Sometimes you might feel like you are alone in your beliefs and desires. This can be very hard. However, you don’t need to cave in. Let’s talk about what you can do.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

– How beliefs shape cirumstances

– How to explore new ideas and beliefs

– What you can expect to happen if you do this

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Speaker1: [00:00:02] Hello and welcome to the Single Soulmate Podcast.

Speaker2: [00:00:05] Where we help you, the love warrior or love warrior to be to become your own soulmate first as the path to the life of your dreams with your soulmate by your side. Thank you for being here today. And today’s question comes from Shanda in Northern California. And Shanda writes, I am a 35 year old African American woman, and I have a dilemma. I have been trying to stay positive and have dedicated the last two years to deliberately working on issues surrounding love and attracting my soul mate. I feel that I have done so with an open heart and mind. Recently, I have seen that it’s been very difficult staying positive for myself amidst what would be considered collective thought in the last year or so, there have been many articles written and even documentaries made all surrounding the near 50% rate of unmarried black women in America. It is so prevalent within the black community that everywhere I go, black women and black men are talking about how black women will never marry. I try to ignore this and remember the basic principle that my thoughts attract what is in my life. But even I can’t deny that nearly every black woman I know over the age of 30 is still single. What do you do when the collective thought of a culture is so great? It seems as if there is no escaping. I really want to be married and have a family, but sometimes I am worried that my soulmate and I will meet after it is too late for me to physically have children.

Speaker2: [00:01:39] Shanda, I want to thank you for this very thoughtful question and it is very relevant. The first thing I want to say is there is a web of beliefs that we are all intertwined in, and the African American community is yet another community that is intertwined in a web of beliefs around themselves, love and relationship and in men. And we address these webs of belief in all of our courses, especially our love breakthrough, tell course. But here’s what I’m going to say to get you started. And the first thing I want to share with you is that your beliefs create your circumstances. And so in who you surround yourself with creates your circumstances. And so what you want to do is you want to start by changing your beliefs. Simple, but not so easy. So start by changing your beliefs. And it could be just by starting. A very simple little baby step would be to start to affirm, I am attracting the love of my life to me right now. I am attracting the love of my life to me right now. Write it down on a post-it note. Slap that baby up on your bathroom mirror and affirm that every day, every morning, every night.

Speaker2: [00:02:54] That’s the first thing. The second thing step I want to share with you is Johnny and I have several love lunch clients who are African American, and one in particular I’m thinking of right now. She magnetised her soulmate a few years ago, an amazing man of quality. And he’s African American. And they got married last year and she just had her baby, their baby a few weeks ago. And we asked her about this issue and this topic. Her name is Charlotte. This is what she said. You know, Laura, when I was working with you and Johnny in the Love Lunch program, I committed 100% to not having that be my story because it was the story of every woman around me. And I committed that I was going to be the one who was different. I was going to be the one that stood out by attracting the man, an African American, beautiful man of quality, who wanted me and wanted me exclusively and wanted to have a children with me. And it was that kind of mentality that Charlotte maintained throughout the whole program with us. She also told us that she looked around at role models. She looked at John and I. We are people of color that we’re not African American. We are people of color. And there is a very similar story in the communities that we grew up in.

Speaker2: [00:04:13] She looked at us as role models. She looked at celebrities, Denzel Washington and his wife, who’ve been together for a long time, and she modeled herself after them. So I’m going to invite you to do the same for yourself. And the third thing is the third step, baby step, I would suggest to you is keep the faith. And what I mean by that is you hold on to your vision so strong that nothing and nobody will stop you from attracting the love of your life. And what that takes is a commitment to being a rebel, a commitment to being different than the community that you have around you. You want to develop a community of like minded women, of all colors, all races, all backgrounds, including, of course, the African American culture that believe like you do, that believe it is possible and that you are going forward. In other words, you’re not complaining about men and how there’s just not enough good men around and you’re not in that conversation. Your conversation is how wonderful men are and. Look at that couple over there. Isn’t that beautiful? They are committed to each other. Okay, Shanta. So I hope that’s helpful to you. I know that’s helpful for you. Just take those baby steps. As for questions, keep learning and growing and expanding yourself and be a rebel.

Speaker1: [00:05:33] Thanks for tuning into today’s episode. If you’d like to see if we can help you find true love, marriage, family so you can live your happy ever after or happily ever after. The best way to see if or how we can help is to get on the phone with my dear wife, Dr. La one on one for free love, breakthrough clarity call where you’ll get crystal clear on three things. First, what’s been holding you back in your love life? Second, what is it that you really want? And third, what’s the fastest and surest way to get you there, starting right away from where you are right now? Now, if you’re looking to make a change in your love life and maybe in your whole life, but you don’t know what to do or what’s the best first step. So you don’t waste any more precious time or energy, and you want to know exactly what you need to do to get out of this stuck or frustrated place that you may find yourself in and you want to do the right thing in the right way. Right now you’re going to want a book that love Breakthrough Clarity Call immediately with Laura just go to single soulmate dot com forward slash call to book a call that’s single to soulmate dot com forward slash call for free love breakthrough clarity call. That is for you. If you’re a single professional woman who is as serious about her love life right now as you’ve been about getting your career or degree success now again, that single soulmate dot com forward slash call to book your life changing love. Breakthrough Clarity. Call right away.

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