Yes, really! But it’s not what you might think. Your Project Management Self (PMS) is KILLING your love life and you haven’t even noticed it! But what IS your Project Management Self and how is it hurting your love life so badly? Listen to this episode and find out about this, and more importantly, what to do about it NOW to get your love life back on track.

In this episode you’ll learn:

– How PMS kills your love life

– How to stop PMS from affecting you

– What happens when you get over this hurdle

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to single The Soulmate Podcast where we help you, the love warrior or love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate. Living the life of your dreams. Pms is hurting your love life. Say what? What the fuck did this do? Just say. Yeah, let’s talk about that. All right, now, first of all, let’s get this straight. When I’m talking about PMS, I’m not actually talking about premenstrual syndrome. I’m talking about another PMS that is actually not natural. It’s been learned. It’s been taught, it’s been reinforced. It’s being reinforced right now. And it’s killing your love life. I’m talking about your project manager yourself. What’s your project manager self? It’s the part of you that you get rewarded for at work. It’s the part of you that you actually learned in school and graduate school, in med school and law school or whatever, you know, type of advanced degree you have. It’s the project manager self that has you managing projects at work as an architect, as a whatever, a project manager, where you run things. You’re in charge. You’re very direct. You plan way ahead. You look at the pitfalls, the problems, the failure points. You fix things in advance. You focus on the outcome. You get shit done. That’s your project manager. Self is the part of you that has gotten you raises and promotions. It’s the part of you that has you sit in a room with men and be able to hold your own. It’s the part of you that you get rewarded for at work.

Speaker1: [00:01:46] But is that really helping you in your love life? Well, let’s talk about that. You see, you might have heard, if you’re listening to our podcast for a while, that you as a woman are the relationship established year and navigator. So when women don’t really understand that first of all you are that whether you’ve ever heard those titles before, whether you embrace that and or not, whether you say yes, I am or no I’m not, it doesn’t matter. That’s what you are. The relationship established, you’re a navigator. As you go, so goes the relationship. And of course it takes two to tango. But you are actually establishing the relationship, establishing the masculine feminine dynamics, and you are navigating it. But we’re talking about establishing it and navigating it from a feminine standpoint, from a feminine outlook, from a feminine approach. And most professional, high powered, ambitious, awesome women that we work with, they’re used to establishing, navigating, directing and project managing from a masculine standpoint because that’s what you’re getting reinforced for at work. That’s what you practice eight, ten, 12 hours a day. But when we talk about being the relationship, establishing and navigator and actually being successful at a role that you have, whether you like it, want it, understand it or not. We’re talking about a whole new way to establish and navigate, not the masculine way, the feminine way with energy, with heart, with conscious awareness of your true power as a woman, with the words that you choose, even the tone of voice and your movement.

Speaker1: [00:03:19] Did you know that how you move and what you say and how you say it gives unconscious cues to men about who you are, your partnership potential, and who he is in your life. Yeah, that’s the reality of the masculine feminine dynamics. I’m talking about basic biology, not intellectual, like intellect or ideology, not what he or you should feel or do, or I’m talking about what these men are hardwired to feel and do. I’m talking about what you are hardwired to feel and do. I’m talking about inside what really makes your heart flutter. What makes your knees quiver? What makes you want to get married, have babies and snuggle in bed forever feeling safe in that piece and enjoy. It’s not project manager you. It’s your feminine radiance. It’s your feminine radiance. It’s your courage to express your real desires. It’s your courage to express your real hopes and dreams. It’s your courage to even get in touch with what are your real hopes and dreams. We have so many women come to us and and almost like whisper in our ear, I actually want to get married. Actually want to have babies. I actually want to have the man, like, be a man, you know, kind of step up. Stand up. Lead. Give me a chance to relax. But they feel almost afraid to say that because it doesn’t match up with their with their what they’ve been told they should want, what they’ve been told. He should do all of that.

