You might think you are doing everything you have to do in order to finally attract your soulmate and live the life of your dreams. But let’s be honest, it hasn’t been working…
So what is it that you are doing that is not working? Or maybe it’s something you must avoid and haven’t been avoiding. Let’s talk about that in this episode.

 

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

– Why you’ve been treating your love life the wrong way

– How you should treat your love life

– What to focus on to attract your soulmate

 

READY TO CHANGE YOUR LOVE LIFE FOR THE BETTER, FOREVER?
If you’re ready for the first step towards major transformation & true love at last, head over to https://singletosoulmate.com/call to book a FREE 1-on-1 call with Lara herself. She’ll assess exactly what’s been holding you back in love, how to get what you REALLY want, and if or how we can help you get it as quickly as possible.

 

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to single The Soulmate.

Speaker2: [00:00:06] Podcast where we help you, the love warrior or love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate. Living the life of your dreams.

Speaker1: [00:00:17] Hi there.

Speaker3: [00:00:18] This is Laura Fernandez, and I’m coming.

Speaker1: [00:00:22] At you live to talk to you about the number one thing you must avoid to actually be able to find your Mr. Right. All right. So you think you’re doing everything, you know.

Speaker3: [00:00:35] Right to find.

Speaker1: [00:00:36] Your guy. You are getting out there, you’re doing your dating apps, you’re going out to meet people. You’re listening to podcasts about how to how to how do men work? How do they how do they think.

Speaker3: [00:00:51] All that kind of.

Speaker1: [00:00:52] Stuff.

Speaker3: [00:00:52] You are maybe watching some YouTube videos on how to text.

Speaker1: [00:00:58] So you’re doing you think that you’re doing.

Speaker3: [00:01:02] Everything to find your Mr. Right. But here’s the thing here’s the thing and I say this with respect.

Speaker1: [00:01:11] It’s not working. You’re here.

Speaker3: [00:01:13] You’re watching this because it’s not working. And that doesn’t mean you’re a bad person.

Speaker1: [00:01:17] You are a professional, educated woman who’s got a lot of good things going on in your life. But your search for love is not happening the way you want it to, right? So the number one thing that you actually want to avoid in order to find your Mr. Right is to is really treating your love life.

Speaker3: [00:01:39] Like it’s an afterthought. So what I mean by that is a lot of women.

Speaker1: [00:01:44] Come to me and tell me, oh, you know.

Speaker3: [00:01:50] I’m I can be happy without a man. I can be happy without a man.

Speaker1: [00:01:54] I mean, I’m perfectly okay without a man. And, you know, of course you are. You’ve already proven that.

Speaker3: [00:02:01] You’ve already proven that you can you can survive on your own. That’s like that’s not a question. You can pay your bills, you can.

Speaker1: [00:02:09] Buy your own home. You can travel all over the world. And that’s awesome.

Speaker3: [00:02:14] But the thing is, is if you.

Speaker1: [00:02:15] Treat your.

Speaker3: [00:02:15] Love life as it’s not as if it’s not that important.

Speaker1: [00:02:21] It’s that energy that you’re putting out.

Speaker3: [00:02:23] Like, it’s not really that important.

Speaker1: [00:02:25] It’s kind of important. It would be nice.

Speaker3: [00:02:28] But it’s not a must have. It’s not as important.

Speaker1: [00:02:30] As your college degree was or get moving up the career track in your job.

Speaker3: [00:02:38] If it’s not that important. Like you didn’t invest, like you’re not investing time, energy.

Speaker1: [00:02:43] And money in becoming your best version of yourself then. And I say this respectfully, you can’t be you really.

Speaker3: [00:02:54] Can’t be surprised when the results are you getting.

Speaker1: [00:02:56] Our men who are treating you as.

Speaker3: [00:02:58] If you’re not that important.

Speaker1: [00:03:00] Because you’re not treating your dreams as if they’re that important. You see, again, you’re not a bad person, you’re a good person. But you have.

Speaker3: [00:03:08] Been conditioned by this culture, by the society, that the number one thing.

Speaker1: [00:03:15] To focus on is your career.

Speaker3: [00:03:17] And your education.

Speaker1: [00:03:19] And I’m all about being educated. I’m all about having a good career as a woman.

Speaker3: [00:03:23] I myself have an education. And.

