If your confidence in your love life has been damaged by heartbreak, overwhelm, or even trauma, this episode is for you. We both know you’ll never find Mr. Right if you don’t get that confidence back. We’re here to help you start growing that confidence again so your love life can get back on track towards attracting the man of your dreams!

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

– Why confidence in everyday life is different than confidence in your love life

– What you’ll achieve by being more confident in your love life

– How you can boost your confidence with men

READY TO CHANGE YOUR LOVE LIFE FOR THE BETTER, FOREVER?

If you’re ready for the first step towards major transformation & true love at last, head over to http://singletosoulmate.com/call to book a FREE 1-on-1 call with Lara herself. She’ll assess exactly what’s been holding you back in love, how to get what you REALLY want, and if or how we can help you get it as quickly as possible.

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to Single The Soulmate.

Speaker2: [00:00:06] Podcast, where we help you the love warrior or love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate Living the life of your dreams.

Speaker1: [00:00:18] Hi there. This is Laura Fernandez, and I’m going to be talking to you about three powerful steps to growing your confidence now. So if you are single and you’re alone and you’re just frickin sick of it, then you’re going to want to cozy up, have a seat, make yourself comfortable, maybe make yourself some tea and listen in, because this is for women who are you know, you’ve checked off the boxes in your life and your love and your and your work life, I should say, in your career, your education. You have a lot to be proud of in terms of your accomplishments. But your love life is, it really leaves a lot to be desired. So if that’s you, you want to you’re going to want to keep listening here. So, yeah. So three powerful steps to grow in your confidence now. Well, first, I want to make sure that we’re on the same page here. So maybe you’ve been hurt. Maybe you’ve had heartbreak recently, or maybe it’s been a long time, Maybe you’ve been divorced and maybe you’re afraid to get out there again. Or if you’ve never been married. And the thought of being alone another 20, 40 years just really makes you sad or. Or angry. Or both. And maybe you’ve tried everything that you know to do to find love. You’ve done. You’ve done the dating apps. You’ve you’ve. You’ve hired a matchmaker or two. You’ve read books on dating in men and relationships, YouTube videos, podcasts.

Speaker1: [00:02:07] You’ve tried everything you know, but you’ve been hurt again and again, and you’re sick and tired of getting your hopes up, whether you had another guy who either ghost you or he just keeps giving you crumbs when really you want the whole cake, right? So I know how that feels. I’ve been there. I’ve, you know, I was there and I was single and I was sick of it. I had my career was going well. I was making good money. I was proud of my accomplishments. But I just kept dating these these duds, you know? So I want to cover very, very quickly here three powerful steps to really owning your power and love. And so the first thing is that you want to you want to really start to treat your dreams of true love of marriage and family as important as your college education was. Well, say that again, Super important, because this is not what you’re taught in The conventional wisdom in this culture is that your college education and your career is number one. And, you know, you can keep putting off, you know, marriage and family until you have your education and until you have your your your career in place. And here’s the thing. There’s nothing wrong with getting a good education. There’s nothing wrong with investing in your career. I did the same. But you must really start to see your dreams of having that true love, of having marriage, of creating a family, whatever that family looks like to you.

Speaker1: [00:03:54] It could be having children. It could be. It depends on where you are and you’re in your lifespan. Here it maybe it’s blending a family or having your grown kids get along with his grown kids, whatever that family. Or maybe it’s just having fur babies, but you want to treat your dreams of true love, marriage and family as as important as that college education was, as important as going for your your your dreams in your career. And so what does that look like when I say treating your dreams as important? Well, you invested time, energy, attention and money in becoming whatever profession you are in right now, right in your college education. You invested those resources, those precious resources of time, energy, attention and money in your career, in your education. So what does this mean for what am I saying here? What does that mean in love and relationships? So what I’m saying here is you want to invest your time, energy, attention and money in becoming your best version of you, becoming your best version of you. And when I say that, I don’t mean like going to get Botox. I don’t mean getting a mani pedi. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with taking care of yourself or exercising every day, you know, like so you look good.

