You have probably tried many different ways to change your love life. Or you have tried just one way and it hasn’t worked out. Well, there are many ways you can go about it, but not all of them will lead you to find true love, marriage & family. Learn more about that in this episode.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:
– The different ways to turn around your love life
– The best path to meet your soulmate and live the life of your dreams

READY TO MAKE A DRAMATIC CHANGE IN YOUR LOVE LIFE?

If you are ready to take action and control over you love life to find the man of your dreams go to http://bit.ly/SingleToSoulmate-Call to book a FREE call with Dr. Lara Fernandez herself to assess exactly what’s been holding you back in love, what is it you REALLY want, and how to get there as quickly as possible.

Want to know your Love Pattern? After over 15 years of helping women find their soulmate, we have identified 5 different Love Patterns, each with different characteristics that keep you from finding true love. You can find what your love pattern is and how to overcome it by taking our quiz. Just go to http://bit.ly/STS-LovePatternQuiz

—-

Did you enjoy this episode?
If so, please share it with a friend and let us know by leaving a review. To get notified when a new episode comes out, subscribe to the show on your favorite platform.

Episode Transcription Start —>
S5EP35

Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to single The Soulmate Podcast where we help you, the love warrior or love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate. Living the life of your dreams. Hello. Hello. This is Johnny, and I want to welcome you to another love lesson episode here. And we’re going to be talking today about a five point checklist for the best way to turn around your love life. But I’m going to first talk about the context of it because that’s really important. So the context is this you can go about turning around your love life in a lot of different ways. You can go the hope to get lucky roots. You can go the free, cheap and easy route. You can go the, you know, wait for something to happen route, but you can go the school of hard knocks route. You can just keep trying to, you know, keep doing stuff and learning from your mistakes and stuff like that. Here’s the issue with all of those routes, those are slower. Those are less effective, less certain, and more ultimately more expensive by every measure of expensive. It’s a waste of time. It’s a waste of money. It’s a waste of your heart. All of those things like the School of Hard Knocks, you simply cannot make all the mistakes yourself. And you probably have made a bunch of mistakes. And at this pace of learning and growing, you may be looking at the fact that at this pace you’ll be meeting your soulmate when you’re like 103.

Speaker1: [00:01:52] Right. So the best way to help your love life. And really accelerate the transformation for your life is to take advantage of other people’s mistakes and add them to your mistakes and then have some some clarity around how to never make those mistakes again. And of course, what I’m talking about here is about choosing someone to mentor you, guide you, coach you, help you do something that you haven’t been able to do by yourself. And the biggest thing to do before you look for a coach is to let yourself off the hook for, quote unquote, failing. We don’t look at it as failing, number one, because all of us in our team, me, Laura, in our relationships and me and Laura’s relationship individually and and before we got to each other, we failed. We made mistakes. All the stuff and I used fails with air quotes here because the truth is that we had relationships that didn’t work out. And and our coaches, too, have quote unquote, failed, been married, got divorced, being in relationships with schmucks, knuckleheads, like what the fuck am I doing here? So we have all had that experience. So we don’t look at it as failure. We just look at it as, you know, making mistakes and not even knowing that you’re making mistakes, not knowing, you know, that you’re making mistakes, but you clearly do not know what those mistakes are.

Speaker1: [00:03:35] If you knew what those mistakes were and you knew how to fix it and how to deal with it and never make those mistakes again, then wherever you are focusing on not making mistakes, you would have been dealt with, right? So the reality is there has to be an understanding, a an emotional maturity that you don’t know all of the mistakes that you’re making. If you did, you would have addressed it. Right? We’re not dealing with 20 year olds here. We’re dealing with people thirties, forties, early, fifties, whatever, you know, who have been through life, have made mistakes and are now coming to the realization. That. They want they don’t want to continue going down the road that they’re going. The school of hard knocks. They hope to get lucky, stuff like that. So getting a coach accelerates the transformation of your love life because you then have the advantage of other people’s mistakes synthesize together in a clear roadmap. So how do you pick a coach? Well, here’s five step checklist for picking a good coach for you. Now, this is actually for the best way to choose a coach for love or anything else in your life. All right. So first part in the checklist, the you have to recognize that no coaching, no mentoring, no guidance is going to work if you are approaching it as a dabbler, meaning that you want to kind of do a little dabble in it and take one little tip and then think that one little tip is going to transform everything.

