Dating has changed A LOT! It’s not even close to the way it was in your parents time. It’s become very challenging to navigate, but that doesn’t mean there is no hope.

So how should you be dating in 2022? I’ve put together a list of do’s and don’t for you to do it successfully.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

– Why dating is so different today

– A list of do’s and don’t for dating in this era

– What you can expect to happen when you use this list

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to single The Soulmate.

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Speaker1: [00:00:17] Hi there. This is Laura Fernandez, and I am coming at you live from my office in Scottsdale, Arizona. And I’m going to be talking to you about the do’s and don’ts of dating and 2022. So dating in 2022. Problem is, it’s not your grandma’s dating situation. It’s not your mom’s dating situation. It’s not like your parents, like when they were single and also your grandparents when they were single and looking for love and ready to find the love of their life. It was a whole different world back then, so your parents simply could not have prepared you for dating in 2022 with all of the apps that you have to choose from. I mean, it’s like information overload, isn’t it? Like, do I do bumble, do I do hinge, do I do match? Do I do eHarmony? Do I do all of them? Do I do none of them. You know, all of these all of these decisions that you have to make about what to choose and what not to choose, and all of these things you have to cut out, you know, or to focus on you don’t even know. It’s very confusing now. It was way more simple back when your parents and your grandparents were single and ready to ready to mingle, ready to not just mingle, but to find marriage, to find true love, marriage and family. And so what’s needed now in 2022 is a whole new approach to dating. So here’s the thing.

Speaker1: [00:01:55] If you want to attract in an intentional way true love, marriage and family, how whatever family looks like for you, family could be. You know, your your kids are intertwining. You know, you’re bringing both kids from different marriages into the family. It can mean your fur babies. It can mean you create you have babies together, whatever family means for you. So but if you want that, if you want true love, marriage and family and I’m assuming if you’re watching this or listening to this that you do, you’re not going to want to rely on luck. So this is important. So because things were simpler back then, back in the day with not so many, not as so many decisions and not so many choices that you had to make things. Things people got a little luckier and there were just different ways that people connected. That just doesn’t really happen anymore or not very often, I should say. So you have also you have a culture that doesn’t really, really support. Healthy marriage, long lasting marriage. It’s kind of like there’s a throwaway culture here. And so you have to understand if you’re the kind of woman that really deeply wants. You know, you you’re more like kind of most, I could say traditional, right? You want that marriage. You want that ring on your finger. You want to walk down the aisle. You want to be with one person, one man for the rest of your life. You know, the culture that you’re living in does not support that.

Speaker1: [00:03:39] And so you’re going to need to number one, you’re going to need to be kind of like a rebel. You’re going to need to kind of rebel against the cultural narrative. It’s out there and you’re not going to want to rely on luck. It takes way more intention these days to attract a good, solid relationship than it has ever taken before in the history of man. So I want to share with you three do’s and three don’ts to dating in 2022. So let’s start with the don’ts and then we’ll end off with the positive about what to do. So the first don’t is don’t use superficial dating tips and texting tips tricks, not tips tricks. So tips and tricks are generally very superficial. They’re externally focused. They’re not internally focused. So don’t use them, that is. They’re not really the thing that’s going to long term. Shit, like tip the needle in your favor. It’s not going to in any way change that dial in your dating life. It’s just going to maybe, maybe if you’re lucky, you’ll get a, you know, a guy who is, you know, interested enough and that he’ll go out on a date with you. Maybe, maybe. But that that really is surface level stuff. And the thing is, is that it makes it makes it’s kind of fooling yourself into thinking that that is what’s going to be the thing that changes everything.

Speaker1: [00:05:11] When if your whole approach in dating and mating and relating and you don’t understand men and you don’t really understand yourself at a deeper level, you’re not really radiating confidence. And, and, you know. Self love. In self-compassion, then those superficial dating tips and tricks, it’s just not it’s not going to end well, let’s just put it that way. Sure, you can find a man, but getting a man’s attention and keeping his attention are two different things. So don’t use superficial dating tips and texting tricks thinking that that is going to be your answer. Number two, don’t use dating apps. Now bear with me here. Don’t use. Dating apps if you don’t know what you’re doing, if they’re frustrating you, if you’re feeling overwhelmed by them, or every time you get on a dating app and you get depressed or you get overwhelmed or you get annoyed, then you don’t know how to do it right. Dating online can be a lot of fun. It can be a joy. My clients experience this all the time when they’re following our steps and our our formula and our process. But if you don’t know how to do it right, it is going to be frustrating. It is going to wear you out and make you actually have what we call dating reluctance. So don’t don’t use them if you don’t know what you’re doing. Number three, don’t date until your picker. That’s your picker. I love that word. How you choose men, what we call your decision making framework.

Speaker1: [00:07:04] Like how you decide whether or not to give a man your phone number, whether or not to then go out on a first date, your decision making, your thinking process, how you decide to go out on the next day, how you decide to get into a relationship with a man, how you decide to sleep with him. How do you how you decide to commit to him, how you decide to say yes when he asks you to marry you. That’s your thinking process. That’s there’s a framework of decision making. There’s a way you’re picking men. That’s broken. And you’re a good person. I’m not saying anything against you. It’s just, again, how you’re looking at men and how you’re interacting with them and then how you’re choosing them and choosing whether to how to go to the next level from phone number to date to next date to next date to getting in a relationship to marriage and sleeping with and them and all of those kinds of things. That’s how you’re that’s your picker. And you want to until your picker is fixed, you want to do what we call a man fast. So a fasting from dating because all dating does if your picker is the same that it’s always been. You’re going to keep getting the same results. And I know that’s hard truth, but somebody needs to tell you that because how you’re choosing, how you’re looking at the world, it’s kind of like you’re looking through certain lens, through certain glasses that is determining how you’re deciding which man, which man to date, which man to not date or to not date at all, because you don’t know what you’re doing.

