Have you been trying to find your soulmate without any success for a LONG time? Are you tired of feeling held back by a mysterious cause? Listen to this episode to help you get to the bottom of what’s been holding you back from love for YEARS- and what you can do to change that starting today.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

– What’s REALLY been holding you back from love all these years

– What you need to do NOW to start seeing changes

– How making the correct shifts will get you what you want

READY TO CHANGE YOUR LOVE LIFE FOR THE BETTER, FOREVER?

If you’re ready for the first step towards major transformation & true love at last, head over to https://singletosoulmate.com/call to book a FREE 1-on-1 call with Lara herself. She’ll assess exactly what’s been holding you back in love, how to get what you REALLY want, and if or how we can help you get it as quickly as possible.

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to single The Soulmate Podcast.

Speaker2: [00:00:06] Where we help you, the love warrior or love where to be to go from single to with your soulmate. Living the life of your dreams. If you’ve been at it for a while. If you’ve wanted to find love for a while. I got bad news and good news. The bad news is it’s more than you think. So let’s talk about what’s holding you back from being with the love of your life and the bad news. Good news. So the good news is everything I’m going to share with you can be addressed, can be dealt with. The bad news is that it’s more than you think, because if the thing that was holding you back from being with the love of her life, attracting the man that you want was just one particular line or one particular. Like if you wore the right dress or said the right thing or something like that, then as hard as you’ve been working at it, you would have found him already. You would have said that line. You would have done that thing. You would have worn that dress. You would have went to that location. You would have. Cracked that code already. Right. Because it is just one little thing. So the reality is it’s more than you think. And so the other bad news and good news is it’s not what you think. Like, in other words, you think, oh, the problem is this. Well, I’m just here to tell you that if it was the thing that you thought it was, you would have solved that already.

Speaker2: [00:01:51] Because if you’re listening to us now, if you’re listening to this podcast, you probably haven’t just woken up this month and said, Hey, you know, I got a new idea. I want to find my husband. You probably been at this for a while. And so that’s not an indictment. What that is, is just a recognition that you have actually been trying things, you have actually been doing things. You have actually been reading the articles that whatever the thing is, you’ve actually been trying. And so you want to acknowledge yourself for that and you want to also recognize that it’s not what you think. Otherwise you would have fixed it already, right? You would have dealt with it already. Would have done it already. It’s more than you think. And so. A lot of times you know very intimately what you don’t want. And because you know very intimately what you don’t want, you it’s very difficult for you to see what you do want. In fact, it’s like a mirage, right? It’s a little bit like the Loch Ness monster. You heard about it, you read about it, but no one’s ever actually seen it like a healthy man, a healthy relationship, a relationship where you actually feel good and you feel adored, cherished, respected, appreciated. You don’t feel put upon. You don’t feel like you’re being used. You feel like you can be an equal partner. You just haven’t seen that enough.

Speaker2: [00:03:15] That doesn’t feel familiar to you. That doesn’t even feel like something that would be normal. And therein lies the issue. Talk about how it’s more than what you think. It’s not what you think. It’s that if you were to just add some new thing into your life, a new line, a new person or something like that, a new anything, and not take away some of the other stuff that you’re doing that is harming you. You’re just going to get more stressed. You tell me right now. I mean, right. You can’t tell me. But like we’re having a conversation here. You tell me, do you actually need more things to do? Do you feel like you’re sitting around twiddling your thumbs, saying, I just don’t have enough to do? You’re probably extremely busy, right? You have a full life. You’ve got professional responsibilities. Whether that be your career, your business. You’ve got personal responsibilities. You’ve got friends, maybe family members, maybe you have a parent, maybe have children or a child. Right? You have real responsibilities and you have a lot going on. So the thing that’s stopping you from the love of your life is not that you need something else to add, although you do need new information about things, but it’s also that you need to take stuff away. So when we share with you how Laura and I are holistic, love and life coaches, that’s because there’s not just one thing stopping you from love. Our courses and programs deal with your heart, but they also deal with your whole life because it’s your whole life that’s stopping you.

Speaker2: [00:04:49] And that may seem like a lot to hear, but I’m going to give you just a few of the situations that we coach our clients through to deal with in our advanced program and our Love Launch program. So here’s just a few of them. We have one client who’s independent, like a practitioner, holistic health practitioner. She got a lot of billing issues with her billing company. There’s tons of communication because you get private access to us in our advanced program, tons of stuff about that. Now, if you were to go to a dating blog and read about what to do, nowhere would like problems with my billing company come up. But you know what? It was keeping her up at night. It was stressing her out. It was messing with her ability to show up and serve her patients or clients. And so we’re helping her with that. We have some clients have a death of a parent. Some have a toxic parent, narcissistic family members, a narcissistic ex who’s the father of a child. So we’re helping our clients navigate through that because if you’re out there trying to date, but let’s say you’re a single parent and your child is left with your ex and you don’t feel stable about that, you feel kind of worried about that. Do you think you’re really going to be able to be present on that day? Do you think you’re really going to be able to evaluate this guy in front of you when meanwhile, looming in the back of your mind is that jerk of an ex who’s not doing the right thing by you and by your kids now.

Speaker2: [00:06:16] Right. So parenting itself, a lot of people are doing stressful parenting and they don’t realize that they’ve set it up as stressful parenting, health challenges, moving new job or career. Sometimes the thing that’s making you not attractive is that you’re going to work every day and you hate it. You hate it with like every fiber of your being. And so you’ve got hate, disgust, feeling unappreciated, flowing through your veins 8 hours a day, 40 hours or more a week. It’s difficult to come out of that and end up feeling magnetic, attractive, excited about your life and attractive to a high quality man. All right. So we help with that. Accessing your passions. We had one client who she was in a very I actually don’t remember what it was, but very like kind of masculine, linear type of get stuff done kind of work. And she really liked it, but she needed to balance that because a lot of women are not in touch with their femininity. We help you get in touch with your femininity. We have specific processes, principles, practices and tools to help you get in touch with your femininity. And this particular woman, she realized that she really actually wanted to paint and she started painting at such a level.

