We are NOT into gossip, but we are into learning from any situation that is helpful to you. So in this episode let’s talk about what you can learn from a celebrity’s divorce and how you could fall into a trap that leads you in the same direction when you finally find your soulmate.

 

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

– Common mistakes that could push your soulmate away from you

– How divorce can become inevitable if you say certain things

– What you can do to avoid these mistakes

 

READY TO CHANGE YOUR LOVE LIFE FOR THE BETTER, FOREVER?

If you’re ready for the first step towards major transformation & true love at last, head over to https://singletosoulmate.com/call to book a FREE 1-on-1 call with Lara herself. She’ll assess exactly what’s been holding you back in love, how to get what you REALLY want, and if or how we can help you get it as quickly as possible.

 

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and.

Speaker2: [00:00:04] Welcome to single The Soulmate.

Speaker3: [00:00:06] Podcast where we help you, the love warrior or love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate. Living the life of your dreams.

Speaker1: [00:00:18] Hi there. This is Laura Fernandez. I’m coming at you live. It is Wednesday, July 13th. And I wanted to come in and talk to you about what the heck do quality men want? What do they want from us women. Right. Like this is a question that so many clients of mine that we call them love warriors. Our clients are love warriors. So Warriors for love. And so many clients ask me that question, what the heck do men want anyway? Doesn’t doesn’t even they don’t even make any sense. Like, it just isn’t what they want. They want me to be subservient.

Speaker2: [00:00:59] They want me to be.

Speaker1: [00:01:00] Like this hot babe, boss, babe.

Speaker2: [00:01:03] Do they want me to be bitchy to them? They want me to be kind.

Speaker1: [00:01:07] Do they want what do they want? What does the man want from what is equality, quality, marriage minded man want?

Speaker2: [00:01:12] And you if you’re here, you are probably having some.

Speaker1: [00:01:15] Version of that question yourself. Right. So I want to jump in real quick and jump in and dive into this subject, because I think it’s super important and it’s something that we see so much. What do quality men want?

Speaker2: [00:01:29] So. Here’s the.

Speaker1: [00:01:31] Thing. And what I see is that so many women. They not only ask that.

Speaker2: [00:01:38] Question.

Speaker1: [00:01:39] But when it comes.

Speaker2: [00:01:40] To dating and mating and relating.

Speaker1: [00:01:43] They actually start to kind of twist themselves into a pretzel, you know, to kind of please the man.

Speaker2: [00:01:50] That they’re dating. They they they.

Speaker1: [00:01:53] Focus on a lot of the wrong things. And I’m going to give you an example. So when you’re seeing a man.

Speaker2: [00:02:00] Or you’re dating.

Speaker1: [00:02:01] A guy and let’s say you go out on a.

Speaker2: [00:02:03] First date and then you start asking yourself questions, the date ends.

Speaker1: [00:02:07] Like he thought it was kind of nice. She kind of liked him. And the.

Speaker2: [00:02:11] Questions that you ask.

Speaker1: [00:02:12] Yourself are, wow. I wonder, does he like me? I wonder if he’s. Is he going to ask me out again? Like, what does he think about me? Oh, I hope I didn’t look fat in my jeans on that date.

Speaker2: [00:02:27] Or I hope I didn’t look too old or too young or too fat or too skinny or too white or too black or too whatever.

Speaker1: [00:02:35] You know, like those kind of questions of, what does he think about me? And so that’s what a lot of women ask themselves.

Speaker2: [00:02:45] And and here’s the thing. Then they.

Speaker1: [00:02:48] Wonder why.

Speaker2: [00:02:50] Men leave.

Speaker1: [00:02:52] Why men, ghost? Why men break up with them.

Speaker2: [00:02:56] Only to to get engaged in three months to.

Speaker1: [00:03:00] Another woman.

Speaker2: [00:03:02] And so here’s the secret and here’s what I really.

