Wondering why I’m ‘declaring war’ on dating tips?

What’s wrong with them, you might ask?

There are so many reasons why dating tips are NOT the solution if you really want to find lasting love. Give this episode a listen- I’ll explain what I mean.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

– Why you need to stop listening to ‘quick dating tips’

– When dating tips can be good

– What you really need to start doing to attract love into your life

READY TO CHANGE YOUR LOVE LIFE FOR THE BETTER, FOREVER?

If you’re ready to do what it takes to find the man of your dreams, go to https://bit.ly/singletosoulmate-call to book a FREE call with either Johnny or Lara to assess exactly what’s been holding you back in love, what you REALLY want, and if and how we can help you get there as quickly as possible.

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to single The Soulmate Podcast where we help you, the love warrior or love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate. Living the life of your dreams. I’m declaring war on dating tips. What? Yes. Welcome to our YouTube channel. I’m so glad that you’re here for this special episode today. Not going to want to miss this. I’m declaring war on dating tips. What? Yes. Yes. Welcome to our single Soulmate podcast episode. And what does that mean to declare war on dating tips? Whoa. There are so many dating tips out there. Well, you know what? Let’s talk about that. All right. So there are so many dating tips out there. How to flirt. How to get them to ask you out. How to text him just the right thing. How to make sure he chooses you. How to text your man back. How to get that second date. All kinds of things like that. Look, those things are fine and and stuff like that. But here’s the thing. Dating tips will get you more dates and you think, well, that’s good. That’s what I want. I want more dates. Really? Is that all you want is just more dates. Just more dates. Just dating, dating, dating. Look, if that’s all you want, then dating tips will probably get you where you want to go. You should probably turn this off right now, because if that’s all you want, you don’t really want to be connecting with us here because we’re about so much more than that.

Speaker1: [00:01:49] We help women that want to have it all. They want true love. They want marriage, they want family, they want career success. They want abundance. They want health, vibrancy. They don’t just want more dates. They want to have. Dating lead to the ultimate goal, which is true love with a high quality man who steps up for them, who wants to be with them, doesn’t need to be tricked into it or anything like that, and wants to build a life with them and wants to build on the success that they already have. So we work with women that already have great lives but want to have better lives, that already have good things going on in their life, but they’re open for more good things. In fact, they want good things. In fact, if you’re a woman, they want more than just adequate. Then you want to join me in declaring war on dating tips. Because dating tips especially I don’t know if you know this, but did you know that most dating coaches are actually single themselves? That’s why they give you so many dating tips because that’s all they know how to do is date and date and date and date and date. And date and date. And date. And Date.

Speaker1: [00:03:05] And Date and date. Get married. They don’t know what that is. Be with a man for ten years. 20 years. They don’t know what that’s all about. It’s a nice theory. They’ve read it in a book just like you. They’ve talked to friends just like you. They have their ideas about it, just like you. But they have no lived experience around. What is it like to attract the man of your dreams? Be in a committed, monogamous, forever relationship and build something. That’s what Laura and I offer is the opportunity to not just get dating tips for the sake of dating more, but learn that it’s time to go far beyond dating tips. Because here’s the thing. What a lot of women don’t really know is that men will quickly put you in one of two categories. Either you’re one of many. Like a hook up fun role in the hay. Maybe a temporary girlfriend until. The one and only comes along or the one who I may want to build a life with a long term wife material. You’ve heard that phrase wife material. The woman who he says. I might want this woman to be the mother of my children. So those are the one or two categories. Wouldn’t it be great if there was 16 different categories? But you know what? Men are different than women. You see different colors. You you smell with nuances that we don’t smell.

Speaker1: [00:04:43] You literally see more colors because your brain, your eyes see something different. Men are and I don’t mean this as a as a putdown of men were quite a bit more simplistic and I know that that can be like a lot of women will say, no, no, no. Men are more complex. It’s just that we’re different. But you’re going to be put into one of two categories. And if your focus is at the level of dating, you don’t even know that you’re in one category or the other. When you’re going on all these dates, you may be dating a guy multiple times, even sleeping with him, dating for months and months and not realize that you are not in the category of one and only you’re just in the category of one of many. Now, does that mean that he won’t sleep with you if you’re in the category of one of many? Of course he will. Of course he will. Does that mean that he won’t even be your boyfriend if you’re in the category of one of many? Not. He’ll do that to. But if you don’t know which category you’re in and you don’t know how to steer that so that you are in the category that you want to be in. Look, maybe when you were in your early twenties, you didn’t even care. You didn’t even know.