Speaker1: [00:05:16] So that’s basically not the path of mastery, that’s the path of of a dabbler. And that is basically not going to work. You have to actually care about getting the results that you want. So obviously we work with people about love and so we work with women who want true love, marriage and family. If you actually don’t care about those as if they were extremely important things in your life. And it’s basically like if it happens, it happens. If it doesn’t, it doesn’t love or anything else, you’re not going to get the results because that kind of energy is just so wishy washy and lame. Don’t you hate it when a guy’s like that wishy washy and lame with you? Well, if that’s your approach to your love life, that’s what you’re going to get is wishy washy and lame. So that’s just that, like the foundation. Okay, let’s go through the five, the five keys for the best way to pick a coach, number one. The coach, the mentor, the guide. All our clients call us. All of these these things has to have the results that you want. Now, that may seem obvious, but what a lot of people don’t know is that that most dating coaches actually are not in a relationship themselves and not married themselves. Or if they’re in a relationship, they’re just like boyfriend girlfriend, which is cute for a while, but they’re not in a committed.

Speaker1: [00:06:41] Right ring. Committed relationship. That has been a committed relationship for a while. Not just like, Oh, we got married last month and now I’m going to coach you. But most of the dating and relationship coaches are actually single. They just don’t like put that front and center and let you know that. But I want you to just think about this in any other area of life, if you are are struggling with your health and fitness, are you really going to go to a coach who has a degree or a fancy website but is not healthy and fit themselves? This doesn’t make any sense. If you want to learn how to run a marathon, are you really going to go for someone who hasn’t run a marathon? Maybe they’re really good at cycling, but they’ve never run a marathon. Well, how are they going to coach you on on running a marathon? So having the results that you want is critical. You already eliminate 70 to 80% of the people that hold themselves out there as coaches, dating coaches, love coaches or any other type of coaches. Because, look, these days, anybody can get a fancy website, anybody can get a photo shoot and look cool and stuff like that. Right. There’s broke people renting Bentleys to take pictures of to show you that they’re rich and meanwhile they’re just broke as you. Same thing in love and relationships. They’re out there teaching you how to date because all they know is how to date, because they don’t know how to get into a committed relationship.

Speaker1: [00:08:17] So obviously, me and Lara are married, but our coaches are married and and happily married because they were clients once and they follow the path and they have a completely different and better relationship. And so they don’t just know that the practices, principles, tools and protocols of our programs work. They are living examples of it. So having someone who has the results that you want is critical. That’s the first step. All right. And if they if you don’t know whether they have the results that you want, they don’t. Otherwise they tell you. Right. So that’s number one. And degrees on the wall don’t mean anything. I’m not saying that they don’t mean anything, but they don’t mean that you can do the thing. You know full well that there are people that have a degree in something and are not doing the thing because they’re not any good at the thing, even though they have a degree or they’re just not focusing on living that thing. One of the reasons why we have a lot of psychologists, psychiatrists, therapists of different types working with us is because they have come to the realization that intellectually knowing the thing and living the thing are two completely different things. And they want to come to us because they want to learn how to live it, not just know it.

