How do men think and how is it that they decide who they want to be with? You might be wondering this and if you are not you should if you want to attract a high quality man.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:
– How high quality men think

– How to attract a high quality man

– What you might be doing wrong

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to single The Soulmate Podcast where we help you, the love warrior or love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate. Living the life of your dreams. Well, hello, hello, hello and welcome to another episode of What’s Going On With Your Love Life and what are you going to do about it? So I’m glad that you’re joining me here today on this live. And I want to just start out by saying that this is what we call thankful Thursday. So I don’t know when you’re watching or listening to this, but today’s Thankful Thursday. And and so I want to talk about what I’m thankful for. And I’d love to hear from you. What are you thankful for? So put it in the comments there. Oh, my God. You know how this is. As soon as you start your nose, start to change, whatever. Okay, so what do you what do you thankful for? So you know what I’m thankful for? I’m thankful for Laura. I’m thankful that she did the work that we take our clients through now to attract me, because we’ve been together 20 years. So I’m really thankful for her. I’m thankful for our awesome daughter who is 18 years old. Almost 19. Yep. Do the math. We moved pretty fast and she’s studying in Europe right now. She graduated from high school last year. And and I’m thankful for this mission.

Speaker1: [00:01:35] I’m thankful for helping awesome women like you. I don’t know if you’re awesome. Maybe you are. Maybe you’re not. I don’t know. That’s for you to decide. But anyway, we help awesome women from all over the world really up level their lives and transform their lives. And and it gives them a lot of satisfaction and a lot of fulfillment. It’s been 15 years. And so at this point, we’ve got women are celebrating ten year marriages, babies born, kids growing up, families blended, all that stuff. So I’m really thankful that God, Spirit, my higher power, I call him God has really brought me to this place, me and Laura, where we get to work together on a mission, because this is our mission to help women, just like you really make better decisions in their love life and really have the experience of a relationship that they never had before. Maybe you’ve had one, two, three, four, five, whatever relationships, marriages, stuff like that. And, and it hasn’t been anything like the way you imagined it. And but there’s hope for that. And that’s what gets us up in the morning where we wake up early. You work hard on it because we love seeing the transformation and we love really experiencing the change of how really that path to your soulmate, of becoming your own soulmate first and having healthy boundaries, valuing yourself, how it transforms every area of your life.

Speaker1: [00:03:15] So anyway, that was a long, thankful Thursday thing, but I’m thankful for that. What do you thankful for? Put it in the comments there below. But today we’re going to be talking about how does a good man decide which woman to commit to and how do women trigger commitment? And I put trigger like in quotation marks because it almost sounds like you’re doing like a manipulation thing and that’s not it. But let’s first talk about how does a good man decide which woman to commit to? And so here is the thing. A good when we talk about a good man, well, what does that mean? It could mean a lot of different things. But I’m going to I’m going to kind of boil it down to what probably is universal among at least the women in our community here and the women that that work with us at a higher level in our advanced programs. And that is a good man is a man who is emotionally mature, who’s masculine, and who is looking for a lifetime partner. Like he’s not just looking for role in the hay. And the reality is that, you know, he might have been looking for a role in the hey just last week and he might even be looking for a role in the hay right now from a woman who shows up as that type of woman. And so and so anyway, want to say focus on what is a good man.

Speaker1: [00:04:45] And it’s a man who’s going somewhere, right? A man who’s going somewhere in his life. He’s not just like, ho hum, ho hum. Another day kind of just, you know, killing time in his life. He’s going somewhere. Because when you have a masculine man who’s emotionally mature, who’s going somewhere in his life, it doesn’t have to be the CEO of of frickin I don’t know. Chase Manhattan Bank or something. Chase Manhattan Bank. I’m revealing my New York roots. You or like the head of Boeing or something. He just has to be somebody who’s going somewhere. He’s up to something, doing something. You know, he’s got a job, a business, a career, something. He’s doing something right. And and and that’s a good man. He’s looking for a life partner. Right. So this is now you can get all into different values and qualities and stuff like that, which is important integrity, you know, things like that. But, but, but that generally probably would apply to everybody. He’s masculine, he’s emotionally mature, and he’s going somewhere in his in his life. So how does he decide which woman to commit to? Here’s the thing. Men and women are equal in the sense of equal rights, equal respect, equal deserve, ability to be treated well and things like that. But men and women are not the same. And so, you know what what actually inspires a good man to commit to a woman is that he is appreciated for being a man and she loves being a woman.