Speaker1: [00:03:27] You know, I was before I was a love coach, I was a doctor of chiropractic.

Speaker3: [00:03:31] So I spent, you know, an invested I invested time, energy and money into my education and to building my chiropractic practice at the time. So I understand being successful in your.

Speaker1: [00:03:43] Career, and I’m all for it.

Speaker3: [00:03:45] But the thing is, is that if.

Speaker1: [00:03:47] You keep.

Speaker3: [00:03:48] On focusing.

Speaker1: [00:03:50] On your education, your next graduate degree, your your your career track.

Speaker3: [00:03:59] And if.

Speaker1: [00:04:00] That’s your main focus with no real, like real good focus on attracting the right man for you, becoming the woman that could excuse me.

Speaker3: [00:04:16] Becoming the woman that could inspire.

Speaker1: [00:04:19] A quality man to to to.

Speaker3: [00:04:22] Step up.

Speaker1: [00:04:23] To to to treat you like a queen, to treat you well.

Speaker3: [00:04:29] That is an there is an investment of.

Speaker1: [00:04:32] Time, energy and money. And and it it’s really a personal growth, a personal development journey, a very intentional journey. Now, if you want to leave it up to luck, then you can do that. Some people do get lucky, very few.

Speaker3: [00:04:49] It does happen.

Speaker1: [00:04:50] But in this day and age, with the kind of dating world, it’s like a really kind of harsh dating world out there. Have you noticed that.

Speaker3: [00:05:01] With all the apps and the swipe right, the.

Speaker1: [00:05:03] Swipe left and the.

Speaker3: [00:05:04] Ghosting and the situation ships and the scammers and the fishers and the.

Speaker1: [00:05:10] You know, there’s all these names for them, right? It’s a harsh dating world. And if you want to if you want.

Speaker3: [00:05:23] To have a man to.

Speaker1: [00:05:24] Prioritize you and step up for you, you start that that by you, you start allowing that to become a reality by you prioritizing you, you prioritizing your dream, you making it so important you you want to treat your love life like you want your man to treat you like it matters.

Speaker3: [00:05:50] Not like it’s an afterthought.

Speaker1: [00:05:52] And one of the number one things that I see our clients do is they they start, they have a massive shift.

Speaker3: [00:06:03] In their consciousness.

Speaker1: [00:06:04] Like my job, my career is important to me and I’m proud of myself in my accomplishment accomplishments. But that’s not going to keep me warm at night. That’s not going to cuddle me when I’m.

Speaker3: [00:06:16] Having challenges in my life, that my job.

Speaker1: [00:06:19] Is not going to.

Speaker3: [00:06:21] Hold my hand. My job is not.

Speaker1: [00:06:22] Going to give me babies. You know, my job is it’s important because it means a roof over. It means I can pay my bills. But you’re easily replaceable in your job. And that’s a tough that’s kind of a tough reality to face. Like in in your job, if you quit today, they would replace you tomorrow or soon. That’s just the.

Speaker3: [00:06:51] Again, talk.

Speaker1: [00:06:52] About a tough reality job market dating market, dating world, job world. It’s tough out there and so. Your relationship, you prioritizing your relationship, making it important is this is all the research says all the research.

Speaker3: [00:07:12] Shows us.

Speaker1: [00:07:13] Is that your relationship, your your your primary romantic relationship, the person that you marry is the biggest determinant of your happiness and fulfillment and the meaning that you feel feel in your life. That’s kind of important that that you actually focus on it, that you make it in your mind and in your actions.

Speaker3: [00:07:36] Not just talking to yourself, not just saying out there in the world this is important, but actually investing in it, investing time, investing.

Speaker1: [00:07:45] Energy, investing money, money in it, in your resources. Because as if if you.

Speaker3: [00:07:52] Want to treat it as if it’s.

Speaker1: [00:07:53] Important, you want to mandate.

Speaker3: [00:07:54] To invest time.

Speaker1: [00:07:56] Energy and money in you. Right. You got to.

Speaker3: [00:08:01] Do that to yourself and to your dreams. Now, in the face.

Speaker1: [00:08:05] Of.

Speaker3: [00:08:06] Society’s conditioning.

Speaker1: [00:08:07] That your your job is the most important thing in your life. And just focus on that. You have to rebel against society’s conditioning.

Speaker3: [00:08:17] You know, I’m just thinking right.