Speaker1: [00:09:42] So that’s number one, make sure that the coach guide mentor has the result you want. Number two, you have to understand how learning works. And so there is conscious incompetency, meaning that you excuse me, unconscious incompetency, meaning that someone doesn’t even know that they’re incompetent about it and don’t like take offense to the word incompetent. It just means not competent, like not being successful in that thing. So there is a unconscious incompetency and then there is a move to conscious incompetency. Like you start to have a little bit of awareness and you are aware that you are incompetent in certain areas. Most people who feel like they have done the work are in that spot right there. They are aware that they’re failing in certain areas. They are aware that they have compulsions that are that are basically running. They’re continuing to do the same thing, but they’re not yet aware of how to do something about it. So they talk the talk of being aware, but they don’t know how to move to the next level, which is conscious competence, meaning that you are aware that you are making these changes to be competent, but you still have to really think about it. And then there is unconscious competence, meaning that that you are you have so ingrained the competence that you don’t have to think about it anymore. It just comes naturally. And you are consciously incompetent in a lot of areas in your life that you were once unconsciously incompetent and then had to really think about you.

Speaker1: [00:11:26] Think about tying your shoes, think about driving, think about whatever you do professionally. There’s probably a lot of things that are rookie in your profession would be like, Wow, how did you do that? And you go, Yeah, it’s just what I do. But at one time you were like, Wow, how do you do that? And it was so hard and stuff like that. Same thing with driving, tying shoes, all those types of things, right? So why does this matter? Because the the the coach who can help you actually accelerate your path. One of the things that you want them to have is mastery over that process and that you can do any of the research that takes generally ten years, 10000 hours of deliberate practice. So in our case, Lara and I have been coaching, mentoring, guiding women to to to attract the love of their life and live the life of their dreams for over 15. Years. So we have far surpassed the ten years, 10000 hours of deliberate of deliberate practice. And so what does that mean? That means that we have surpassed the time. We’re basically experimenting. Now, the good news is that we’ve been doing it so long and so deliberately that even back when we were experimenting, we were helping people. But now it’s at a whole other level because we have surpassed that ten years, 10000 hours.

Speaker1: [00:12:53] It’s not like we’re not deliberate practicing now, doing research, all of that type of stuff to stay up to date. But we have that institutional knowledge in our curriculum development, in our programs, in our coaching, so that there are very clear practices, principles, tools and protocols that we that that our clients get to avail themselves of that are proven time after time, women after woman, year after year from women all over the world. So ten years, 10000 hours. If you are working with someone who is under ten years in 10000 hours, just think about ten years because you don’t have any idea how many hours under ten years they are experimenting. So again, they have to, number one, have the results that you want. Number two, ten years, 10000 hours is how you’re going to get someone. And this, by the way, this those things even apply. Like when when Lara was practicing in her chiropractic practice. She’s obviously long since retired and someone, let’s say, was moving or they have a relative in another place. We would teach them, Lara would give them a checklist. And it’s very similar to this checklist I’m giving you here about how to choose a great chiropractor. And one of the things is ten years, 10000 hours, like they you want someone who’s been in practice for ten years because they will have seen a lot of things. There is virtually nothing that a client brings to us that we have not seen and addressed multiple times over the years because of dealing with thousands of women from all walks of life, from all over the world, primarily here in the US and Canada, but, you know, from all over the world.

Speaker1: [00:14:41] And, and so what that means is that you get the benefit of those other experiences. You also get the benefit of my mistakes, Lara’s mistakes, our coaches mistakes, Julie’s mistakes, Belinda’s mistakes, and all of our other clients. You get the benefit of that. So the second thing after have the results you want is ten years, 10000 hours. Now, the third thing I’m going to talk to you teachers. So teachers, don’t you find that everybody seems to have an opinion about what needs to happen in the educational system and what you as a teacher need to be doing? Why is that? Because people feel like because they have been to school, they know how to teach. Now, let’s say you’re not a teacher. Think about your profession just because someone has experienced whatever it is that you’re a professional at. Like I’ve been to the movies that mean I know how to make a movie. Probably not. Well, here’s the thing. Teaching something is different than doing something. So, like doing the thing and teaching someone how to do the thing are actually two completely different things. So being able to teach you in this case how to transform your love life and transform yourself into being the best version of yourself, that is a skill in and of itself.