Speaker1: [00:05:25] I’m not talking about just the external. I’m talking about the internal. The internal. You becoming your own soulmate first is a is what we call it in in our in our you know, when we work with our clients, it’s first becoming your own soulmate. That means that it’s not about dating tips and tricks. You can get a ton of dating tips and tricks. There’s thousands, if not hundreds of thousands of dating tips and tricks on YouTube. But if that if it was just about that information about all those tons, that ton of information, if that’s all it was, that’s all it took took was like more information, you would have found him by now, right? So this is really about the inside. Number one, you want to become your own soulmate. First, you want to learn to see yourself and your dreams as important. And that doesn’t mean just mentally. Well, yeah, of course I’m important. No, I mean treating yourself as if you are a queen, treating yourself like you are the prize. You’ve heard us. You’ve probably heard me talk about you want to. You want to become the prize. You want to become like you want to be the prize in your relationship. Well, how do you do that? That means taking your dreams seriously. That means investing that time, energy, attention and money in becoming your best version of yourself. Because here’s the thing.

Speaker1: [00:07:03] This may sound counterintuitive, but listen in. In this society, you are taught that your your education and your career and your career comes first. And to a certain extent, of course it does. But there comes a time whether your mid thirties, your late thirties, your forties, I don’t know your fifties. There comes a time when all of that accomplishment, all of that education, all of that head knowledge. That serves you to a point in in your career, but it’s not helping you in your relationships, right? I mean, you’re single, you’re alone. You don’t want to be you’re here watching this or listening to this for a reason. Right. And I say that respectfully. But your way, the way you have been going about this whole area has not been working for you. And I say that respectfully, You’re a good person, but you don’t know what you don’t know. Right. So that’s number one. You need to start really up leveling your dreams, Up leveling. How you. How you invest your time, energy, attention and money. And becoming your own soulmate. First, we call it also becoming a student of love. Become a student of this subject. Be willing to to learn more about yourself. What makes you tick? What makes men tick? How men show up, How healthy men not don’t. Just don’t focus on toxic men. You’ve already experienced toxic men, right? Don’t be focusing on on how to avoid them.

Speaker1: [00:08:38] Focus on what you want, how healthy marriage minded, commitment minded men think. So that’s number one. Number two. You want to start to build your dating skills. So. Fix your picker. Like when I say that you want to fix your picker. What does that mean? That means you want to you want to fix how you choose men. Because the men that you have chosen to be with, the men that you have married, have gotten into a relationship, have slept with how you have chosen them, like your decision making, your the framework with which you make decisions that is not working. So you want to fix how you choose men. So you you understand that. You understand when you meet a man, whether or not he is even worth your time, whether or not he’s worth another date is even worth a first date. Is he worth you giving his your number two and talking to him on the phone? There are ways to figure that out and figure that out quickly. So that is that is a decision making framework. How you look at the world, you know, the lens through which you’re looking at the world and how you make decisions, how you see men, how you interact with them. So you want to fix your picker, how you choose men, you want to learn how healthy men think. You also want to, if you have noticed that you are kind of like the kind of woman who is a giver.

Speaker1: [00:10:13] Right. Like you give and you give to men. You deplete yourself, you you over give. Really, that’s boundary issues. And if you have boundary issues, you need to learn how to set and keep what we call in our programs sacred boundaries. Sacred boundaries are the boundaries that you know how to set in a way to help you weed out low quality men and helps invite a When you set a sacred boundary, you do it in a way, and you do it so eloquently and elegantly that it’s like a litmus test for high quality marriage minded men. It actually causes the marriage minded man to go, Huh, That’s different. And he’ll step up. Whereas a low quality man, when you set those sacred boundaries he he runs or he can’t deal with it, or he goes to you or he breaks up with you or whatever, you can just tell that he cannot handle it. So that’s kind of like a litmus test. So those are the skills. Those are just the beginning of the skills that you’re going to need to become a a. A. An empowered dater. A woman who. And you don’t want to be in power data for long, right? You’re dating to get out of dating, to get into a relationship and create a lasting partnership in marriage. Right? So but to become an empowered dater makes you you have the skills and you you’ve treated yourself so well.