Speaker1: [00:03:06] Want you to take in right now. It doesn’t.

Speaker2: [00:03:09] Really frickin.

Speaker1: [00:03:11] Matter what men want. Breathe that in for a moment. It doesn’t.

Speaker2: [00:03:19] Really.

Speaker1: [00:03:19] Frickin matter. If you are focused on the man, if you’re focused on him, on what does he want? Does he like me? Will he ask me out again? What does he think about me?

Speaker2: [00:03:34] You know, all of those all of those things. You are giving your power.

Speaker1: [00:03:40] Away as a woman. And here’s another.

Speaker2: [00:03:45] Little known secret that you may.

Speaker1: [00:03:47] Never have been told. Most likely you haven’t been told or taught or you haven’t had this modeled. You, as the woman, are more.

Speaker2: [00:03:57] Powerful than you think. You’re way more.

Speaker1: [00:04:00] Powerful than anybody has ever told you. Anybody’s ever taught you. Anybody has ever role model for you.

Speaker2: [00:04:05] You have more power in dating, mating, and relationships with men than you. You, you know, you just.

Speaker1: [00:04:12] You haven’t been taught that power, right? Like like.

Speaker2: [00:04:15] Right.

Speaker1: [00:04:15] You weren’t taught this in college or high school, right? I mean, I wasn’t. You weren’t taught how truly powerful that that you are. And you know what else? When I say power.

Speaker2: [00:04:25] I don’t mean like.

Speaker1: [00:04:26] Power over.

Speaker2: [00:04:28] Like you can manipulating.

Speaker1: [00:04:30] Men and that kind of stuff. No, it’s a more subtle.

Speaker2: [00:04:33] Power, but it is a it is a strong power. And it is it’s what we call in our programs. We call you the relationship.

Speaker1: [00:04:40] Established Order and Navigator.

Speaker2: [00:04:42] Because here’s the thing. You’ve spent your.

Speaker1: [00:04:45] Life as a professional woman building on your power professionally, career wise. You have accomplished things. You’ve maybe gotten your higher education, you’ve gotten maybe a master’s.

Speaker2: [00:04:58] Degree or some sort of.

Speaker1: [00:04:59] Doctorate degree or some sort of high level.

Speaker2: [00:05:01] Degree. You’ve worked your way up the career.

Speaker1: [00:05:04] Of the career path.

Speaker2: [00:05:05] And so you spend.

Speaker1: [00:05:06] All of this time really like.

Speaker2: [00:05:11] Owning.

Speaker1: [00:05:12] Your power professionally, but yet when it comes to.

Speaker2: [00:05:15] Dating, you’re giving your power away. You’re ending up with these low quality men, and you’re like even men that maybe.

Speaker1: [00:05:23] You’re not even like liking that much and you’re still asking that question. I wonder if he’s going to ask me out again. I wonder if he likes me and I want to just say this respectfully, but that’s not going to work. Why? Why is that not going to work?

Speaker2: [00:05:38] And here’s another little known secret men.

Speaker1: [00:05:43] A healthy man, a quality man.

Speaker2: [00:05:45] Not just any old schmo on the street.

Speaker1: [00:05:48] A quality man wants to win and he wants to.

Speaker2: [00:05:53] Win in dating.

Speaker1: [00:05:55] And when I say he wants to.

Speaker2: [00:05:56] Win, he wants to be with a.

Speaker1: [00:05:58] Woman.

Speaker2: [00:06:00] Who knows her power, who knows who she.

Speaker1: [00:06:03] Is.

Speaker2: [00:06:04] Who’s strong.

Speaker1: [00:06:05] In.

Speaker2: [00:06:05] Herself. So don’t sell yourself short on your journey to finding love.

Speaker1: [00:06:12] You must not you must not give your power away any more to men if you’re constantly just like giving that power away.

Speaker2: [00:06:21] Do you like me to that kind of energy?

Speaker1: [00:06:24] Will you ask me out again? What should I.

