We’ve all been told once or more to never settle in love. Don’t be in a relationship where you won’t be able to shine. Don’t settle with a man who can’t bring out the best in you.

In this episode we talked about:

– Creating a personal & spiritual growth program of your own

– An Exercise for self-growth to attract someone different

– Committing to yourself helps you forgive, let go and move on

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Speaker1: [00:00:02] Hello and welcome to the single The Soulmate Podcast.

Speaker2: [00:00:05] Where we help you, the love warrior or love warrior to be to become your own soulmate first as the path to the life of your dreams with your soulmate by your side. Today’s question comes from Lucila, and she writes, My life seems like a tornado right now. I would like to ask you a question and maybe you can help me as this is what I am most struggling with. I’ve been married for eight years and I’ve known my husband for ten a long time. Right. During the last year, he’s been in and out of the home for about five times, leaving for 3 to 4 months, and then coming back saying he’s going to change and make it work, only to change his mind again in 3 to 4 months. And then he leaves again and I can’t deal with this anymore. And I get so angry and have so much anger towards him. And I know it’s not healthy. I guess I get more angry because I know he was seeing someone else and I recently saw his phone bill and he had texted this person again while being with me and he’s saying that is going to make our family work. I feel betrayed and laughed at. I do find when he is gone and I don’t look for him. The problem is, is that once he leaves, he always looks for me and wants to have lunch with me to help him with any issues he has. And he also wants to randomly hang out on dates. And I’m weak and most of the time I accept his invitations.

Speaker2: [00:01:26] I guess maybe in hopes that he’ll change his mind and really see that he loves me. I don’t know. I feel guilty if I don’t help him. I really cared for him and I respected him all through our marriage. And this is so hard for me, but I realize that I don’t trust him and I get anxiety. I want to learn to forgive him and move on. Will this ever be possible? Thank you in advance for your advice and help. Lucila, Thank you so much for sharing your truth with me and all of us here because the pain that you’re going through can really help others. So I’m just going to share this with you. Listen, I believe in the sanctity of marriage. I think that those vows are serious and you’ve made them in front of God and everybody else. And there’s a reason that we have divorce. So it sounds like your husband doesn’t really believe in the sanctity of marriage if he’s sleeping with other people. I’m sorry to hear that. And you’re not very clear whether or not he’s an ex husband or not. So I’m just going to say, I’m going to assume that he is an ex, that you’re either divorced or on your way to divorce. Here’s what to do. First. Number one is to commit commit yourself to a personal and spiritual growth program of your own. Just commit to something where you grow yourself in mind, body, spirit, soul, grow your whole life, grow who you are so that you can evolve and attract somebody different.

Speaker2: [00:02:56] I also want to suggest an exercise for you. It’s just something I did when I was single and I had first committed to growing myself, finding out about myself and who I am, what makes me tick, and how can I live the life of my dreams. So I did that, just like I’m advising you to do. The second thing I did is I did a simple exercise would invite you to do it with me here. So get yourself out a piece of paper, blank sheet of paper, and write the letter T on it. Big T All right, write a big T. And in the first section up here, write what I’ve experienced with ex husbands and ex-boyfriends in the second column at the top. Write what I want instead. Very clear what I’ve experienced that I didn’t like and what I want. Instead start writing out a list. One, two, three, four, all the way down of what you’ve experienced with your ex and other ex-boyfriends that you didn’t like and what you will desire. And this is where the rubber meets the road. Once you get clear about that, what you want. Instead, in order for you to get this, the Selah and all of you, in order for you to attract what you want instead the first step is crucial. Commit to your personal growth, your personal development, commit to yourself first. All else follows. So, Lucila, thank you so much for listening. Thank you for submitting your questions. So for now, I’m signing off. Thank you and goodbye.

Speaker1: [00:04:25] Hey, I hope you enjoyed today’s episode and if you did enjoy it, please leave us a review on whatever your favorite podcast platform is. Reviews. Let other women know that we exist, and it’s a little bit of like a paying it forward thing. So if you’re enjoying it, getting a lot out of it, learning that, we’d love to hear from you in a review. And we have tons of five star reviews. We’d love to have your five star review or whatever your honest review is. Thanks so much for listening to Single Soulmate.

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