Speaker1: [00:08:46] And again, you’re a good person. You’re smart. You’re educated. You. You’re, you’ve. Got that next level degree or you you know, you’ve moved up in your career. You have a lot of things to be proud of, but your picker is not working because all you have to do is look at the evidence. And that’s again, it’s just tough truth that needs to be said. So do a manifest. Don’t date until your picker is fixed and you have a solid decision making framework from which to choose men. Okay, so those are the three don’ts of dating in 2022. So. Again remember dating in 2022? It requires a more sophisticated approach than what our parents, grandparents, great grandparents had to go through back then. It was way more simpler times then. The culture was not anti marriage and anti family as it is now. So the three do’s of dating in 2022. So you want to focus. So instead of the superficial dating tips and tricks, texting trip tricks and stuff. First you really want to focus on your own. You want focused personal growth. You want to focus on how to up level your radiance. Like that’s the that’s kind of like we get a little bit woo woo here, so hang in there with me but that’s that kind of like.

Speaker1: [00:10:12] That’s your glow. That’s like the energy that you’re reading out, radiating out into the world. You want to focus on up leveling your radiance. And that’s not going to get a facial, though. I’m not against a good facial, but that’s really it’s an internal radiance that beams out from you. And you want to focus on how to up level your confidence in yourself and up leveling your attractor factor. So that’s the energy. That’s the that’s a that’s the how you attract men, how you attract good things to your life. You want to up level that and that’s an inside job. So it has nothing to do with, like I said, facials, it has nothing to do with massages and and pedicures and getting a new haircut and changing your lipstick. Those are all fun things, but those are external things. And external things will only get you externally minded men. So you really want to focus on the internal if you want a man to love and commit to you and really stuff up for you and put that ring on your finger, you’re going to want to focus on the inside. That’s the internal work. That’s the kind of work that we do with our clients first before we support them in how to get out there, specifically in using our process to date. So that’s number two or number one.

Speaker1: [00:11:41] Number two is you want to learn how to date on the dating apps and how to date in real life. So those are two skill sets that you want to foster. This way you don’t wear yourself out, you know, dating tons of men or getting yourself so worn out from dating dating. You know, how to date in real life and how to date online are two different things. There’s two different approaches, and you need to know how to do that and to balance the two right so that you’re not wearing yourself out and overwhelming yourself out and getting to the point where you suffer from dating reluctance, where you just don’t want to frickin get out there anymore, where you just start in that energy of like, I just, I just can’t open the app anymore. That is an energy that that is a block to quality men and it is a welcome mat to low quality scammers and ghost ers and guys who just want one thing. So you really want to learn how to date right, date right online and date right in real life, how to do that. So it’s super important, but it starts. Remember what I’m saying? It starts with your focused internal personal growth. And when I say focused, I don’t mean general personal growth. I think personal growth is wonderful. Personal development is wonderful, but it’s too general for what you’re wanting. If you’re wanting to attract intentionally true love, marriage and family, you need to be really focused in this area about dating, mating and relating, learning about yourself, growing yourself, getting yourself out of your comfort zone.

Speaker1: [00:13:25] This is super important because your comfort zone is the life you’re living right now. Right? So you want that focus, personal growth on on on relationships, on learning about men learning like really up leveling and up leveling your decision making framework your picker fixing that picker really want to focus on that. That’s more focused personal growth rather than general meditation. Retreats and personal growth things. Those are great and those are wonderful, but nothing like focused personal growth is going to get you what you want, which is making 2022 your year for love, right. So we’ve still like we’re at right now at the when I’m recording this, we’re at the end of May and so we’ve got what we’re we’re now in we’re halfway through we’re almost halfway through the year. So you still got time but you really want to focus in that’s that focus personal growth. I talked to you about number two. You want to learn how to date on the apps and how to date in real life so you don’t have to wear yourself out dating those tons and tons of guys or get yourself so overwhelmed and worn out that you actually start to hate dating. You don’t look forward to it, you avoid it, and then you’re suffering from what we call dating reluctance. So that’s number two, then number three.

Speaker1: [00:14:54] And finally the third. Do you want to learn? You want to become that student of love. That’s that focus, personal growth. So you learn how marriage minded men think, learn how they think, learn how they show up in the world. You don’t want to. I’m going to go into another don’t here. You don’t want to focus on learning how cheaters and liars think. Right? You want to focus on how marriage minded, commitment minded quality men who’ve got their shit together, how they think and how they project themselves in the world. And it’s not what you think. So you want to fix your picker so that all you start to see the lens through which you look at through life. You see quality men everywhere. That is crucial. That is crucial. So those are the three dudes. Dos och. So. I hope that’s been helpful for you. Those are the three do’s and the three don’ts of dating in 2022. Remember, it is a different world out there. It is a whole different world. The dating the dating dating world is is unique and it is the culture is not supporting you in finding your husband. And so you’re going to have to rebel against what you see your single friends doing and you’re going to have to take a whole new approach or you’re going to keep getting what you’ve been getting. All right. So thanks for joining me today and I’ll look forward to connecting with you soon. Bye bye.

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