Finding love is something you NEED to be intentional about. I mean, not being intentional hasn’t worked, because here you are, right?
But what can you do to start finding love intentionally, ASAP? 

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:
– The 5 steps to start attracting love 
– How to be truly intentional in finding love
– What happens when you follow these steps

READY TO CHANGE YOUR LOVE LIFE FOR THE BETTER, FOREVER?

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to single The Soulmate.

Speaker2: [00:00:06] Podcast where we help you, the love warrior or love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate. Living the life of your dreams.

Speaker1: [00:00:17] Hello. Hello, this is Laura Fernandez, and I am coming at you live from Copenhagen, Denmark. I’m super excited to be here with you today. So I’ve put together today how to really find love intentionally this year. Like how to make this this finding love like finding true love, marriage and family. How to do that in an intentional way. So I’ve come to I’ve put together five the most important steps, five top steps to find that love, to create the love of your life, to create magic and miracles in your life this year. So we’re going to start with number one. So the first thing I’m going to invite you to do is take stock of your life. So take stock of your life. Look at what’s like what’s not working. First of all, also look at what is working. So this is where it’s going to take some real honesty with yourself and. Yeah. Honesty, sometimes some tough love, some tough truth with yourself. And I recommend not just sitting here and thinking about what’s working and what’s not working. That’s only going to take you so far, but really literally give yourself half an hour. Get out your journal and write. Number one, what’s not working and get really clear about what’s not working. Is it your love life? Is it. Is it how the kind of men you’re attracting? Is it. Have you started to realize that there are patterns in your mind, in the way you’re going about relationships that actually you see are not really healthy, are not really attracting the kind of men that you want.

Speaker1: [00:02:14] Are you starting to realize that you have something to do with your love life? It’s not just all the bad men out there. This is really important in the taking stock aspect of things. So look at what’s not working. Also, look at what’s not working overall in the rest of your life. Look at what’s not working in your job, your career, your health, your family, your your relationships. Really give yourself that opportunity to go deep with this because too many people, too many women, single women, just give themselves they’re just so, so busy with their lives that they never, ever really look at what’s not working. And they never, ever really, truly honest with themselves. And what I have found after 16 years, John and I have been coaching for 16 years, coaching single women to attract love is if you are not honest with yourself. If you don’t really take stock, you don’t really know where you are in life and you actually can end up fooling yourself. You can actually end up kidding yourself. And so it does require some real honesty with yourself. So take a look at what’s not working, then take a look at what is working.

Speaker1: [00:03:22] I’m sure there are some things working in your life. I’m sure there’s some things that you feel good about, right? Those out, give yourself credit for those. But also remember that you’re here in this group for a reason because something is not working in your love life and how you are deciding to go out with men and how you’re choosing men and how you’re picking them, the kind of men you’re allowing to pick you, those kind of things. So it’s really that’s number one, take stock of your life. Number two. Really? I’m going to invite you to look at your values. So look at your values. So is marriage true love, marriage and family isn’t really important to you or is it kind of like a Oh, that would be nice. Is it kind of a nice to have? So take a look at this or is it really, really, really important like a must have. Because again, in this kind of connects back with number one, it’s time to get real with yourself. Most women will say, well, it would be nice to have you know, I’m no, I’m not in a rush or anything. It would be nice to have. And they say that over it’s a must have because they don’t know how to attract Mr. right so. They don’t know how to attract a a quality man and have him actually step up and actually have him commit without manipulating, without playing games.

Speaker1: [00:04:49] They don’t know how to do that. So they kind of hold themselves back from what they really, really want and they say it would be nice to have so. And this here’s what else a lot of women say that would be it would be nice to have a relationship. And the reason that they do that is because they don’t know how to use the power that they have within them as the. Relationship established there and navigator. They don’t know how to use that or they don’t know that. That they actually don’t know that you as the woman that you are, the relationship established, you’re a navigator. We call that the Rin. Rin. The as the relationship established in a navigator, that’s that’s not you pursuing a man. That’s just you having more power than you know. And. If you are in this in the position as a single woman where it would be just a nice to have. Here’s the tough truth. I have to tell you it. I’ve been doing this a long time, so I know I’ve seen this. If it’s just a nice to have. Oh, that would be nice. It’s just not going to happen. This is not going to happen for you. That kind of lasting love that you want that lasts forever. True love, marriage and family with a quality man who will commit, commit to you.

Speaker1: [00:06:12] It’s just not going to happen. It has to happen with intention. It has to happen. It has to happen with actually making it a priority. Because here’s the thing, there’s just too much competition. For good guys. And there’s it’s a skill set that you actually need that you haven’t been taught. If listen, if you’ve been looking for the love of your life, if you’ve been looking for a man who will happily step up and put a ring on it for several years now, if not decades, then here’s the thing you need to know. You don’t have the skill set to attract a quality man. And again, good to get real with yourself. Of course you can be kind to yourself, but you need that tough truth. You don’t have the skill sets you need to take on those skills. You need to learn those skills. What else can happen when it’s a kind of a nice to have is. You either end up alone. Believe me, I’ve gotten on the phone with women who, after decades and decades of thinking it’s just going to happen. They wish they had taken it more seriously. So you either end up alone like them or. You settle? Do you know what I’m talking about? You probably have a family member, maybe a sister or an aunt, or maybe your own parents or dear friend who has settled.