Speaker2: [00:06:26] Do? Maybe giving.

Speaker1: [00:06:29] Poor.

Speaker2: [00:06:30] Boundaries where, you know, he he knows that he.

Speaker1: [00:06:34] Can kind of just kind of, like, get.

Speaker2: [00:06:35] Away with anything with you.

Speaker1: [00:06:38] Then you’re not focusing.

Speaker2: [00:06:40] On really what you want, which is right. Like what you really, deeply.

Speaker1: [00:06:43] Deeply want in your heart of hearts is you want a man.

Speaker2: [00:06:50] Who treats you like a queen, who treats you with respect, who treats you with kindness, who cherishes you, who respects you.

Speaker1: [00:07:00] Right.

Speaker2: [00:07:01] And so if you are if you are.

Speaker1: [00:07:04] Letting your boundaries just be crossed left and right, you’re not standing in your power with him. You’re focused on him only and what he wants and what he likes. Then you are not giving off prize energy.

Speaker2: [00:07:19] Do you see what I’m saying here?

Speaker1: [00:07:20] You are not giving off that queen energy.

Speaker2: [00:07:23] And I’m not saying you have to be bitchy or.

Speaker1: [00:07:25] Egotistical at all. That’s not what I’m talking about here.

Speaker2: [00:07:30] But when you’re when we’re.

Speaker1: [00:07:32] Talking about.

Speaker2: [00:07:32] Prize energy.

Speaker1: [00:07:34] That’s what a quality man wants. He may not have the words for it. He may not know how to.

Speaker2: [00:07:40] Explain it fully. He just.

Speaker1: [00:07:42] Knows something in his gut with a.

Speaker2: [00:07:44] Woman who either treats.

Speaker1: [00:07:45] Herself as a.

Speaker2: [00:07:45] Prize or who doesn’t. So what? What do we do? How do we do this? How do we change this around? Well, this starts with how you treat yourself and how you treat what you want in dating, mating and relationships. How you treat finding.

Speaker1: [00:08:05] The hero of your heart, finding the man of your dreams. How important is that to you?

Speaker2: [00:08:11] Are you really prioritizing it? Do you really, deeply.

Speaker1: [00:08:14] Deeply want it?

Speaker2: [00:08:14] And I’m not saying that you’re not afraid. You’ve been hurt in relationships, right? You’ve been hurt. Your heart has been broken. So maybe you maybe you’re maybe you’re worried.

Speaker1: [00:08:25] About.

Speaker2: [00:08:25] Dating again because you think it’s going to be a repeat of the past. But here’s what the thing.

Speaker1: [00:08:30] Here’s the thing I can tell.

Speaker2: [00:08:31] You. If you don’t change how you treat yourself, how you see yourself, how you show.

Speaker1: [00:08:41] Up in the world. Then you cannot change the kind of men.

Speaker2: [00:08:47] That you attract to you. So it starts with you.

Speaker1: [00:08:53] Number one, seeing yourself as the prize.

Speaker2: [00:08:56] Or being willing to see yourself as a prize. Sometimes it just starts with being willing.

Speaker1: [00:09:01] Treating yourself as a prize, as.

Speaker2: [00:09:03] If your dreams, as if your.

Speaker1: [00:09:06] Desires matter just as much as your career matters.

Speaker2: [00:09:11] And just as much as your your.

Speaker1: [00:09:13] College degree mattered. Like, right. Like. And how do you know that that matter to you invested time.

Speaker2: [00:09:18] Energy.

Speaker1: [00:09:19] Resources and attention on those things, right? That’s how you.

Speaker2: [00:09:24] Know that those things really, really deeply matter to you.

Speaker1: [00:09:27] At a core level.

Speaker2: [00:09:30] So for you.

Speaker1: [00:09:31] I’m going to.

Speaker2: [00:09:32] Invite you to.

