lot more questions is it didn’t just happen. It was actually a proven path, which is the kind of stuff that we teach here and in our courses and programs. So now years ago, people would like find their mate and marry them at age 18 and then stay with them for like 65, 70 years. And that is super fabulous for them. And I got to say, I don’t even understand that, man, because the thought that I had anything like a wise thought in my head at 18 or 20 or something like that is just like an impossible thing for me to think of.

Speaker1: [00:02:47] And so we don’t have that experience. I can’t really speak to that. But our clients don’t either, because if they’re meeting their sweetheart at 18 or 20 or something like that, they’re married and off, you know, living happily ever after. So our people that we’re talking to, people like you, Lisa, and people that are listening, you’re listening right now. This podcast are people just like us, like we’re married, divorce, you know, been around the block a few times and still like, oh, my goodness, what’s going on? So anyway, that’s not our experience. People like Marry and stuff like that really, really young. But here’s another thing to consider. Times have really changed, right? So those folks that have been married for seven years, well, they got together in a very, very different time. And what I’ve found is that psychologists and researchers have found that single people today are less prepared than in any time in history to actually be in a happy and healthy marriage or partnership. Now, why might that be so? It’s hard to say a definitive answer to that, but there are lots of theories. So I’m going to share with you our theory. It’s really it’s like a lot of things. It’s multi dimensional.

Speaker1: [00:03:56] So in our Western culture here in the United States of America especially, we’re living in a society that values work and money way more than love. The Mother Teresa called the US the most loveless society she had ever seen, and with the really wonderfully evolving roles in the male female relationship where men and women are questioning and in many cases tossing out old paradigms and then moving into an evolving into 21st century relationship roles. These are roles that they haven’t seen before. They haven’t seen them modeled growing up. And so the other thing is they don’t really see them modeled for them around now in their personal life. And definitely they’re not seeing them modeled in mass media. I mean, are you seeing positive, loving relationships modeled in mass and the mass media? No, you’re not right. So all of that together really makes it harder. So you haven’t had role models growing up. You don’t see it around you in your personal life. You’re not seeing it reflected in the media. So this makes it harder to complete that evolution, which remember I talked about, like you’re tossing out old ideas, old paradigms. So it makes it harder to complete that evolution away from what we know we don’t want and step into more what we do want to actually experience. Right. And so this is why in all of our course in programs, we do spend a lot of time stepping into that.

Speaker1: [00:05:28] What you do want and that’s what you want to be focusing on, is what do you want to experience? And as the saying goes, if you can’t see it, you can’t be it. And many single people are experiencing a tremendous absence, like an aching absence, healthy, mutually respectful, committed and passionate relationships and marriages. And so being able to step into that just keeps like eluding you, you know, and the years just like fly by. And the thing is that women with the intuition to recognize how important more so than men. Men do realize it too, but women more so because you get just a deeper connection with your intuition. So with that deeper connection, with intuition about how important healthy relationships are, you’re in the forefront of helping to create a new paradigm in the sense of a healthier, masculine, feminine relationship. And so women especially are feeling this pull to create something else, to have something else for themselves, something better, but allowing themselves to often to be stuck in the old paradigm, thinking of like work, work, work, my money, money. I’m not saying that you don’t want to have meaningful work and have money and stuff like that, but there’s a viewpoint that pulls at you that says, like, relationships aren’t that important. Love is like a side dish of life, you know, just settle for someone that can pay the bills.

Speaker1: [00:07:00] And you know what, 50, 80 years ago, that was like really great advice, right? But now we’re onto the next stage of evolution where inner joy and fulfillment is important. Society will tell you inner joy and fulfillment is unimportant and maybe even greedy, like spiritually greedy. But when you hear that inside, my guess is you’re here because that leaves you feeling like empty in the sense of like, no, no, no, I want more from myself. I want more from my life. And so that leaves you feeling that like that more that you want. That’s like an impossible dream. And what I’m here to say, well, Laura and I both are here to say is that is totally not an impossible dream. It’s just not one that you’re seeing very much around, which is, you know, I’m glad that you’re here because that’s what we’re all about, is helping you step into that thing. That’s certainly not impossible as we live every day and not what we see our clients living. All right. So it’s just that when you try to make that dream come alive while you’re simultaneously believing that love isn’t that important, and you devote very, very little time, energy or study to the whole subject, it’s going to be very, very difficult to actually create that in your life.