Speaker1: [00:08:19] Now of one of our clients who recently got married.

Speaker3: [00:08:24] Just a couple of weeks ago, as a matter of fact. And her name is Andrea, and.

Speaker1: [00:08:30] She was in her early forties when she started to work with us. This is a professional woman. I mean, she works at a university, so she’s all about higher level education. She was an administrator, a high level administrator to like the president of a major university.

Speaker3: [00:08:51] And so she values education.

Speaker1: [00:08:54] She’s highly educated.

Speaker3: [00:08:55] Herself.

Speaker1: [00:08:56] And but her lifelong dream has.

Speaker3: [00:08:59] Been been to been to.

Speaker1: [00:09:02] Get married and to have a baby. But she’s in her early forties.

Speaker3: [00:09:05] And so. She was wondering if it was even ever going to happen for her.

Speaker1: [00:09:12] But here’s the thing she saw. She saw Johnny and me. She learned about us somewhere online. And she really got it. Like the flip switched in her mind that that that breakthrough happened, like, oh, my gosh, I have been treating my love life like it’s an afterthought. I’ve been. Yeah, I’ve been dating, but I haven’t.

Speaker3: [00:09:34] Been committed at the.

Speaker1: [00:09:36] Level that I need to be committed, like the.

Speaker3: [00:09:38] Level of commitment that I gave my.

Speaker1: [00:09:40] College degree, the level.

Speaker3: [00:09:41] Of commitment that I that I’ve been giving.

Speaker1: [00:09:43] My career and my career path forward and up upwards.

Speaker3: [00:09:48] I haven’t been.

Speaker1: [00:09:49] Investing in that in my love life like that. So she started to work with us. She she came into our program. She started to become we call the path. It’s a it’s a it’s a personal development path. It is about becoming your own soulmate first. That’s the first thing. So we actually say, don’t date at first. It’s not about dating. If dating was your solution, you would have.

Speaker3: [00:10:15] Found them by now. It’s not just about dating. In fact.

Speaker1: [00:10:19] You don’t have to date as much as you think you need to date. We actually.

Speaker3: [00:10:23] Say just do a man fast and.

Speaker1: [00:10:25] Focus on you first. Become your own soulmate first. And that is a journey. So so she became her own soulmate first. And in that process of becoming your own soulmate first, she fixed her picker. What’s her picker? Her picker is her mind. The way she picks men, her thought process. She’d already had one breakthrough in her thought process. Oh, I need to treat my love life as seriously as I treat my college degree and my career.

Speaker3: [00:10:52] Okay, got it. And when I say that, I want to make sure I’m clear. I’m not saying to quit your job.

Speaker1: [00:11:00] Nobody’s saying to quit. It is possible for you to focus on your career and do well in your career and focus on prioritize your love life. People do it all the time.

Speaker3: [00:11:10] I did it myself.

Speaker1: [00:11:14] Andrea did it. So that was the first breakthrough. And second breakthrough is through the work that.

Speaker3: [00:11:18] She did with us, again, becoming her own soulmate.

Speaker1: [00:11:21] First, she shifted the way she thought it was her thought process. It was her. It was her mental frameworks. The way she was approaching the whole thing had to shift.

Speaker3: [00:11:37] And once she.

Speaker1: [00:11:38] Did that, boom, things started to shift. Move knew new new men were coming in her life, more quality men, and she knew how to choose them.

Speaker3: [00:11:51] And that’s an important distinction.

Speaker1: [00:11:52] Because her picker was finally working. Her picker, how she choose men, chose men, was working better and better and better and not that much longer. She met the love of her life and not that much longer. After that, they had a beautiful baby girl. And so.

Speaker3: [00:12:09] You know, they just got.

Speaker1: [00:12:12] Married. And I’m so happy for Andrea.

Speaker3: [00:12:15] And she had sent us a.

Speaker1: [00:12:16] Thank you card and.

Speaker3: [00:12:17] She said, thank you for not giving up on me. And the thing is, is because she had.

Speaker1: [00:12:25] She had.

Speaker3: [00:12:26] Times when she really doubted that it could even happen for.

Speaker1: [00:12:28] Her in her forties. And here she is, married to the love of her life.

Speaker3: [00:12:32] And with a.

Speaker1: [00:12:33] Beautiful, beautiful little.

Speaker3: [00:12:34] Girl. So. That’s what I’m saying. The number one.