Speaker1: [00:09:36] To stop selling yourself short, to stop giving your power away, and to become the prize, become the kind of woman that a quality man will step up for.

Speaker2: [00:09:47] Or put a ring on her finger.

Speaker1: [00:09:49] And will marry and vow to God and everyone.

Speaker2: [00:09:53] That He wants to be with her forever. So start treating yourself as worthy, as.

Speaker1: [00:09:58] Deserving, as lovable.

Speaker2: [00:10:01] And see this dream of yours as important.

Speaker1: [00:10:05] And that starts with actually also like just.

Speaker2: [00:10:07] Claiming that that this is so important to you that you’re taking.

Speaker1: [00:10:12] A stand.

Speaker2: [00:10:12] Right here and right now. So you I’m going to give you an opportunity right.

Speaker1: [00:10:17] Now to take a stand.

Speaker2: [00:10:19] That this is so important that you’re.

Speaker1: [00:10:20] Declaring to God and everybody that this matters.

Speaker2: [00:10:23] To you, that finding.

Speaker1: [00:10:24] The love of your life.

Speaker2: [00:10:26] The hero of your heart, matters to you. Because I know that you’re afraid. I know that you’re afraid. It’s going to be a repeat.

Speaker1: [00:10:32] Of the past, of the.

Speaker2: [00:10:33] Heartbreaks, of the liars, the cheaters, the losers that you may have been.

Speaker1: [00:10:38] With in the past. But at some point, things are going to have to change and you’re going to have to move past.

Speaker2: [00:10:44] Your fear and.

Speaker1: [00:10:45] Realize that that how you’ve been going about this, like your.

Speaker2: [00:10:51] Your whole approach, your.

Speaker1: [00:10:53] Thought process.

Speaker2: [00:10:54] Just really isn’t working for you. Right?

Speaker1: [00:10:56] And I say that with all kinds of kindness. If you would have known better, you would have done better.

Speaker2: [00:11:01] So start.

Speaker1: [00:11:03] Now.

Speaker2: [00:11:04] Today by giving off the prize energy start. If you can’t do it all.

Speaker1: [00:11:09] At once, it’s little by.

Speaker2: [00:11:10] Little. But start to treat your dreams as if they matter. That’s how you step into being the prize. You start to slowly step into being the prize, the queen in your life by treating your dreams of true love, marriage.

Speaker1: [00:11:23] And family as if it matters.

Speaker2: [00:11:26] And so if you are at a point where this is so, so much of a priority, we’re finding the hero of your heart is so much of a priority to you.

Speaker1: [00:11:37] And your life, like just as important as your career or your education once was. I’m going to invite you to get on a.

Speaker2: [00:11:45] Love breakthrough session with me.

Speaker1: [00:11:48] This is one on one.

Speaker2: [00:11:49] This is no charge to you. But this is really an opportunity for.

Speaker1: [00:11:55] Us to craft a plan.

Speaker2: [00:11:57] For you to move.

Speaker1: [00:11:59] Your life forward finally in 2022.

Speaker2: [00:12:02] So that by the end of this year.

Speaker1: [00:12:04] Or at the very latest by a year from now, in.

Speaker2: [00:12:07] 2023, in July of 2023, you are having a completely.

Speaker1: [00:12:11] Different experience of love and relationships than you’ve ever had, because you have you have stepped into.

Speaker2: [00:12:18] Something new. You have started to to to really make your dreams.

Speaker1: [00:12:23] Of true love and marriage at a high, high, high priority. And so let’s create a plan.

Speaker2: [00:12:29] Together, we will.

Speaker1: [00:12:30] Get on this this session, this love, right through session, one on one.

Speaker2: [00:12:33] You and me, you’ll need to.

Speaker1: [00:12:37] Block out 60 to 90 minutes. Yes, 60 to 90 minutes of your time in a quiet.

Speaker2: [00:12:46] Location.

Speaker1: [00:12:47] With no interruptions.

