Let’s be real… Dating apps are a nightmare! You’re trying to find love in a sea of men that you’d rather avoid.

Here’s the thing though- Johnny and I met online, and we’re madly in love 21 years later. So the problem ISN’T online dating. Let’s talk about what the problem IS and how to fix it.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

– Why dating apps SUCK

– What to watch out for when dating online

– A game plan for you to attract your soulmate

READY TO CHANGE YOUR LOVE LIFE FOR THE BETTER, FOREVER?

If you’re ready for the first step towards major transformation & true love at last, head over to https://singletosoulmate.com/call to book a FREE 1-on-1 call with Lara herself. She’ll assess exactly what’s been holding you back in love, how to get what you REALLY want, and if or how we can help you get it as quickly as possible.

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to single The Soulmate.

Speaker2: [00:00:06] Podcast where we help you, the love warrior or love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate. Living the life of your dreams.

Speaker1: [00:00:18] Hi there. This is Laura Fernandez, and I’m going to go over why dating apps are a waste of time. They’re a waste of time. So I mean, I have so many women. Tell me how scary and exhausting and deflating online dating is these days. I mean, I hear all kinds of nightmare scenarios like. Catfishing or scamming or ghosting or. Guys are really only up for hookups, you know what I mean? Also getting on an online dating app can make you feel awful about yourself. Have you noticed that like you either get a lot of attention or no attention, and if you get a lot of attention, maybe you still don’t get a lot of dates. Or if you get no attention, then there’s still just a few dates. But or maybe you’re getting lots of dates. Maybe you’re lucky enough to get a lot of dates, but none of them are turning out to be your Mr. Right. And one thing a lot of our clients are telling us is they can be these these dating apps can be exhausting after a while because because they’re apps you’re on 24 seven, you could be dating 24 seven, you could be meeting men all the time. And that can make you feel disposable. It can make you feel not special. Actually, I don’t know if you know this, but many of the apps are actually designed.

Speaker1: [00:01:45] I mean, like the platforms themselves, the algorithms themselves. They’re designed to have you engage with the app, not necessarily helping you find love, not necessarily built to have you get off the app. Have you noticed that? And if you’re sensitive to rejection or you get easily overwhelmed by having to make decisions and choices, online dating is really going to bring you down. Now, all of that being said, dating apps also give you a large pool of men to look at, though. They actually give you a large lots of choices. You can actually zone in on your area of interest with dating apps. You can make a lot of connections. You can get dates easily from the comfort of your own home. There’s a lot of benefits to dating online. I mean, Johnny and I met online 22 years ago, almost 22 years ago. So obviously I’m a big fan of them. I’m a big fan of dating apps. We coach our clients on it. But if you don’t have a solid game plan on how to date online confidently, like if you don’t know how to date, so you never feel overwhelmed, you never get exhausted. And and if you don’t know how to date in a way that, well, you know how to make better decisions and you’re your picker, how you pick men, how you choose men is fixed.

Speaker1: [00:03:12] Well, then online dating is absolutely a waste of your time. Absolutely. It’s going to be very draining for you. It’s going to waste years of your precious prime years looking for love. So you need to have a solid decision making framework fixing your picker in terms of how you’re choosing men. And you need to have a game plan on how to do it, how to stand on line. So in order to date online successfully, you need to know how to set up your profile so that you stand out from the other women while you’re being authentically yourself and honest. Of course, you also need to know exactly how to decide whether a man is even worth your time or not. Is he worth you giving your phone number to? Is he worth you going out on a first date? Is he worth you going out on a second date or a third date? This way you’re avoiding wasting your precious time and just. You know what I’m talking about? Wasting your time on low quality men. And so we call that having a solid decision making framework, or it’s almost like a checklist to help you quickly and powerfully decide who to spend more time on and who you should actually stop wasting your time with.

Speaker1: [00:04:25] So a lot of women will tell me at this point, oh, but Laura, I know already the red flags. That’s obvious. And here’s what I say. And I say it to those who say that and that may be you. I say this respectfully, but maybe you do know the red flags and maybe you don’t look at the evidence. Look at the evidence. So there are many men out there who show up with no clear red flags. They actually show up pretty good, but they have way more what we call subtle yellow alerts. You need to learn what those are and how to discern them quickly so you’re not wasting any more time. So before you learn a solid decision making process, you need to have a a a clear and and time tested game plan for dating, mating and relating online. This is crucial. Just throwing yourself on there obviously isn’t working. So Jonny and I recently created a brand new masterclass where we cover the five vital shifts that our clients have to make all of our clients make to take them from single to soulmate. And so these are the foundational shifts that are necessary, and we cover them thoroughly in this brief masterclass.

Speaker1: [00:05:43] Now it’s a 45 minute masterclass, and it’s the result of our over 20 years of research and over 17 years of coaching single professional women to lasting love. And if you’re ready, if you’re at a point where you’re like, you know, this dating online, I’ve been trying, it’s not working. I don’t have a decision making framework. I don’t have a solid game plan. The evidence is there, and you’re really ready to make 2022 your year for love so that by this time next year you’re planning your wedding and you’re really wanting to start dating with the end in mind and you’re really prioritizing love. This year, I’m going to invite you to message me. Talk to me, send me a message. Ask me for the link to a masterclass. We’ll have a little chat back and forth and then I’ll send you that link. It’s a free masterclass. We’ve put a lot of time and energy and effort into it. Everybody watched it says they find it super valuable. So I invite you to reach out to me here. We’ll go over it, talk about it, and I’ll send you that link. All right. So thanks for joining me today. I look forward to connecting with you soon. And until next time, bye bye.

Speaker2: [00:07:04] Thanks for tuning in to today’s episode. Hey, if you’re looking to make a major leap forward in going from single to soulmate, be sure to check out our free masterclass to learn the five step strategy our clients use to meet and marry the man of their dreams without dumbing themselves down or using manipulative lines. Just go to single soulmate dot com forward slash learn that single to soulmate dot com forward slash learn for free Masterclass on how to unlock the love you deserve and life of your dreams. Also, if you like this podcast, be sure to hit the subscribe button and maybe even leave us a review. Let us know what you love or just even like about the podcast. Because hey, when you leave us a quick and honest review that helps other awesome women, just like you discover this podcast and helps them learn, live and love better, just like you’re learning right now. So it’s a little bit of pay it forward, subscribe and leave us a review. Thanks so much.

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Hope you enjoyed this episode of Single to Soulmate! If you want to learn more about Johnny and Lara or want to start your own soulmate journey, go to johnnyandlara.com.