Speaker1: [00:16:10] So like our clients benefit from the fact that I have an extensive teaching background and curriculum building background. You may have already experienced someone who maybe they do have the result, but they don’t know how to teach others how to get the result. Now in sports, we see this all the time. The superstar best players are often not the best coaches. In fact, they’re usually terrible coaches. Why? Because for them it came easy. They had to work and all that stuff, but they had talents and abilities far above the average athlete. So what we say is a bad student can often be the best teacher. Why? Because like when I think about myself, because I’m thick headed. It took me a long time to learn. You know what? A lot of our clients are the same thing. I’m a smart person, am successful in other areas of my life. But man, this area of my life, I am just banging my head against a wall. What is going on? So with that kind of understanding of that, combined with a teaching background, a curriculum building background, we not only have the results and have been doing it for ten years, we know how to teach people to have the results. You may have already done programs in courses where someone knows how to do the thing, but they don’t know how to teach you.

Speaker1: [00:17:38] They just kind of like toss it out randomly and you’re supposed to just pick it up. That’s not an effective strategy for accelerating as quickly as possible. Teaching how to do the thing is a skill in and of itself. So if you want to find a coach to help you again with love or anything else, you want to have someone who knows how to teach you how to do the thing. In this case, find true love, marriage, family, someone who knows how to teach that. Because teaching the thing and knowing the thing are two different things. You want them to be combined for optimum effectiveness and to actually just simply be the most time saving money, saving all that type of stuff. All right. Number four, you have to resonate with your coaches, mentors, guides as real people. So like in a in a healthy way, stalk them, just look them up on on Facebook, right. Or Instagram or something. Like just find out like you can friend me on Facebook, right? You can friend LA on Facebook. So you want to do that? Because here’s the thing. You become like your mentors the more you stay around them. If you are really wanting to achieve mastery, meaning you don’t just want to have a relationship, you don’t just want to have a date, you want to have an epic, magical, loving, thriving relationship that lasts decades and decades and decades till the end of your life and beyond, depending on what you believe spiritually, right? So if you are looking to to develop mastery in an area where you’ve been less than masterful, you’re going to want to follow your coaches guide guidance.

Speaker1: [00:19:36] And you have to like them. You have to resonate with them. You have to feel cool with who they are as people because you’re going to pick up either consciously or unconsciously, you’re going to pick up their way of of looking at the world. Because what they’re doing, what are what a good coach is doing is challenging the way you’re seeing the world. Because, look, let’s think of it in our area, but it’s in any area, but let’s think of it in our area. If you think that online dating stinks and doesn’t work. Knowing or being open to the idea that you may have something to do with that and being able to see and learn how to be effective with that. Seeing as online dating is the fastest growing way of people getting into relationships, it’s almost at 50% now of relationships started and online it’s growing. And we’ve been doing this for 15 years. It’s grown from under 30% to over 30% to now over 50, 40% and creeping up close to 50%. And that’s because it works if you know how to work it. But you have to first change your view of it, because if you say it absolutely doesn’t work, well, then it’s not going to work for you because it’s not just online dating that works or doesn’t work, it’s what you’re bringing to the table.

Speaker1: [00:21:10] Not good person, bad person. But do you know what you’re doing and whether you know what you’re doing or not? The evidence is what tells you whether you know what you’re doing or not, not just whether you’re a smart person. Right? So you have to resonate with the the mentors that you want to learn from and you have to feel like they’re cool people that you, you know, maybe you don’t agree with every single solitary thing that they post up on Facebook or something like that. But you have to feel like I kind of I take that life, not that you’re going to switch life and stuff, it’s your life. But yeah, I take that like in our case, we’ve been married for at this moment just under 20 years. So a few months it’ll be 20 years. We’ve been together over 20 years and we have a awesome relationship with our daughter at this moment. She’s in Europe going to to school and we talk to her all the time. We have a fantastic relationship. She’s a great kid. We have a mission that we’re incredibly passionate about helping women transform their lives, step into their power, live the life of their dreams with their soulmate by their side. We love traveling. We love being with each other, all of that stuff. So do these sound like things that you want? Do you want to have a great relationship with your kid or kids? Do you want to have a great relationship with each other? One of the hardest things about working is like we have to like be in the same office and keep our hands off each other so we can, you know, do other things, you know? And this is after 20 years together, you know, a little older, a little more wrinkly, maybe a little more puffy, you know, things like that.

