Are you committed to finding lasting love? Are you ready to do what it takes to break out of your dating rut and find Mr. Right? If so, listen up, because I’m going to break down for you the #1 step to take NOW so you can finally stop dating players, deadbeats, or no one at all, and before you know it, find the quality man of your dreams.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

– The FIRST important step to finding love

– WHY doing this can change the direction of your love life for good

READY TO CHANGE YOUR LOVE LIFE FOR THE BETTER, FOREVER?

If you’re ready for the first step towards major transformation & true love at last, head over to http://singletosoulmate.com/call to book a FREE 1-on-1 call with Lara herself. She’ll assess exactly what’s been holding you back in love, how to get what you REALLY want, and if or how we can help you get it as quickly as possible.

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to Single The Soulmate.

Speaker2: [00:00:06] Podcast, where we help you the love warrior or love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate Living the life of your dreams.

Speaker3: [00:00:17] Hi there. This is Laura Fernandez, and I’m happy to be here to talk to you about the number one step that you’re going to need to take to find love intentionally so excited to be here with you today. And here’s the thing. You know, I get on the phone every day with amazing, accomplished women who. Really. They have, like, everything to offer a quality man like they accomplished. They’re smart, they’re successful, they’re highly educated. They’ve kind of checked off all the boxes in their love life or in their life, but they’re all they’re getting is duds. So I get on the phone every day with these these these amazing women who are just not finding quality men. And so that may be your experience, too, right? So let me ask.

Speaker1: [00:01:13] You, are you.

Speaker3: [00:01:14] Maybe not having a problem finding men to date? Maybe that’s the easy part for you, but.

Speaker1: [00:01:20] Finding ones who you really like.

Speaker3: [00:01:23] And who like you back, right. And who want just like more than just sex. Like, maybe, maybe that’s what’s going on. So. So. Okay, so my question was, are you either having a problem finding guys to date or not having a problem finding guys to date? You can you can do that. That’s that’s easy. But finding one to like you back and who will really want more than just sex? That’s what you’re that’s what you’re having a challenge with. Or maybe you’re just getting through a breakup and maybe your heart is still just too tender, Right. To get out there for a while. Maybe you’re just kind of taking a break from.

Speaker1: [00:01:57] That or but you but.

Speaker3: [00:01:58] You do know that something’s going to have to change pretty soon in your love life this year because, like having and going through another heartbreak like this would just really mess you up.

Speaker1: [00:02:09] Emotionally, right? Or I mean, maybe you’re not really getting out.

Speaker3: [00:02:14] There at all and not dating anybody. Maybe you’re at this point, you’re at the point where you’re kind of gun shy, right? And because the dating apps only keep showing.

Speaker1: [00:02:24] You low quality.

Speaker3: [00:02:25] Men who only want one thing or they’re scammers or they’re kind of just not up to the caliber of the kind of man you want. Or maybe your situation is that.

Speaker1: [00:02:36] You’ve been divorced for a.

Speaker3: [00:02:38] While. You gave yourself some time to.

Speaker1: [00:02:40] Heal and you’re like raring to.

Speaker3: [00:02:42] Go. You’re ready to get out there and begin again, but.

Speaker1: [00:02:46] You don’t really know where to start.

Speaker3: [00:02:47] Or what to do because you know that the dating world has.

Speaker1: [00:02:50] Has really changed.

Speaker3: [00:02:52] A lot since you were single.

Speaker1: [00:02:53] So wherever you are.

Speaker3: [00:02:55] In your singlehood, just keep listening here. So there’s really going to be a nugget of truth here that.

Speaker1: [00:03:00] I want to share with you that can really.

Speaker3: [00:03:02] It could possibly.

Speaker1: [00:03:03] Change your love life forever.

Speaker3: [00:03:05] So really just listen in here. So if you’re.

Speaker1: [00:03:08] Really ready to change your love.

Speaker3: [00:03:09] Your luck and love so that you’re not facing the holidays alone this year or ever again, you’re going to want to take this first most important step right now, today. So here it is. And I say this is the number one step.

Speaker1: [00:03:28] But really it’s number one.

Speaker3: [00:03:30] A and then there’s a1b, So there’s two parts to this one step. So the first.

Speaker1: [00:03:36] Part is the one a part.

Speaker3: [00:03:38] Is taking responsibility.

Speaker1: [00:03:40] For your dating.