Speaker1: [00:06:25] And so what she brings to the table is an effortless feminine radiance, a a certain magnetism that really sorry, I got some itching in my eye that really has nothing to do with her age or weight or dress size or anything like that. But it has to do with how in touch with being a woman she is and how much does she value herself and what does she bring to that relationship? Here’s what he’s looking for. He’s looking for a woman who values herself, who’s not looking for him to save her and make her life better. Right. Like, obviously you want him to enhance your life and stuff like that. Otherwise why be but you’re not looking for like you’ve got a shitty life, a shitty life, a shitty life. And then Prince Charming comes to light, comes around and saves you. And now you have a great life. That’s how the movies tell you it’s happening. That’s not what real life happens. It’s a woman who values herself. And so how do you know that a woman values herself? She takes her hopes and dreams, what’s inside of her seriously. And she invests energy in that. And and by energy, I’m talking about the ways you can measure energy, time, money, things like that.

Speaker1: [00:07:48] And and she’s going somewhere in her life. And this is so important. A lot of times women think that what he’s looking for is for you to be perfect, have the perfect weight, have the perfect bank account, be totally out of debt, own a home, be at this level in your career. Those things are not what he’s looking for. In fact, he literally doesn’t care about your career. He literally doesn’t care about your bank account. He cares that good man. And that’s saying all men, that good man cares about who you are and what lights you up. And are you someone who is what’s called made happy able? It’s where we made up. But here’s the thing. A good man wants to make you the woman in his life. Happy, wants to win with her. He wants to get points. He wants to feel like he’s winning and that he’s successful in one thing, making you happy. This is in life, in the bedroom, everything. He wants to make you happy. And. But you can’t be sitting there going, What you got for me, buddy? Let me see if you can make me happy. Because that’s not going to inspire him. That’s not going to trigger his commitment. That’s going to make him treat you like a woman that he’ll play with for a while. But he’s not going to commit to you because you’re not made happy a bull.

Speaker1: [00:09:21] So like we help our clients learn how to make themselves happy, which is to become your own soulmate. First, learn how to love being a woman and not just learn intellectually, but give you step by step. Tools and practices to love being a woman and amp up your feeling of enjoying being a woman, and that makes them magnetic to a healthy, masculine man. Now, does that make them magnetic to all men? No, because there are guys that are not healthy or not masculine or both, and they’re not attracted to a woman who’s in her power, not power over, but in her feminine power. That, again, has nothing to do with your weight or dress size or age or anything like that. So if you’re in that place where you’re effortlessly magnetic as a woman, as a feminine woman, you’re going to and you value yourself. And that’s not just talk. That shows up in where the flow of energy is going in your life and you’re going somewhere in your life. It literally doesn’t matter about your career. Now I know this is different than what society is telling you, but look, if what the messages society was telling you about how to prepare for love was right, you wouldn’t be here because society is telling you, Oh, it’ll happen when you least expect it or don’t focus on love, focus on your career. Look, nobody’s saying you shouldn’t have a career or work or anything like that, but if that is the number one thing in your life, you’ll never have room for a healthy, masculine man.

Speaker1: [00:11:03] And a lot of times women think either my career is my number one most important thing in my life, or I have nothing. And I am, you know. I don’t know, like. Maybe a like an. Yeah. I’m like jobless or something. Somebody’s saying, Oh, you’re saying don’t have a career, just sit at home. No, I’m saying that if your career is the number one most important thing in your life and then other people, other obligations, other things are up there, then your love and marriage priority level is like, what, third, fourth, fifth, sixth? You never going to attract a high quality man like that point blank. You just aren’t. So your career is something that you do, but that has to be separate from who you are. And a lot of women, their career and who they are are intertwined. And that’s never going to trigger commitment from a high quality man because he doesn’t just want a work buddy, he doesn’t want someone to just talk about. It doesn’t even matter if he wants to talk about politics or international finance or whatever it is. He doesn’t just need that. He can do that from his buddies. You as a woman have to be able to access and be in touch with what is great about being a woman.

Speaker1: [00:12:27] And then you have to know that you are the prize. More women than not. When I say that, they say, Oh, I know I’m the prize. But it’s literally just an intellectual idea that that energy is not showing up in their life and that energy is not being conveyed to the men in their life. And so the high quality men move the other way. They they, you know, they zig when you zag or whatever. They zag when you see they move the other way because they can tell a woman who doesn’t truly value themselves. And and so that woman who doesn’t truly value herself, she gets ghosted. She gets made like she’s second, third or fourth priority in his life. Where does he get the idea of your second, third, fourth or fifth priority? Because you have put love and marriage as second, third, fourth, fifth, eighth, 10th priority in your life. That’s where he gets the idea you are the relationship established, you are the relationship navigator. And so when you walk into that relationship, he’s getting his cues for how to do this relationship from you. And if you’re basically sitting there going, What you got, buddy? I’m telling you right now, that’s not going to work because a healthy self respecting man, he doesn’t want to get into a battle with you. The battle of the sexes is is is great for the political front and legal front.