Speaker1: [00:12:40] Thing that you want to avoid from here, this moment forward is treating your love.

Speaker3: [00:12:46] Life like it doesn’t matter.

Speaker1: [00:12:47] That much.

Speaker3: [00:12:49] Treating it kind of like an afterthought. Giving a little bit of attention through a dating app. Swipe left or swipe right?

Speaker1: [00:12:53] A date here, a date there, but not really shifting the inner you, the internal you in how you choose men and your thought process. If you don’t do that, you go you’re and I say this respectfully, but you’re doomed to repeat the patterns that have gotten you, the results that have you being single at whatever age you are right now.

Speaker3: [00:13:20] And something’s going to have to something is going.

Speaker1: [00:13:23] To have to radically change in your thought process in order for you to choose.

Speaker3: [00:13:29] A better man, in.

Speaker1: [00:13:30] Order for you to.

Speaker3: [00:13:30] Recognize a better man when you.

Speaker1: [00:13:32] See him. In order for you to know how good quality men show up so that you can actually show up in the world and how they treat you and how they don’t treat you and know how to choose them. So if you’re in the place where you are really ready to. To stop treating your love life as if it’s slightly important, but. But making it as important as your career.

Speaker3: [00:14:05] And as your education. I’m going to invite you to.

Speaker1: [00:14:10] Get on the love breakthrough call with me. And this love breakthrough call is where you can have your first major breakthrough. It is a breakthrough call for a reason.

Speaker3: [00:14:20] I’m going to you and I are going to talk.

Speaker1: [00:14:22] It’ll be anywhere from.

Speaker3: [00:14:23] 60 to 90 minutes.

Speaker1: [00:14:25] And we’re going to find out what’s not working in your love life and what you can do to shift it quickly.

Speaker3: [00:14:30] But it’s a.

Speaker1: [00:14:31] Commitment on your part. It has to be important enough for you.

Speaker3: [00:14:35] And if that’s you, if it’s important.

Speaker1: [00:14:37] Enough, if you’re really, really, really, really ready to make it as important as college was. You can reach out to me here. You can pm me here on Facebook. We’ll have a little.

Speaker3: [00:14:48] Chat in Facebook Messenger and.

Speaker1: [00:14:51] We’ll decide if you want to go forward and get on this love breakthrough, call with me. It’s free.

Speaker3: [00:14:55] But it’s not. It doesn’t cost you nothing.

Speaker1: [00:14:58] It costs you your energy. It costs you your courage.

Speaker3: [00:15:02] To say, you know what.

Speaker1: [00:15:03] Universe? You know what, God.

Speaker3: [00:15:05] This matters so much.

Speaker1: [00:15:06] To me that I’m going to do this.

Speaker3: [00:15:08] I’m going to get on this phone call.

Speaker1: [00:15:10] And I’m going to be open. I’m going to tell Laura what’s really going on in my heart of hearts, and then we’re going to see what happens.

Speaker3: [00:15:20] So that’s my invitation to you.

Speaker1: [00:15:22] We’ll have a chat on a breakthrough call. You’ll have you’ll have a breakthrough and we’ll go from there.

Speaker3: [00:15:27] All right. So thanks for joining me today and I will talk to you soon.

Speaker1: [00:15:32] Thanks for tuning in to today’s episode. If you’re a single professional woman who wants your success in your love life to match your success in your career or business, and you’re looking to get crystal clear right now about why Truelove just hasn’t been knocking on your door and and what you can do about it. You’re going to want a book, a love breakthrough clarity call right now with one of our love breakthrough specialists. She’ll get on the phone or zoom call with you one on one to assess exactly what’s been holding you back and love what it is you really want and how to get there as quickly as possible. By the end of this compassionate and professional assessment, you’ll finally have clarity plus an immediately actionable path forward. So just go to single to soulmate dot com forward slash call to book a call that’s single to soulmate dot com forward slash call for a free love breakthrough call. That’s for you. If you’re a single professional woman who is as serious about your love life right now as you’ve been about getting your degree or your career or business success. And if you’re ready to finally have some clarity and have a breakthrough in your love life right now, this is perfect for you. Again, that’s single soulmate dot com forward slash call to book your life changing one on one.

Speaker3: [00:16:47] Assessment call.

Speaker1: [00:16:47] Right away.

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