Speaker2: [00:12:49] Nobody else there to to to.

Speaker1: [00:12:51] Listen in.

Speaker2: [00:12:51] Just you and.

Speaker1: [00:12:52] Me together to craft a plan.

Speaker2: [00:12:56] To get you to go from single to soulmate and a year or less.

Speaker1: [00:13:00] And if you’re sick and tired of dating the duds and you’re sick and tired.

Speaker2: [00:13:04] Of the dating.

Speaker1: [00:13:05] Circus, and you want to stop giving your power away to men.

Speaker2: [00:13:09] Giving.

Speaker1: [00:13:09] Your power away to to.

Speaker2: [00:13:11] Life to other people. If you’re really.

Speaker1: [00:13:14] Ready to start doing that at a whole new level, let’s have a little conversation and we’ll set up a time to get on the phone to 60 to 90 minutes and craft a.

Speaker2: [00:13:23] Love breakthrough plan for you.

Speaker1: [00:13:25] We’re going to talk about what’s.

Speaker2: [00:13:26] Not working in.

Speaker1: [00:13:26] Your love life, how that’s impacting your life. We’re going to talk about what do you want instead? What is.

Speaker2: [00:13:34] Your dream? What are your.

Speaker1: [00:13:35] Dreaming about and how can we help you get there? And we’ll craft that plan together. And I.

Speaker2: [00:13:40] Promise you, if you.

Speaker1: [00:13:41] Show up.

Speaker2: [00:13:42] Willing. To open your heart, willing to be real with me.

Speaker1: [00:13:46] And not pretend like everything’s just.

Speaker2: [00:13:48] Honky dory when you really know.

Speaker1: [00:13:50] That it’s not.

Speaker2: [00:13:51] If you if you can if you can.

Speaker1: [00:13:53] Show up that.

Speaker2: [00:13:54] Way, we can have a breakthrough for you.

Speaker1: [00:13:56] On that call. And now, if if that’s not something.

Speaker2: [00:14:01] That you’re ready for, if you’re if this.

Speaker1: [00:14:03] Is not a priority in your life, a high, high priority in your life, that’s.

Speaker2: [00:14:07] Totally fine. Don’t pm me.

Speaker1: [00:14:10] We we don’t have to get on the phone.

Speaker2: [00:14:12] I’m only looking for, to, to talk to women who are committed to changing.

Speaker1: [00:14:17] Their lives now and not waiting, not procrastinating, not giving off any.

Speaker2: [00:14:23] More wishy washy energy.

Speaker1: [00:14:24] They’re ready to commit to their dreams. Let’s talk about getting on that call.

Speaker2: [00:14:28] It’s no charge to you, but you your.

Speaker1: [00:14:31] Commitment is showing up, ready to learn, ready.

Speaker2: [00:14:34] To grow, ready to commit to your next level dreams.

Speaker1: [00:14:36] So I look forward to talking to you soon. And thanks for joining me today. Bye bye.

Speaker3: [00:14:41] Hey, thanks for tuning in to today’s episode. If you’re a single professional woman who wants your success in your love life to match your success in your career, and you’re looking to get crystal clear right now about why Truelove hasn’t been knocking on your door and how to have that happen sooner rather than later. Like, not literally though, that would be weird, but I hope you know what I’m saying. Anyway, you’re going to want a book, a call, a love breakthrough clarity call right now with my dear wife, Dr. Laura. Yes. Lara herself will get on the phone or Skype with you one on one to assess exactly what’s been holding you back and love what it is you really want and how to get there as quickly as possible. Just go to single to soulmate dot com forward slash call to book a call that’s single to soulmate dot com forward slash call for free love breakthrough clarity call. That is for you if and only if you’re a single professional woman who is as serious about her love life right now as you’ve been about getting your degree or your career success. So again, that’s single to soulmate dot com forward slash call to book your life changing love breakthrough clarity call right away.

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