Speaker1: [00:07:45] They just settle for a nice enough guy and nice enough person. And years later, they’re kind of in a ho hum average kind of mediocre relationship. And it’s just. Here’s the thing that that comes from a nice to have mentality that comes from it’ll just happen. I’m sure it’ll just happen. And. You also need to know that if you have a kind of a must have mentality, but you don’t actually know how to go about building the skill set that I’m talking about, to be the relationship established or navigator, to be the kind of woman who is in her power, who knows her true power without wielding it like a club over men, but who really knows it? She’s really in touch with that, if you. I want it really badly. That must have energy. But you don’t know how. Then what happens is as it starts to come across as desperation. And you make mistakes with men who could be amazing men and you don’t even know it. Or you you would pass by a quality man who would make you happy, but you wouldn’t even know how to show up in that relationship and be the kind of woman that would. Actually be an invitation to him to step up, commit to you, do anything he could do to make you happy, do everything he could do to make you happy.

Speaker1: [00:09:20] So that’s what happens when you don’t have that skill set or you have a nice to have. Oh, it’d be nice to have kind of mentality. So let’s go on to number three. So. The third thing you want to do here is you want to make finding lasting love one of your top three priorities in your life right now. It has to be one of the top three priorities. And you must do anything and everything to actually bring that that that deep desire and dream into fruition. Now the women that we work with, they have true love, marriage and family as one of their top three priorities in their life. Top three priorities. And then they’re actually doing something about it. They’re actually learning. With our help, they’re building that skill set that they need to be that invitation to lasting love. So that’s number three is it needs to be one of the top three priorities in your life. Now, here’s the thing. When I was single and I was on my intentional path to Johnny, doing the inner work, doing very, very focused type of work, I was investing time, energy and money in me. I made. This area of life, true love, marriage and family as my number one priority. Of course I went to my job. Of course, everybody has to work. Of course I showed up at family gatherings.

Speaker1: [00:10:49] Of course I did. But finding the the the that the man of my dreams and finding that code decision maker that I was going to live out the rest of my life with, I could see into the future and see how important this was going to be. Because here’s the thing. I didn’t want want to end up at 85. In a nursing home with only my nieces and nephews to come visit me. I didn’t want to have. I didn’t want to die alone. I didn’t want to be that woman that you hear about. I didn’t want to be that. And there’s nothing wrong with that woman. But it’s meaning that the woman who dies alone. God bless them. But I didn’t want to do that. I didn’t want to be that. And and. I wanted more for myself. And so with that kind of energy, I want more for myself. I know there’s more potential in me. I know I have so much love to give that’s making it one of the top three priorities investing time, energy, money, resources in me, investing in me, and getting the help I needed in finding out. About dating and mating and relating and what how men think and learning all of this. This had to be. This became the top priority in my life, and it paid off in dividends in so many areas of my life because now I’ve been married to Johnny for let’s see, we’ve been together for 21 years and married over 20 years now, and it just keeps getting better and better.

Speaker1: [00:12:26] So that’s number three now, number four. Start to look and take stock of the people around you. So don’t just take stock of your life, but look at the people around you. Who do you have in your world? Who do you have in your life right now? So. Are they actually people that help you? Like when you’re around them, you actually feel better about yourself in your life and you feel good. Do they actually support you? Do they actually are they like. Positive minded people. Are they people that are actually are the women, especially because we women really thrive with other women, with other like minded, conscious, aware, growing women who are on the same path as us, who are on the way to making it, to making their life what they want it to be, to living the life of their dreams with the soulmate, with their soulmate by their side. So take a look at this. Look at the women around you. Are they supporting your dreams? Are they lifting you up? Are they going for their dreams themselves? Or do they keep you stuck? How. Take a look at how you feel after you’re around them. And that tells you everything you need to know.

Speaker1: [00:13:47] This is one of the things. Our clients in our Love Warner community, in our programs that they really, really appreciate is the connection with women who are going for they’re going for something in their lives, women who are spiraling up in every area of their life, spiraling up in their relationships. So they’re they’re attracting the love of their lives. They are doing that in an intentional way. They’re building that skill set that is needed to attract a man, a quality man, who will step up for them and marry them. They are going for everything good in their in their relationships with their friends and family. They’re growing that part of themselves. They’re stepping into their true potential in their in their work or their career. And they have they have a mindset, a growth mindset, a mindset of growing and expanding themselves. That’s what our love for our community is all about. And our clients love that. So take a look at that. Look around you. Do you have people who are going in the same direction that you are, meaning that you’re going for your dreams? Or, number one, are you going for your dreams? And number two, do you have people around you who are doing that in an intentional way, not just talking about it, but actually putting their money, their time, their energy, their resources, where their mouth is. Okay.