Speaker1: [00:22:53] But to have a thriving relationship, but we call in our community a spiraling up relationship, if that’s what you want. You want to resonate with your mentors as real people, right? It’s great to see people on stage. It’s great to see them in crowds of thousands of people and stuff like that. But can you really relate to that? Is that really the life that you want? Do you really want to be on stage with thousands of people and stuff like that? Maybe you do, but you know what? You’re not going to come to us for that because I’m not going to teach you that. It’s about having love in your life. Having someone that you’re passionate about in your life. So if that’s really what you want, then you want to make sure that you resonate, right? Like, I have certain things. I’m a New Yorker. I speak colorfully. I curse once in a while. I cut off sometimes a lot.

Speaker1: [00:23:50] You know, if that’s if that’s not your bag of tea and you can’t get over it and stuff like bag of tea, cup of tea. If that’s not really your cup of tea and you just can’t get over that, then hey, I’m probably not the the the love coach and love mentor for you, but what you want to do is you want to look at can you get a full 360 degree view of their life? Are they willing to share that with you? And are you going to hear from all aspects of what it is that you’re learning? So, for example, in our thing for for love coaching, one of the things that women really appreciate is that they get the masculine and the feminine perspective on love, dating, relationships, men, stuff like that. Nine out of ten of the love coaches out there are not going to provide that for you either. They’re just a woman or just a man, and most of the time they’re single, so they really don’t know. What is it like to be in a long term marriage? It’s just theory to them. So you want to look at do you resonate with them? Are they real people and do you get a full 360 degree view? So our clients get to ask us questions about our life, about how we’re applying, what we’re teaching them in our life. What does it look like in the beginning of the relationship? What does it look like after a few years? Like our coaches have been married a few years.

Speaker1: [00:25:20] You know, we’ve been, as I mentioned, married almost, almost 20 years. So what does it look like so that you can have confidence that you’re on the right path? Because one little tip, it’s just like if you were driving somewhere in GPS and someone said, turn left, like, okay, that’s good. But that’s only one part of things, right? There’s going to be more challenges. So you need to have someone who’s going to take you step by step through that. Which brings us to our five, our fifth one. You got to have a coach who’s really who’s willing to have a real talk with you like no BS, no fluff, have real talk with you and tell you what it’s really like. Because if someone is telling you it’s super easy, it’s just all you need is just one little thing. They’re BSing you. If it were easy, you would have done it already, right? Much as you tried many books as you read and stuff like that. If it were easy, you would have done it already. So here’s the thing we make a distinction between easy and simple. So we actually walk our clients one step at a time through essentially like a recipe for it’s like a roadmap for living with feminine radiance and courage in their. Personal life with friends and family in their work life, with supervisors, supervisors, bosses, employees, whatever.

Speaker1: [00:26:50] Right. And, and then in their love life with the men or man that they’re dating and stuff like that into through their relationship. Step by step. It is a recipe with enough fluidity that your unique situation is brought into it. Specifically spoken to you have one on one conversations with our coaches, access to us every single week to ask specific questions about how to apply it in your life. All kinds of things. So. But. It is not easy. It is simple, especially when you know what to do, in what order and and what matters and what does it matter? But it is not easy. It is change. And us human beings don’t like change. We don’t want things to be different. Even though we want things to be different, we don’t want to be uncomfortable even though we’re sick and tired of being in our comfort zone where we’re at. So if you have someone telling you it’s going to be snippy, snap, just this one tip. This is one book that’s going to change everything. That’s you know, in my experience working with thousands of women from all over the world, it’s just B.S. It can be simple if you stop taking a scattershot dabblers approach and focus in and develop the path of mastery. But that’s that doesn’t mean it’s easy. I want you to think of it this way. If you wanted to develop skill as a martial artist and you decide on Monday to go to a taekwondo class, on Tuesday, you’re going to go to a karate class.