Speaker3: [00:03:41] Results so far and.

Speaker1: [00:03:44] Forward into your future.

Speaker3: [00:03:47] So because the reason I’m saying that you need to take.

Speaker1: [00:03:49] Responsibility for your.

Speaker3: [00:03:52] Dating results that you have had up until this point is because pointing the.

Speaker1: [00:03:59] Finger at everybody else, blaming somebody else, blaming a man, blaming blaming all.

Speaker3: [00:04:04] Men. What this does is it puts you in a victim mentality. And that is an energetic block. It’s a block. It actually stops.

Speaker1: [00:04:14] You from attracting the love.

Speaker3: [00:04:16] You seek. So only.

Speaker1: [00:04:19] When you’re taking ownership over your results so far.

Speaker3: [00:04:24] Do you have a chance to even.

Speaker1: [00:04:26] Change your results going.

Speaker3: [00:04:27] Forward. Does that make sense? So by taking ownership, by taking responsibility, you’re.

Speaker1: [00:04:32] Kind of putting yourself in the steering wheel of.

Speaker3: [00:04:34] Your love life instead of handing.

Speaker1: [00:04:37] It over by blaming somebody else, by blaming.

Speaker3: [00:04:40] Let’s say, your ex husband, you’re giving him the steering wheel. So he’s been running your love life, not you. So that makes sense. So this is a this is a.

Speaker1: [00:04:50] A a really crucial, crucial, crucial.

Speaker3: [00:04:54] Step, because only.

Speaker1: [00:04:55] When you’re taking ownership over.

Speaker3: [00:04:56] Your results do you have a chance.

Speaker1: [00:04:59] To change your results going forward.

Speaker3: [00:05:02] I see a.

Speaker1: [00:05:02] Lot of women out there who keep pointing fingers and they wonder why they only.

Speaker3: [00:05:08] Attract duds or low quality men. Because you need to know that that victim mentality that is a magnet. It’s a magnet to victimizers. It’s a magnet to.

Speaker1: [00:05:21] Low quality men. So you want to start by changing the way you’re looking at.

Speaker3: [00:05:25] Things.

Speaker1: [00:05:25] Changing your thinking on this so you can really actually literally change.

Speaker3: [00:05:29] Your life. So that’s number one. One A now one B, right? One B is you.

Speaker1: [00:05:38] Want to start become. Becoming a student of love.

Speaker3: [00:05:43] And so what that means, that presumes that the step number one A has already been done. You’ve taken responsibility for your past results, and you’re taking responsibility.

Speaker1: [00:05:53] And ownership over your future results.

Speaker3: [00:05:55] By.

Speaker1: [00:05:55] Committing to becoming a student of love to. And what I what do I mean by that? I mean that you never stop learning.

Speaker3: [00:06:05] About yourself, about men, and about the beliefs and the behaviors that have led.

Speaker1: [00:06:11] You to this.

Speaker3: [00:06:12] Place in your life where you have a.

Speaker1: [00:06:15] Lot to be proud of. Certainly. Right. Maybe you’re a single mom and you’ve.

Speaker3: [00:06:19] Raised kids and you have a lot to be proud of in raising those kids. Maybe you’ve, you know, you just.

Speaker1: [00:06:24] Got a promotion or you.

Speaker3: [00:06:28] You got a new position or a new job or, you know, there’s something that you have to be proud of, right?

Speaker1: [00:06:34] But you’re alone and you don’t.

Speaker3: [00:06:37] Want to be. So when I say.

Speaker1: [00:06:39] Learning.

Speaker3: [00:06:40] When I say student of love, I mean.

Speaker1: [00:06:42] You start to learn.

Speaker3: [00:06:44] Or continue.

Speaker1: [00:06:45] To learn from experts who are really living what they’re teaching. So you’re only going to.

Speaker3: [00:06:52] Want to listen to.

Speaker1: [00:06:53] Love and relationship experts who, number one, are in a long term. And when I say long term, I mean over 20 years.

Speaker3: [00:07:01] Because after 20 years is when it starts to actually get real. And any type of honeymoon phase is long gone. 20 years is what it takes to actually.

Speaker1: [00:07:12] Really feel into.

Speaker3: [00:07:13] The challenges that come that come with a real marriage that’s going to last.

Speaker1: [00:07:17] So you want to list a love expert who’s been in a relationship.

Speaker3: [00:07:20] A marriage, I should say committed.