Speaker1: [00:06:01] You’re just learning, right? But if you’re in your late twenties, thirties, forties and fifties, and you still don’t know how to be, the relationship established her and navigator. In other words, how to make sure that you’re in one category versus the other. Then all the dating tips in the world won’t help you because all they’re going to help you to do is get more dates. In other words, more of the same. Now, here’s the thing. There is a time and a place for some dating tips, and we give very simple but very powerful dating tips to our clients and our advanced premium programs. How to quickly determine if he’s worth your time or not. How to how to like, show him who you really are without, like kind of being all over him or pushing him away or memorizing lines or something like that. How to maintain healthy boundaries without putting up confronting walls. How to flirt in a way that actually allows you to keep your dignity, my goodness. And make sure that you don’t end up in the category of one of many fun role in the hey, quick hook up, you know, that kind of thing. How to make sure that he knows that you’re interested, that he’s leaning in, but he’s still seeing you as the this may be the one I want to build a life with. Category. Right. But all of that is.

Speaker1: [00:07:41] So much more than a tip. There’s so much more nuance to it and there’s so much more depth to it. What we what we talk about is how you have to know and feel that you are the prize. And so many women, especially when you’re just following a lot of these dating tips, things, you don’t feel like the prize. Sometimes you’re encouraged of how to fake that so that you, you know, you got your nails done. You say these certain things and you appear on the surface to you and to other women that you’re the prize. But, you know, men can tell. Men can tell when you don’t feel. Truly competent men can tell when you don’t feel. Fully feminine and radiant men can tell when you’re kind of like putting on an act. And again, they may not be able to put the words to that, but they can tell by putting you in one of two categories. You know, either one of many or possibly my one and only. So when we talk about dating tips and we talk about how important it is to go beyond dating tips, it’s a recognition that even the best dating tips won’t keep you in the right category, and even the best man out there can’t be faulted for you putting yourself in one of those two categories just because you didn’t know that you were doing that.

Speaker1: [00:09:17] He may be a fantastic guy. Emotionally mature job career. A man with a plan on a mission. Living life. Looking for his partner. But if you show him because you’re focused on dating tips that you are actually just one of many, that you don’t truly see yourself as the prize. You can’t fault him for treating you the way you have presented yourself to him. And and that may be why you find yourself single for two, three, four or five or more years then you really want to be. And finding yourself saying, God, it seems like all the good men are taken. Why am I not seeing the guys that I really want? And maybe more importantly, why are they not seeing me? Why are the high quality men almost acting like I’m invisible when I have all this going for me? It’s because that surface level of dating tips. Is led you astray. So let’s go beyond dating tips. Years ago, there was a commercial for a serial and maybe dating myself here, but it was silly rabbit trickster for kids. And here’s what I want to say in meaning. No disrespect, silly rabbit tips are for kids grown up women who want to have it all. Want to go way beyond dating tips. And you want to go way beyond dating tips because you are way beyond just dating. You are wanting true love, marriage and family.

Speaker1: [00:10:58] And if that’s the truth and you want to have it all. That’s the women that we help. And hey, if you’re ready to be that grown up woman who has it all, I encourage you to keep listening to our podcast because this is the way to go from single to soulmate. Thanks for tuning in to today’s episode. Hey, if you’re looking to make a major leap forward in going from single to soulmate, be sure to check out our free masterclass to learn the five step strategy our clients use to meet and marry the man of their dreams without dumbing themselves down or using manipulative lines. Just go to single soulmate dot com forward slash learn that single to soulmate dot com forward slash learn for free Masterclass on how to unlock the love you deserve and a life of your dreams. Also, if you like this podcast, be sure to hit the subscribe button and maybe even leave us a review. Let us know what you love or just even like about the podcast. Because hey, when you leave us a quick and honest review that helps other awesome women, just like you discover this podcast and helps them learn, live and love better, just like you’re learning right now. So it’s a little bit of pay it forward, subscribe and leave us a review. Thanks so much.

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