Where are you in your life? Are you in a place that you truly love or a place where the OLD you wanted to be, but not the NEW you? Life changes, and even after all you’ve been through, you can still change for the better. But how to start? Let’s talk about that.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

– How your past does NOT have to be your present

– How to move on from your old choices

– What to focus on moving forward

READY TO CHANGE YOUR LOVE LIFE FOR THE BETTER, FOREVER?

If you’re ready for the first step towards major transformation & true love at last, head over to https://singletosoulmate.com/call to book a FREE 1-on-1 call with Lara herself. She’ll assess exactly what’s been holding you back in love, how to get what you REALLY want, and if or how we can help you get it as quickly as possible.

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to single The Soulmate Podcast where we help you, the love warrior or love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate. Living the life of your dreams. On the last episode we talked about What do you really want? And I want to talk today about the choices that we make and the stories that we make up about those choices. So let’s talk about that. So when we talked in the last episode about what do you really want? We explored the choices that you’re making. If you haven’t listened to the last episode, go ahead and stop this one right now. Go back and listen to that one first, because then this one will make a lot more sense. So when we look at the choices that we have made in the last year, five years, ten years, 20 years that have landed us in the life that we have, not that life is terrible now. Life is great. You had a career. You got money, credit, house, whatever car, you know, all kinds of things. Maybe you have a child, children. So you’ve made you’ve made choices, right? And again, it’s not that life is total crap or anything like that. Life is actually really good, but is it the life that you really want? And so when when we ask this question, sometimes people have a tendency to beat themselves up about the choices that they’ve made, or they decide to blame someone else for the life that they have, or they decide to complain about, you know, how hard it is and stuff like that.

Speaker1: [00:01:45] And, you know, looking at those things, it’s not that someone else may not have had played a part. You know, your ex may not. It may. I mean, let me say this a little bit better. It may be absolutely true that your ex turned out to be a big jerk or a whacko or something like that. At the same time, that’s not going to help us very much, because the truth is, you chose that man. You wanted to be with that man, right? And now does it happen sometimes if someone totally flips. Absolutely. And becomes someone else and like it’s like an alien hijack their brain? Absolutely. That totally happens. That happens a lot more rare than what people give credit for. What really happens most of the time is that is that you ignored the red flags, the yellow alerts. You ignored that intuition inside of you that says something isn’t right here, something is a little off. Why does that happen? Why do we make choices where we’re ignoring ourselves? Now, also, I said that you may be justifying, well, because of this that thing or that thing or something happening in the society, the culture of the world, the economy, the government’s, my job, etc., and all that stuff may be true.

Speaker1: [00:03:05] And yet and still you make the choices that you made. And sometimes we we find that a lot of times people are beating themselves up over the choices. Oh, I was so stupid, you know, stuff like that. And, and you know what? None of that is really going to be that helpful because the truth is, yes, you made that choice, but that doesn’t make you stupid or wrong or even bad or anything like that. It made you a person who was doing the best they could with what they had. Now, the question is, when you want to do better, it’s got to be more than knowing better. Because most of the time when we reflect back on the choices that we made that really weren’t so great for us, didn’t turn out so great for us, and we kind of knew it a little bit. A lot of times we reflect back and we go, Oh, but I knew better. Yeah, because knowing knowledge is simply not enough. And that is a critical distinction that is especially important in today’s information age, where there is a glut of information, there is an avalanche of information, there is that term information overload. So it cannot be that if you just knew better, then you would do better.

Speaker1: [00:04:23] That may have been true a hundred years ago when someone was like, Hey, I got this thing, it’s called a book and it’s got information in it that you’ve never seen before, stuff you’ve never heard about before. But you’ve heard that you have to make better choices. You’ve heard that you have to love yourself. You’ve heard that you have to be able to tell the difference between a high quality man and a jerk. You’ve heard all of that stuff. Maybe you’re out there saying, Oh, I got the solution. I’m going to use Truth Finder and, you know, search for a guy and make sure he knows who he is and stuff like that. None of that is the real answer because all of that is outside of yourself. This is about loving yourself enough to allow yourself to transform. In our society, we in our like society, what we find is that people say they want everything to be different, but then they want everything to be the same, right? They want to feel like I’m the same person I was when I was in high school. Like, as if that’s some kind of badge of honor. I’m not saying you want to be fake or, you know, be somebody else or something like that. But really, do you want to be the same person you were ten years ago, 20 years ago? Do you really want to be the same person that you were 30 years ago? Well, then, what do you been doing? Have you not been growing? So we want to be us at our core, but a new person, a new version in our community.

Speaker1: [00:05:44] We call that old you and Love Warrior You. Our clients call themselves and we call them Love Warriors. Because you have been through the fire, you’ve struggled, you’ve fallen down, but you’re not giving up. And so the choices that you make are not about how to intellectually know better. It’s about how to allow yourself to love yourself enough to step into a new you. This is what we help our clients do, step by step by hand. So, like, how do you love yourself? You know, you’ve got to love yourself. You’ve seen the memes, you’ve seen the posters. You’ve probably got shirts, journals, mugs, whatever. But how exactly do you do that on a day to day basis, on a monday? How do you love yourself in a way that when you wake up on Tuesday, you feel it? That’s what we help women do step by step, day by day. Do that. Why is that necessary? Because if you don’t have turn by turn directions with the information overload that we have, we’re all going to get lost. I don’t know about you, but if it wasn’t for turn by turn directions, I’d have a hard time finding my home, my bank, my office, whatever, because there’s so much other stuff on our minds.

Speaker1: [00:07:05] There’s so much other information out there, so. Cut yourself some slack. If you made some choices that you reflect on now and you go, That was a bad choice. I wasn’t loving myself. I knew better, but I didn’t do better. Then recognizing this day and age. I’m recording this in 2022. This information overload, this glut of information. The answer cannot be more information. It’s turn by turn directions. It’s someone mentoring you, coaching you, taking you by the hand and showing you exactly how to like. I talked about loving yourself. Well, how is it that you make a better choice in men? How is it that you honor that intuition step by step? You need new decision making frameworks. You need new tools, new practices on a day to day basis that help you to end up making better choices that a year from now, five years from now, ten years from now, you will thank yourself for your kids. Your future kids will thank you for your sweetheart. Your husband will thank you for and you’ll thank yourself for. And it all starts with loving yourself enough to recognize that, hey, either the best you could with what you knew, with what you had, with who you had around you.

Speaker1: [00:08:27] But today’s a new day. An opportunity for something different. An opportunity for you to go from single to soulmate doesn’t happen overnight, but what you can do is change the direction that you’re going overnight with a new decision. So if you are ready to make a new decision, if you’re ready to go in a new direction, if you’re ready to leave the old you behind, I want to encourage you to get on a love breakthrough call. Get on a love breakthrough. Call with Laura and allow yourself. To explore the possibility of stepping into a whole new life. It doesn’t happen overnight, but what does happen overnight is the decision that you’re not going to live like you used to live. You’re not going to be who you used to be. You’re not going to make the choices that you used to make so that your future self can thank you for what you did today. Go to single soulmate dot com forward slash call to book your appointment right now to explore where you’ve been, where you want to go, what’s stopping you from getting there and how to get there as quickly as possible. It all starts with new choices and loving yourself enough to take yourself where you really, really, really want to go. Thanks for joining us and say hello to Soulmate and see you on the next episode.

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