Speaker1: [00:28:37] On Thursday, you’re going to go to a judo class on Friday, you’re going to go to a muay Thai. Is that the way to pronounce it? Muay Thai class. Right. And you’re going to do that every week. What’s going to happen is you’re going to scatter your energy. You’re going to get confused by the different things because some things are a little bit different in the different martial arts and you’re never going to develop mastery. This is what a lot of people are doing in their approach to transforming their love life. They’re getting tips from here, videos from their podcast from here, blog articles from there, a book from there. It’s all over the place. No wonder you’re not moving forward. No wonder you’re feeling scattered and overwhelmed because you’re trying to piece together something that is right there available for you in a simple step by step path. That’s what we provide our clients a simple step by step path in order to focus. But if someone is telling you that, it’s easy. That just hasn’t been my experience. It’s not. If it were easy, you would have already done it. It requires a certain amount of boldness of going for your dreams. It requires a certain amount of self-love to to recognize that your dreams actually matter. It requires a certain amount of willingness to be uncomfortable, because if it were comfortable, free, cheap and easy, you would have already had it, because you probably have tried the comfortable, free, cheap and easy route.

Speaker1: [00:30:07] And so it requires getting out of your comfort zone to allowing you to have something different. It requires you to think differently about the path that you’re taking because the path that you’re taking is not leading you where you want to go. And evidence of that is to look back at the last few months or years of your love life and see is it getting better and better and better? And each guy is just tons better than the previous guy. And you feel like it’s just a matter of time. You feel confident that if Mr. Dreamboat walked up to you tomorrow, you would know what to say, how to say it, how to not screw up the relationship. And you would feel like the prize. You would know that you’re magnetic. You would know that he feels like the luckiest man in the world and how to continue to have him feeling like the luckiest man in the world. You would be walking with an air of confidence knowing that it would be knowing that that would happen. And you wouldn’t be here. Because if you had all that. You wouldn’t be searching. For something else. You wouldn’t be searching for a new path, a new way. So whether it be in love or any other area of your life.

Speaker1: [00:31:26] This is how to select a coach, a mentor, a guide who can actually help you change things. But nobody can do your pushups for you. You’ve heard that phrase you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink and all those different things like that. The bottom line is you still have to boldly claim your dream. You want a coach who has the results that you want. In this case, you want marriage. You want to have your coaches be all married. That’s what our team is. You want the person or people to have ten years, 10000 hours of institutional knowledge and delivered practice. We have actually way more than that. You want someone who knows how to teach the thing because doing the thing and teaching the thing are two different things. We happen to have teaching experience because I have teaching background and curriculum building and our clients appreciate that. Many of them say that this is the best, most organized, clearest program that they have ever taken because it is so clear and step by step and they don’t feel confused. And that’s because most of the people out there are just throwing stuff out there. And they call themselves a teacher, but they don’t really know how to teach. So number four, you have to resonate with people as real people and just stalk them in a non creepy but cool way. Look them up. Nowadays you can find people on Facebook.

Speaker1: [00:32:52] I’m not on Instagram, but Lara is on Instagram. We have a YouTube channel, whatever, but you can find stuff about people and you want to see not just their professionals, slick website and stuff like that. You want to see them as real people and say, No, do I resonate with this or not? Not. Are they perfect people? We’re not perfect people. We’re not holding ourselves out as perfect people. But you have to human to human connect with them. Because while the person who’s got the super fancy slick website and and Hollywood stuff and, you know, the the big name and all that type of stuff, you’re not getting to talk with them one on one. You’re not getting to ask them any questions anyway. So, you know, there’s such a distance there, it makes you feel like, rah, rah, that’s awesome. But you’re not really getting coached by them directly anyway. So you want to really look at do you resonate with them as real people? Do they have a way for you to see them as real people? There’s one guy out there who’s holding himself out as a love coach. You can’t find anything about him online. You can’t. You don’t even know if he’s straight or gay. But he’s holding himself as a love coach who teaches women how to date guys. But you can’t find a lick of information about him personally. There’s people out there that are holding themselves out as love coaches.