Speaker1: [00:08:14] So we not that long ago officiated a wedding and we talked to a couple who were guests at the wedding, and they’d been married at age 20, married for over 65 years. They clearly loved each other and care for each other. But what they also said was it wasn’t always easy. They had some rough years and they wondered at times if they would make it. Now, this was a couple that got to keep in mind. They were married in a totally different time than now. They loved each other then and they also value commitment. And now women and men have more choices than ever. I want to focus mostly on women, because as a woman now you have more choices than you’ve ever had in all of recorded history about when and whom you’ll marry, have kids with or not, have kids with, get an education, all of these type of things. And yet commitment by men and women is, generally speaking, valued less and less and experienced less and less in life. So it becomes harder and harder to get a committed relationship when you yourself are not that committed in your life to love. And what all that choice means for you is there is more responsibility for making the right choice for you. That’s not pressure. It’s just that you’ve got a lot of choices, which is awesome.

Speaker1: [00:09:41] In the law, they say that with rights come responsibilities. So both people in a relationship have more rights and both people have more responsibilities as well. The goal here isn’t just getting into a relationship, is it? I mean, that’s pretty easy, right? You can get into a relationship. But what’s happening, what we find is that many women that resonate with what we’re doing, they feel, I want to get into the right relationship. Right. So getting into the right relationship for you, that does take some extra effort. That’s just the reality of it, because, again, getting into a relationship pretty easy, getting into the right relationship where you feel love, supported, adored, appreciated, all of those things. Yeah, that does take some extra effort. And while, you know, sometimes that extra effort feels like something is wrong, I just want to say nothing could be further from the truth. What’s really happening is that you’ve been wanting a true love relationship, right? If that’s what you’ve been wanting with mutual respect and passion, that doesn’t fade and a commitment that’s real and lasting. It isn’t that other people are getting that it’s you’re and you’re not. It’s just that in the past, a lot of times people didn’t have such high expectations, like your parents and grandparents. I mean, I’m not trying to diss our parents and grandparents and the other generations, but their expectations were different, let’s just say that.

Speaker1: [00:11:09] And so it was easier for them. And if someone has lower expectations, it’s easier because they’re getting into a relationship. So this is why we hear so much from the women that we work with that they’ve been like criticized in the past. Like, why are you so picky? Or like, forget about asking a question, just have people tell them maybe you’ve heard this too. You’re too picky. That’s why you don’t have a man. And all I can say to that is that, look, settling never works. At some point, you end up feeling resentful and unfulfilled. And what we’ve seen is that like the women that have worked with us and attracted their soul mates, they universally say, and I’m so glad I didn’t settle. And here’s the other thing. Outside of that long kind of deep answer there. The question was about why do some people find true love easily? You know, and I don’t mean just like finding somebody and they get married in a divorce in five years. I mean, like true love that will go on forever. Well, here’s the thing. Some people are just lucky. You know, I wasn’t that lucky. I had to put forth a lot of effort. So it at large, you had to put forth a lot of effort. So even though we’re always going to be open to luck.

Speaker1: [00:12:18] Right. I’m sure you are, too. Do we really want that to be our strategy? I mean, sadly, too many people, they sit back, they do nothing. They hope to get lucky. And then at the end of their lives, as they’re growing old, alone, you know, probably going to die alone, it’s just like, oh, shucks, didn’t get lucky. I mean, I don’t think you want that. I know I didn’t. I know Laura didn’t in our clients and it’s like, compare it to this. Some people hit the lottery and they become millionaires overnight. But that’s not really a wise financial strategy for our lives, is it? Playing a lottery? So some stuff to think about. Just to wrap up, try not to think of it as easy for them and hard for you. Remember, we don’t really know the full story. And why not reframe that extra effort as just This is my not settling energy, this is allowing my soul to be truly fulfilled energy. So that’s going to ultimately lead you to the right man for you. And you’re going to both be happy that you didn’t settle for Mister good enough. All right, Lisa, I hope that was helpful. So thanks so much for listening. I look forward to answering your question on the next Q&A episode of the single to Soulmate Podcast. Have a great day or night.

Speaker2: [00:13:40] Hey, thanks for tuning into today’s episode. If you’re a single professional woman who wants your success in your love life to match your success in your career, and you’re looking to get crystal clear right now about why Truelove hasn’t been knocking on your door and how to have that happen sooner rather than later. Like, not literally, though, that would be weird, but I hope you know what I’m saying. Anyway, you’re going to want to book a call, a love breakthrough clarity call right now with my dear wife, Dr. Laura. Yes. Laura herself will get on the phone or Skype with you one on one to assess exactly what’s been holding you back and love what it is you really want and how to get there as quickly as possible. Just go to single soulmate dot com forward slash call to book a call that single day soulmate dot com forward slash call for free love breakthrough clarity call that is for you if and only if you’re a single professional woman who is as serious about her love life right now as you’ve been about getting your degree or your career success. So again, that’s single soulmate dot com forward slash call to book your life changing love. Breakthrough Clarity. Call right away.

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