Speaker1: [00:11:56] You have become your own soulmate. First, that this is building your confidence. Can you see what I’m talking about? So we’re talking about building your confidence in dating, mating and relating. And can you see how if you invested time, energy, attention in becoming your best version of you from the inside out, you become your own soulmate first. And you build your dating skills. Can you can you sense just how more confident you would show up? Right. So that’s the second step in. The third step is and here’s a here’s a free resource for you. You want to binge listen to our podcast. So Johnny and I have a a podcast that we are bringing in new content, fresh content every week, and we go into depth with tons of lessons on how to finally find love, how to make this year, this year your year for love, how to not procrastinate or put it off any longer. And so that’s the third step, is binge. Listen to this resource. Like just soak it all up, soak up all the information and that I’m going to give you that site to go to that single to soulmate dot com single to RT. Oh so you spell out the word soulmate dot com. We have tons of resources. There are tons of podcast episodes for you to listen, learn, sync it into your, into your cell, into yourselves.

Speaker1: [00:13:33] So you start to build those dating skills. So those are three powerful and very simple steps that you can actually start right now. You can start this today, in this moment by going to that that our our podcast website, listening and learning and soaking it all in and and taking action on what you learn there. This is crucial because because here’s the thing. There are a lot of women who complain about men who complain about there’s just not enough good men in their city, in their state, in their country or whatever. And there’s something wrong with the men. And we hear that we work with clients from all over the world, and we hear that over and over again. And the thing is, is that that is by giving your power, that that is that is giving your power away when you keep blaming men and how crappy men are and how they’re all losers and how they don’t want commitment and how there’s no single straight men in your town or city or whatever you are giving your power away to what’s out there. You are not taking responsibility and ownership. And that is one of the first steps to really changing your love life for good and and having it become easy, having it become more fun, having it become more, more, more joyous. Right. And that’s really what you want.

Speaker1: [00:15:08] Like you want to enjoy your journey to your soulmate. You don’t want it to be this like, I don’t know. This painful journey, right? You don’t want this to be a journey of a path of heartbreak. You’ve already had that. And isn’t it time for you to to really take on something new and to learn differently and to you need a whole new, fresh approach? So take these three steps seriously. Go and binge listen to our podcast. Take the action steps. We’ll give you really specific action steps that you can take to to change the course and your and the destiny of your love life right away. And this right here, let this be that new beginning and that fresh start for you. So this is what Johnny and I, we have been coaching single, successful, amazing, badass professional women for the past 17, almost 18 years now. And we’ve been married for over 21 years. So this is this is not theory, This is not guesswork. This is something that is actually proving results for our clients over and over again and for ourselves. So join us on that podcast. Listen, and I’ll be coming in here regularly with more steps, more simple and applicable steps that you can start to apply right away in your love life and see the changes. All right. So thanks for joining me today and lots of love. Bye bye.

Speaker2: [00:16:54] Hey, thanks for tuning in to today’s episode. If you’re a single professional woman who wants your success in your love life to match your success in your career, and you’re looking to get crystal clear right now about why Truelove hasn’t been knocking on your door and how to have that happen sooner rather than later. Like, not literally, though that would be weird, but I hope you know what I’m saying. Anyway, you’re going to want a book, a call, a love breakthrough clarity call right now with my dear wife, Dr. Laura. Yes. Laura herself will get on the phone or Skype with you one on one to assess exactly what’s been holding you back and love what it is you really want and how to get there as quickly as possible. Just go to single soulmate dot com forward slash call to book a call that’s single to soulmate dot com forward slash call for free love breakthrough clarity call that is for you if and only if you’re a single professional woman who is as serious about her love life right now as you’ve been about getting your degree or your career success. So again that’s single to soulmate dot com forward slash call to book your life changing love. Breakthrough clarity call right away.

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