Speaker1: [00:05:13] So you see the the PMS, this killing your relationship is that project manager self who thinks she knows everything. Who thinks she has to know everything? And you think who thinks she’s in charge of everything? Listen, if you recognise that your project manager self is strangling the life out of your relationships but you don’t know how. If you find that your project manager self is getting you all kinds of accolades, recognition and and rewards at work, but somehow your love life is not matching up to that. Like you’re not getting recognition awards and men beating down your door and fighting over you. I’m talking about men that you want. Not the schlubs, not the guys who where you’re like, Whatever. I can’t even get excited to get out of bed for for this. I’m not talking about those guys. I’m talking about the man who makes your knees go weak. I’m talking about the man who makes you say, I want to have his babies. I’m talking about the man who you are proud to say, this is my boyfriend, this is my fiance. This is my husband. I’m talking about that kind of man. I’m talking about the man who you don’t have to coach, guide, teach, encourage to step up or anything like that. That man, he doesn’t want your PMS. He doesn’t want your project manager self. He wants your feminine radiance. He wants the courage for you. He wants your courage to live your life. He wants your courage to be honest. And that man, maybe a man that you don’t even know how to attract, how to speak to, how to connect with, how to draw him to you without games, manipulation or anything like that.

Speaker1: [00:07:01] If you’re really ready to look at leaving that project manager self behind and actually learn how to be feminine, radiant, and have the courage to live your life if you’re in the place where you’re sick and tired of seeing good guys practically run the other way when you come and nothing but the schlubs come to you. If you’re sick and tired of looking around and seeing nothing but schlubs and wondering how are these other women finding these great guys? And I feel like they’re hiding from me. And it may be time for you to have a breakthrough. It may be time for you to step up and claim a new future for yourself. It may be time to have a deep dive professional exploration into what is going on with your love life. What is actually stopping you, not what’s stopping your friend down the street. The people on the that you see on The View or whatever I’m talking about. What is stopping you from getting the love that you want? What is stopping you from getting the life that you want? What is stopping you from getting out of this cycle that you’re in? And then what do you really want? Not what you say you want, what do you really want? And then developing a game plan for getting there as quickly as possible.

Speaker1: [00:08:26] That’s going to be a breakthrough because you’ve tried a bunch of other stuff, you tried a whole bunch of stuff. You’ve tried waiting, you tried not dating, you tried books, you tried blogs, all that. You tried a bunch of stuff. But it may be time for a breakthrough for you. And if that’s you and you’re ready for a breakthrough, like I’m seriously saying, you’re ready for a breakthrough. And you are a single professional woman who’s ready to leave her singleness behind, ready to do something about this right now. Not someday, not when the weather is better or the project clears up at work. You finish this thing, you get this promotion, you buy this house, you pay off this debt, you buy this new car, you take this. No, I’m talking about. You’re ready to make a breakthrough now. You’re ready to turn things around now. Then you’re going to want to get on a breakthrough call. So what you do is go to single soulmate dot com forward slash call. Pick a appointment slot for about 45 minutes to an hour and a half call where you’re going to have Laura sit down with you one on one, totally free and go over what’s stopping you, what you want, and how you can get there as quickly as possible. Maybe we can help you with that. Maybe we can’t. But you’re not going to know unless you get on the phone. You’re going to need to fill out an application after you book a book, your appointment slot, and you’re going to need to show up, not as your project manager yourself.

Speaker1: [00:09:57] You’re going to need to show up as someone who’s recognizes that whatever you’re doing isn’t working and you’re ready for something new. That’s all you got to do. Be ready for something new. So again, go to single soulmate dot com forward slash call book your love breakthrough call today and show up ready for something new. Thanks for joining us and single soulmate and talk to you next time. Thanks for tuning in to today’s episode. Hey, if you’re looking to make a major leap forward in going from single to soulmate, be sure to check out our free masterclass to learn the five step strategy our clients use to meet and marry the man of their dreams without dumbing themselves down or using manipulative lines. Just go to single to soulmate dot com forward slash learn that single or soulmate dot com forward slash learn for free. Masterclass on how to unlock the love you deserve and a life of your dreams. Also, if you like this podcast, be sure to hit the subscribe button and maybe even leave us a review. Let us know what you love or just even like about the podcast. Because hey, when you leave us a quick and honest review that helps other awesome women, just like you discover this podcast and helps them learn, live and love better, just like you’re learning right now. So it’s a little bit of pay it forward, subscribe and leave us a review. Thanks so much.

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