Speaker1: [00:13:52] And I’m serious. This is important for those things to happen. But in your relationship life, if you’re sitting there having the battle of the sexes where you’re like that and I have my arms folded here, if you’re listening to this and not watching, it’s just never going to work. So triggering commitment means that you value yourself, which means you’re flowing energy into what really matters. And love and marriage has to be high on the list. And you’re not allowing external circumstances, whether that be your career, your business, the economy, your bank account, your weight, your age. You’re not letting those things stop you from being willing to go for your dreams. Because the truth is, if you don’t take your dreams seriously, no man ever will. If you don’t love being a woman, he’s not going to love you being a woman, he’s just not going to love you like that. If you want to have a man who is devoted to you, who cherishes you, who adores you, who devotes his life to making you happy. This is how I feel about Laura. I’m devoted to her, cherishing her, committed to her. We have a committed, monogamous, lifelong relationship, and I devote my life to making her happy. Why? Because she’s made happy able. And because she established a relationship where she is a high value woman who loves being a woman.

Speaker1: [00:15:17] And she has never wavered from that. In fact, she has increased that, which means that she is going somewhere in her life, and that inspires me to continue being my best self. That’s how you establish a relationship. You can’t be ho hum about your hopes and dreams. You can’t be, oh, that would be nice about love and marriage because you’re going to attract a ho hum guy, a ho hum relationship or situation shift. And it’s not going to go anywhere because you’re not going anywhere. You’re sitting back waiting for him to do it and you’re the navigator, you’re the established power. So what’s he going to do? You want to play around? He’s going to play around. You talk, talk, talk. But don’t actually put any any real investment into your hopes and dreams. He’s going to do the same thing. He’s going to tell you things you want to hear, because he can tell that all you are at is at a surface level. But underneath there’s no there there. So men pretty much meet women and they put them into two categories. Because we are men, we have different we literally see different colors. We don’t see as many colors as you see. This is biological. We simply don’t see as many colors as you see. So pink, fuchsia, I don’t know. There’s all these shades that men literally their eyes just don’t see. And so but that’s a lot of things.

Speaker1: [00:16:40] So men are much more simple than you really realize. And so men are going to put the women that they meet into categories, a woman who is kind of like someone to spend some time with, have some fun with, you know, stuff like that. And then the woman who they might want to build a life with and you actually are the determinant of which one you’re in. You are he will go with you, the one you’re not going to have a man saying like, Oh, you know, we could have some sex, but I’m not sure where it’s going to go. Do you want to have something he’s going to say? Yes, he wants to have sex, you know, but whether that is. Sex with a woman who he wants to build a life with or a woman. I’ve mixed up which one I’m doing, but you don’t understand what I’m saying. It’s one of two categories the woman who is just willing to spend some time with versus the woman who he might want to build a life with. You show up and within minutes he knows which category he’s putting you in. Because you show up with your energy and everything you’ve been doing in private, all of that is showing up and coming across. Now, he may not be able to articulate it, but he can tell a woman who is going somewhere, who values herself, who loves being a woman, and who appreciates him being a man.

Speaker1: [00:17:57] He can tell all of that stuff. And it’s not about a certain line. It’s not about a certain dress color or a lipstick shade or any of that stuff. It’s the totality of the package of who you are, the energy that you bring. And if you bring the right energy, you’re actually going to see more men than you see right now. You’re actually going to have more conversations. Virtual or otherwise, with high quality men, our ladies and our programs, they’re having better experiences with men right now. Yes. In the middle of coronavirus than they’ve ever had. Why? Because now they learn how to come across. And that can come across on the screen, in the app, on the online dating and the FaceTime, whatever that comes across everywhere. Because how you talk, the things you say and don’t say, reveal what’s going on inside. So. A good man decides that a woman is worth his time and energy if she demonstrates on a minute by minute, hour by hour, day to day basis that she believes that she is worth time and energy. That’s how he knows whether you’re worth time and energy. All right. So I hope you enjoyed this particular episode and I look forward to talking to you again on the next episode of what’s going on in your love life and what can you do about it.

Speaker1: [00:19:25] But any questions that you have down there in the comments and I’ll be doing new episodes all the time. Bye for now. Hey, thanks for tuning into today’s episode. If you’re a single professional woman who wants your success in your love life to match your success in your career, and you’re looking to get crystal clear right now about why Truelove hasn’t been knocking on your door and how to have that happen sooner rather than later. Like, not literally, though, that would be weird, but I hope you know what I’m saying. Anyway, you’re going to want to book a call, a love breakthrough clarity call right now with my dear wife, Dr. Laura. Yes. Laura herself will get on the phone or Skype with you one on one to assess exactly what’s been holding you back and love what it is you really want and how to get there as quickly as possible. Just go to single soulmate dot com forward slash call to book a call that’s single to soulmate dot com forward slash call for free love breakthrough clarity call. That is for you if and only if you’re a single professional woman who is as serious about her love life right now as you’ve been about getting your degree or your career success. So again, that’s single soulmate dot com forward slash call to book your life changing love. Breakthrough Clarity. Call right away.

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