Speaker1: [00:07:22] Long term marriage for over 20 years.

Speaker3: [00:07:26] Who have been coaching and teaching.

Speaker1: [00:07:28] People to find.

Speaker3: [00:07:29] Love.

Speaker1: [00:07:29] Intentionally for over ten years. Because ten years is when you.

Speaker3: [00:07:34] Start to become a true expert. That is that has stood the test of time. So there’s a couple of books about that. Talking about the ten year mark is where you start to you start to step into mastery.

Speaker1: [00:07:48] Of whatever subject that you’re you’re teaching or that.

Speaker3: [00:07:51] You’re an expert in. So you want, again, a as a a husband and wife who’ve been in a.

Speaker1: [00:08:00] Marriage for over 20 years, they’ve been teaching for over ten years.

Speaker3: [00:08:05] And and you.

Speaker1: [00:08:06] Want to be able to learn from both the man and the woman in the relationship. This way you get to hear.

Speaker3: [00:08:14] Both the masculine and the feminine, and you get to see.

Speaker1: [00:08:18] Modeled for you.

Speaker3: [00:08:19] How a healthy couple interacts with one another and how they communicate and you get to.

Speaker1: [00:08:26] This is really crucial. You get to actually.

Speaker3: [00:08:28] Understand their thinking process.

Speaker1: [00:08:31] Like what is their thinking underneath?

Speaker3: [00:08:33] How they have created a successful marriage that is lasted, right? So you get to understand.

Speaker1: [00:08:40] Their thinking.

Speaker3: [00:08:40] Process and not.

Speaker1: [00:08:41] Only how they found each other.

Speaker3: [00:08:43] But how they stayed.

Speaker1: [00:08:45] With one another.

Speaker3: [00:08:46] Right? Because that’s what you want.

Speaker1: [00:08:47] You don’t want another relationship that ends. You want a relationship.

Speaker3: [00:08:50] That you’re proud to call your man. You’re proud to call.

Speaker1: [00:08:54] And 20, 30, 40 years later, you’re still deeply connected. You’re still learning and.

Speaker3: [00:08:59] Growing together and you’re still madly in love in spite of all.

Speaker1: [00:09:03] The curveballs that life will throw you.

Speaker3: [00:09:06] So and you also want to.

Speaker1: [00:09:08] Be listening and learning from experts who have a proven track record.

Speaker3: [00:09:12] That means they have tons and tons and tons of client testimonials. They have tons of evidence to prove that they.

Speaker1: [00:09:19] Know what they’re doing.

Speaker3: [00:09:20] And they’ve been doing it for a long time. So I want to also.

Speaker1: [00:09:25] Share with you here. So I’m just going to briefly kind of review that here.

Speaker3: [00:09:29] So this again, is the number one step to finding love intentionally. And I.

Speaker1: [00:09:33] Gave you a part one A and a part one B off of.

Speaker3: [00:09:36] The one step. You want to take responsibility for your results. In the past, you’re dating results and taking responsibility.

Speaker1: [00:09:43] For your results. In the future. Going forward, you’re not going to be blaming anybody else. And when I say blame, I want to make sure I’m clear. Blame blame is.

Speaker3: [00:09:54] Not.

Speaker1: [00:09:55] Equal equivalent.

Speaker3: [00:09:56] To taking responsibility, taking responsibilities. When you take.

Speaker1: [00:10:00] Ownership, not blame. Those are two different energies, two different things completely.

Speaker3: [00:10:07] So you take responsibility for your dating results.

Speaker1: [00:10:10] And then you make sure that you if you you continue to learn you are a student of love. You, you.

Speaker3: [00:10:17] You’ve taken that responsibility and you commit to.

Speaker1: [00:10:20] Learning.

Speaker3: [00:10:21] About yourself, about men, about the beliefs and behaviors, about.

Speaker1: [00:10:26] That your.

Speaker3: [00:10:27] Beliefs and behaviors that have gotten you to this place in your life where.

Speaker1: [00:10:30] You’re single but you really don’t want to be right. And then you learn from experts who have those.

Speaker3: [00:10:35] Those qualities of being.

Speaker1: [00:10:37] Together for over 20 years of teaching for at least.

Speaker3: [00:10:40] Ten years and.

Speaker1: [00:10:41] That where you’re able to actually learn from.

Speaker3: [00:10:44] Both the man and the woman and their viewpoints in the relationship and that they have a proven track.