Speaker2: [00:07:35] And it was like an explosion of creativity. And to such an extent that she’s radiant now like a radiant woman. She’s still doing her work because she actually likes it. But she’s a radiant woman and not a hard edged woman who can’t attract a guy because there’s no masculine, feminine, healthy dynamic going on there. We had some clients that have to manage a lot in terms of professionally. Some they have to manage a lot in terms of money, right? So we’ve had several that have been managing multimillion dollar. One was an inheritance, one was a multimillion dollar bank. And we help them navigate through that, not because not like, you know, like here’s what you know, I don’t know, hedge fund to invest in or anything like that. Here’s what to do with your spreadsheet. We’re not accountants, but emotionally. Is that wearing on you? Absolutely. Absolutely. Money issues are such a huge thing that a lot of people have money issues intertwined with love issues. They don’t even realize what it is. This is why we have a course called magnetized true wealth, that it’s a weekend that we used to offer publicly, but now we only offer it at for people who come to our love breakthrough weekend because it actually helps you make more money. But a lot of people started thinking that that was the focus. And it’s not really the focus is really just about helping you untangle your unhealthy relationship with money and how that is interfering with your love life.

Speaker2: [00:09:12] And by the way, you may think that this means, oh, this is about people that are struggling with money, like don’t have enough money, know those multimillion dollar, those people that are financially worth multi millions of dollars. They learned a ton there because your relationship with money can be unhealthy, whether you have a little money or a lot of money. So other things, the substance abuse issues, love addiction, sex addiction. We’re not like therapists or professionals or anything like that. But what we do is the holistic love in life coaching that may include, Hey, you need to get therapy about this or something like that. So what else? Coworker Issues body and self-image issues recovery from sexual abuse, recovery from other types of abuse. And like I said, we’re not therapists, but we actually have a lot of therapists that come to us because. As you can’t see your own stuff. So we have a lot of therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists that actually come work with us because you can’t see your own stuff. Living situation problems, toxic roommates, toxic people in your life. Codependency enabling. Some women. The issue is they’re making a lot of money, but they don’t feel it. Again, that kind of is something that we deal with at Magnetised true wealth and stuff like that, spousal support issues. So this is just a few of the issues and these are just a few of the issues that are blocking you that you may not even realize are blocking you.

Speaker2: [00:10:40] But but it’s affecting you. So what’s the good news? The good news is that even though it is more than you think in terms of what is blocking you, these are things that actually can be addressed. So like I said, we address it with people in our Love Lunch program, which is our advanced program, the love break. The Weekend is a prerequisite for that, but you can also recognize that when you are working on those issues, you actually are helping. So however you are doing it, you are actually helping yourself move forward. We do a lot of focus on taking things off of our clients, our advanced program clients off of their plates so that their spaciousness. If you feel like your life is so packed full that you don’t have a few hours or a weekend or something like that to work on this type of stuff, then you’re not running your life. Your life is running you. And what that does is that makes you stressed, that makes you not attractive, and it makes you not able to actually take in any new information that you need. Like how do you get into alignment in body, mind, heart and soul with soulmate, love with healthy love with healthy relationships? Well, there’s specific things that relationships look like, sound like, feel like that will be unfamiliar to you that you need to learn about. But you can’t do that if your life is so packed that you’re like, I don’t even have a few hours.

Speaker2: [00:12:05] I don’t have a day, a weekend, whatever. I don’t have any time for that. Then you got to be addressing that so that you actually have time to devote to what it is that you want to create in your life. So, like I said, some bad news, some good news. The good news is that all of that bad news of the things that are actually holding you back are things that can be addressed, but you want to address them with some urgency because the pace of life is fast. The pace of change for most people is slow, and that leaves them feeling more frustrated. So like, if, if year after year I’m going to do a whole separate podcast on this, but year after year you find your life not changing that much. It’s because you are moving slow to change it, but fast in your desires to to change it. And those things don’t match up. Your desire to change has to be matched by the actions and the speed with which you’re ready to learn new ways of thinking, new ways of being, and take new actions that feel a little uncomfortable. Because if you’re not a little uncomfortable, probably everything’s just going to stay the same. So I hope that was helpful for you. And if you like this podcast, please do share it and leave a review on iTunes. We really, really, really appreciate it and talk to you next time.

Speaker1: [00:13:26] Hey, thanks for tuning in to today’s episode. If you’re a single professional woman who wants your success in your love life to match your success in your career, and you’re looking to get crystal clear right now about why Truelove hasn’t been knocking on your door and how to have that happen sooner rather than later. Like, not literally though, that would be weird, but I hope you know what I’m saying. Anyway, you’re going to want a book, a call, a love breakthrough clarity call right now with my dear wife, Dr. Lara. Yes. Lara herself will get on the phone or Skype with you one on one to assess exactly what’s been holding you back and love what it is you really want and how to get there as quickly as possible. Just go to single soulmate dot com forward slash call to book a call that single to soulmate dot com forward slash call for free love breakthrough clarity call that is for you if and only if you’re a single professional woman who is as serious about her love life right now as you’ve been about getting your degree or your career success. So again, that’s single soulmate dot com forward slash call to book your life changing love breakthrough clarity call right away.

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