Speaker1: [00:34:10] They’re not even real people. There’s some that create a fake name, so you know them by their fake name, but that’s not even their real name. Then there’s some people that they’re just actors. They’re not even a love coach. They’re just an actor that a marketing company hired to sell their their dating coaching stuff. So you you really have to and this applies in every area of of coaching, mentoring, whatever is that there’s sometimes there’s just fake people. So you want to really look or you do resonate with them as real people. And then the fifth one is you got to have someone who’s willing to tell you the real deal and not B.S. You not tell you, oh, snip body snap, easy as pie. Like I said, there’s a huge difference between easy and simple working with us. Our clients say it is simple, but they don’t. We don’t bullshit them about, Oh yeah, it’s easy. You just do this and boom, everything happens. You do step by step, day step. It’s not magic, but it’s magical what happens. And because you’re going step by step by step, you actually move faster than what you have been doing in the past using that example of the martial arts instead of doing martial arts. Monday on karate. Tuesday on judo. Judo Thursday on taekwondo, Friday on on whatever Muay Thai or something like that, Saturday on on Cro-Magnon or whatever that stuff is called. You actually focus in on, let’s say, taekwondo, and then every day you’re doing it, you’re going to move farther, faster, you’re going to develop mastery, you’re going to develop confidence, and you will be confident when Mr.

Speaker1: [00:35:48] Dream Boat comes along because you will have clearly and consciously magnetised him to you. Because how do I know that? Because our walls are filled with clients who have done that, who have done that. And you can, too. That’s the thing, is that you can, too. So if you find another couple that you can learn from, who has has the result that you want. They’re happily married. They’ve been doing this for more than ten years and 10000 hours. They have specific professional knowledge on how to teach you resonate with them as real people and they’re willing to tell you the real talk. By all means, you should go study with them and don’t dabble. But if you don’t have that, what are you doing? Are you trying to dabble and get a tip here and a tip there? That’s the slowest, most expensive and heartbreaking way to go. So I want to encourage you, if you really want to move forward faster, pick a coach mentor guide who follows these five keys and then allow yourself to move away from being a dabbler looking for the convened, the most convenient, the free, cheap, easy, comfortable thing and be willing to be bold and go for your dreams. Be willing to be bold and go for your dreams because nobody can want it more than you.

Speaker1: [00:37:17] But if you want it, there is a path to getting it. You just have to believe that you’re worth it. Hope you enjoyed this love lesson. Bye for now. Hey, thanks for tuning into today’s episode. If you’re a single professional woman who wants your success in your love life to match your success in your career, and you’re looking to get crystal clear right now about why true love hasn’t been knocking on your door and how to have that happen sooner rather than later. Like, not literally though, that would be weird, but I hope you know what I’m saying. Anyway, you’re going to want to book a call, a love breakthrough clarity call right now with my dear wife, Dr. Lara. Yes. Lara herself will get on the phone or Skype with you one on one to assess exactly what’s been holding you back and love what it is you really want and how to get there as quickly as possible. Just go to single soulmate dot com forward slash call to book a call that single to soulmate dot com forward slash call for free love breakthrough clarity call that is for you if and only if you’re a single professional woman who is as serious about her love life right now as you’ve been about getting your degree or your career success. So again, that’s single to soulmate dot com forward slash call to book your life changing love. Breakthrough Clarity. Call right away.

Episode Transcription End —>

Hope you enjoyed this episode of Single to Soulmate! If you want to learn more about Johnny and Lara or want to start your own soulmate journey, go to johnnyandlara.com.