Speaker1: [00:10:49] Record of.

Speaker3: [00:10:50] Results. And so I want to share with you now a powerful resource for you. And this is a.

Speaker1: [00:10:56] Way to put what you’re learning here.

Speaker3: [00:10:59] To.

Speaker1: [00:11:00] Action immediately.

Speaker3: [00:11:02] So this is a it’s a free resource. So don’t put this off because you want to.

Speaker1: [00:11:09] Prove.

Speaker3: [00:11:10] To your subconscious mind that something is.

Speaker1: [00:11:13] Finally changing in your approach to dating, mating and.

Speaker3: [00:11:17] Relating. So here’s that resource. It’s our podcast. Go to our podcast, start.

Speaker1: [00:11:23] Listening, start binge.

Speaker3: [00:11:25] Listening today, like eat up those episodes. Immerse yourself in how.

Speaker1: [00:11:30] We.

Speaker3: [00:11:30] Think that’s the key, the thinking process. Right now. Our podcast is on Apple Podcasts. It’s on every single podcast out there. We even have our own site.

Speaker1: [00:11:43] Where you.

Speaker3: [00:11:44] Can access all of our podcasts as well if you prefer that. But I’m going to give you the name of the podcast.

Speaker1: [00:11:50] It’s single to.

Speaker3: [00:11:52] Soulmate, single to soulmate. That’s the that single to soulmate. It’s the name of the podcast. So if you.

Speaker1: [00:11:58] Search that.

Speaker3: [00:11:59] On like let’s say Apple Podcast or Stitcher or one of those, that’s what you would see single to soulmate the site itself is WW dot single to soulmate dot com and that’s tio not the number two single.

Speaker1: [00:12:13] To tio.

Speaker3: [00:12:14] Soulmate go there.

Speaker1: [00:12:17] Binge listen.

Speaker3: [00:12:18] This is an amazing resource for you. There’s like.

Speaker1: [00:12:23] Really.

Speaker3: [00:12:24] Months and months and months if not at this.

Speaker1: [00:12:26] Point years of really, really.

Speaker3: [00:12:29] Powerful content for.

Speaker1: [00:12:30] You to just eat up. So eat it up and start.

Speaker3: [00:12:34] To think differently. And when you start to think differently about this whole subject and.

Speaker1: [00:12:39] Approach it differently, you.

Speaker3: [00:12:40] Start to get different results. I think that would make sense to any of us, right? So. So I just been really happy to be here with you today. I wanted to keep it brief. I wanted to come in here and just give you those those key nuggets to really getting started, to changing your love life so that by this time next.

Speaker1: [00:13:00] Year, you’re in a completely different.

Speaker3: [00:13:02] Place in your love life. And it starts right now.

Speaker1: [00:13:05] Like give yourself at least a year.

Speaker3: [00:13:07] Give yourself about a year. But you have to you have to like kind of draw a line in the sand and say it’s going to start today because otherwise you’re going to. What the human mind does is it kind of just stays in old patterns without you need a pattern interrupt. So go ahead and listen to the podcast. It’s single to soulmate.

Speaker1: [00:13:29] Listen, binge listen. Put what you’re.

Speaker3: [00:13:32] Learning into action and you’re going to watch things start to change. Really change. Like, listen to what we’re saying. Put what we’re saying into action. You’re going to see some changes. So thanks for joining me today. I look forward to connecting with you soon. Somehow, some way. Take care.

Speaker2: [00:13:52] Hey, thanks for tuning in to today’s episode. If you’re a single professional woman who wants your success in your love life to match your success in your career, and you’re looking to get crystal clear right now about why true love hasn’t been knocking on your door and how to have that happen sooner rather than later. Like, not literally, though that would be weird, but I hope you know what I’m saying. Anyway, you’re going to want a book, a call, a love breakthrough clarity call right now with my dear wife, Dr. Lara. Yes. Lara herself will get on the phone or Skype with you one on one to assess exactly what’s been holding you back and love what it is you really want and how to get there as quickly as possible. Just go to single to soulmate dot com forward slash call to book a call that single to soulmate dot com forward slash call for free love breakthrough clarity call that is for you if and only if you’re a single professional woman who is as serious about her love life right now as you’ve been about getting your degree or your career success. So again that’s single soulmate dot com forward slash call to book your life changing love breakthrough clarity call right away.

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