Speaker1: [00:15:10] So that’s something to really look at for yourself. So that’s number four. And then number five. Is to really take stock and look at well, I’ve already take stock of where you are now, but I should say really look at where you want to go. Look at where you want to go. Where do you want to go? Where do you want to be three months from now? Where do you want to be one year from now? Look at that like three months from now, six months from now, in one year, what do you want your life to look at, look like? Get clear about this. This is all some this is all a journaling exercise, exercise for you. Looking at what do you want in your life three, three months from now, six months from now, in one year from now, in every hour of your life from your relationships. Do you want to be getting a mirror? Do you want to be getting married a year from now? So in September of 2022, you very well could be planning your wedding. But the time to take action for that is now. Real action. Not. Not. Oh, someday. Someday, someday, someday actually causes your life to kind of just drag on the same. Something radical has to change. So that’s what I’m inviting you to do. Here is look at this. Look at where you want to be.

Speaker1: [00:16:32] Write it down, get really clear. So, again, number one, take stock of your life. Look at what’s working, what’s not working. Number two. Look at your values. Is marriage and family really, really, really, truly a high priority for you? Is it really, really important or is it just a nice to have? Oh, that’d be nice. Number three, Make Finding Love, Finding Lasting Love, one of the top three priorities in your life. Number four, looking at the people around you because they are either affecting you or they’re infecting you. Take a look at that. Number five, looking at where do you want to be? Where do you want to be in the near future? Three months, six months and actually a year is going to be it’s going to actually I could call a year the near future, too. That’s going to fly by. And you know what I mean, right? September 20, 22 is going to be here before we know it. So that means you’ve got to take action now. And here’s the thing. If you are looking at this and you’re going, you know what, I need to take my power back in my life. I am really I can see from what Laura is talking about that the way I’ve been going about this whole thing is actually not working. And if you’re really, really, really clear about that, that it’s not working for yourself and you’re really, really clear that you want to have your power and you want to reach your full potential.

Speaker1: [00:17:54] And you really see how attracting a quality man who wants to commit to you is. You can see how that will affect your potential and the quality of your life. You see that having a high quality man to put a ring on your finger and the two of you to go about life together and you see how that’s going to help you with your decisions in the future and how that’s going to affect every area of your life. Then I’m going to invite you to comment below. I’m going to invite you to write about this, like say something about this. This is and here’s what you just do a declaration. This is important to me. Finding love is important to me. Start off with that. If nothing else, start off with that. Finding love is important to me, and here’s what else I’m going to invite you to do if finding love is truly important to you. I’m going to invite you to reach out to me here. Reach out to me and my messenger. And just let me know that like, hey, Laura, I saw your Facebook Live. This is so important to me. And it just tell me what’s going on. I’d love to help you. I’d love to help you.

Speaker1: [00:19:02] And if there’s something I can do to help you, I’ll let you know if there’s something else that would work for you. Right now, I want to let you know that, too, but reach out to me. So if this resonates with it, if this Facebook Live and what I’m sharing with you makes any sense and resonates with you, just reach out to me. I’ve been doing this for 16 years. Johnny and I have a track record of success. I’d love to help you. That’s this. This is my mission on this planet is to help amazing women like you who are really, really, really taking this area of their life seriously, not just talking about it, and who don’t want to complain anymore about men who know that there must be something out there better for them, but maybe they don’t know what to do yet. If that is, you reach out to me on messenger here. Let’s have a conversation. I won’t bite. I’m a nice person and I’m here for you. That’s what we here, Johnny, and are here to do is to help you find the love of your life and live the life of your dreams with him by your side. If you’re really ready for that, I’d love to hear from you. All right. Thanks for joining me today. That’s the five steps to getting started, to finding love intentionally this year right away. Take care. Thanks for joining me.

Speaker2: [00:20:14] Thanks for tuning in to today’s episode. Hey, if you’re a single professional woman who’s had success in your career or business and you want your love life to match that success, and you’re looking to get a lot of clarity right now about why true love hasn’t been knocking on your door and more importantly, what you can do about it. Then you’re going to want a book, a love breakthrough, clarity. Call right away with one of our love breakthrough specialists. So get on the phone or zoom call with you one on one to assess exactly what’s been holding you back in love. Why is it that other people are finding love and you aren’t? And she’ll also go over with you. What is it that you really want and how can you get it as quickly as possible? Now, by the end of this compassionate and professional assessment, you’ll finally have clarity, plus an immediately actionable path forward. All you have to do is go to single soulmate dot com forward slash call to book that free call again it’s single to soulmate dot com forward slash call for complementary love breakthrough call that is for you. If you’re a single professional woman who is as serious about her love life right now as you’ve been in your life, about getting your degree or degrees, your career or business success, all of that stuff. If you want to have it all and you’re ready to finally have some clarity and get a breakthrough and actionable path forward, then this is for you again that single soulmate dot com for slash call to book your life changing one on one assessment call right away.

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