Tired of dating men that are unwilling (or unable) to commit to a REAL relationship?

It’s super common these days and it can be frustrating. You might end up feeling reluctant to even try anymore. But you don’t want to give up on your dreams- so check this episode out to see WHY this keeps happening to you, and what you can do about it.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

– Why you keep dating the wrong men

– How to avoid commitment-phobes

– What to do to attract a quality man willing to COMMIT

READY TO CHANGE YOUR LOVE LIFE FOR THE BETTER, FOREVER?

If you’re ready for the first step towards major transformation & true love at last, head over to https://singletosoulmate.com/call to book a FREE 1-on-1 call with Lara herself. She’ll assess exactly what’s been holding you back in love, how to get what you REALLY want, and if or how we can help you get it as quickly as possible.

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to single The Soulmate.

Speaker2: [00:00:06] Podcast where we help you, the love warrior or love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate. Living the life of your dreams.

Speaker1: [00:00:18] Hi. This is Laura Fernandez. So how have you been? Have you been dating commitment phobes? Like the kind of guys who just don’t want to get in a relationship? And has this been kind of like something you’ve been experiencing off and on for years and years and years? So have you gotten to the point where. You know, you meet a guy and you go out on a date with him and you seemed really great. And then maybe he even asks you out on a second date. And then even maybe a third. But. You get into, you finally have that kind of deeper conversation and you find out he’s really not looking for a relationship right now. He’s just looking to, you know, either hook up or just to have like a friend, that kind of thing. And he’s not really ready for that or he’s just getting out of a relationship or something like that. And you’ve already invested time and energy into him. Has that started to happen yet for you? Maybe it’s happened for years now. So each day that you go out on, you’re wondering, is this going to be another date? That kind of leads nowhere. Kind of sucks, right? And the truth is here is that if this doesn’t stop. If you keep using the same thought process, the same the same decision making, the way you’ve been doing it, your same approach.

Speaker1: [00:01:36] You’re going to start to experience what I call dating reluctance. Huh? Dating reluctance. So what does that mean? Dating reluctance is where you you put yourself out there on the dating apps. You put yourself out there in real life, but you’re kind of doing it half heartedly, you know what I mean? Like your energy. Like you try to get yourself all pumped up and you get on those dating apps and you, you know, you like some guys and you send them messages and you respond, but you’re. Hurts. Not 100% in it. You’re half hearted about it. And over time. That dating reluctance. It affects the men that you attract. So it becomes like a downward spiral. So all of these men that you have either been in a relationship with and broken up, so you’ve had some maybe tough breakups or all these men that you’ve gone out a date with on a date with. But it led nowhere because they didn’t want a commitment or they only wanted, you know, like friends with benefits or, you know, they only wanted one thing, really. Over time, that’s going to affect your self-esteem. It’s going to affect your confidence in yourself. It’s going to affect the energy that you’re giving off. Yes. Even in the dating apps, it shows up. It shows up in some way, shape or form in how you’re showing up in that kind of half hearted way online and out there in real life.

Speaker1: [00:03:04] And that dating reluctance, that is the kiss of death for attracting a high quality commitment. Marriage minded man. It just can’t happen when you’re in that halfhearted low self confidence place. So what you want to do instead, and this is very important you want to learn how to be the woman who attracts high quality men left and right. And what I mean by that, this is about your beingness. This is about the feminine radiance and the courage that you give off. And that may sound woo woo. But after 17 years of coaching and leading successful women to love, this is the truth. Your energy, your beingness that you’re giving off into the world is affecting. How you show up on dates, how you show up online, how you show up in real life. It’s also could also be affecting your career. A lot of women say that it does and could also be affecting your family and your friends and how you show up with them. So here’s the thing, though. Here’s the problem. No matter how many dating tips or tricks that you learn and you learn all these texting tricks, I know they have them on on YouTube. I see them.

Speaker1: [00:04:29] All of these little quick tips, quick fixes. They’re not going to work for you until you get your beingness, your your your feminine radiance and your courage fixed. See your thought process. The inner and the energy that you give off is really everything. It overrides dating tips and tricks. It overrides all of that. So I really want you to think about this for a moment. I really want to invite you to to to imagine one year from now, just one year. I mean, this is it’s going to fly by anyway. But really, one year is not that long. It’s going to just fly by. But imagine one year from now. If you fix this, if you were able to step into that feminine radiance, that that courageous being that’s really already inside you. You’ve just been worn down with breakup after breakup. Divorce after after divorce. One low commitment guy after the next. That power is in you. You just need to know how to tap into it. And so from one year from now, imagine you’re in that feminine power, that feminine radiance that you’re just giving off. And you’ve had this amazing year of attracting higher and higher quality guys until you finally meet the one and it just clicks. Imagine what that will feel like. Where you are living your best life. You are. You’re showing up in the world as your most confident self.

Speaker1: [00:06:05] You haven’t been having that dating reluctance because you know how to pick men. You know how to quickly tell if a man is worth your time or not. And so because of all of this knowledge that you have inside of you, not just the knowledge, but the energy that you’ve been giving off, one day you just meet that special someone, whether it’s online on a dating app or whether it’s at the, you know, at the produce aisle in your grocery store. It doesn’t matter. But you’ve locked eyes with a man that you know and he knows two of you are going to be together for the rest of your your lives. And that going to happen in one year or less. But it cannot happen when you are half hearted, half heartedly putting yourself out there, when you’re experiencing that dating reluctance, when your energy that you’re giving off. Is telling every commitment minded man within 100 feet to stay away. That cannot happen for you. So you’re going to have to change your approach. You’re going to need a fresh new approach for something new to happen. Does that make sense? Right. So one year from now, you’re planning your wedding. One year from now. He’s putting a ring on your finger. But it starts right now. It starts right here.

Speaker1: [00:07:19] And that’s really about you taking more empowered and more inspired actions now. And you’re going to have to be willing to kind of look at yourself like really kind of take stock and be honest with yourself. And if that’s you, if you’re really ready to be honest with yourself, I’m not saying to beat yourself up. I’m not saying to kind of get out that whip and be mean to yourself. Not at all. I’m talking about taking ownership and responsibility so that you can create a new future for yourself because it’s not just going to happen by accident. It needs to happen intentionally. Otherwise, it would have happened by now, right? Yeah. So if you’re really ready to take action and have a learn a whole new approach so that you’re beingness, so that you’re, you’re the energy that you’re giving out to men is one of, of of I’m only attracting the marriage minded men. I’m only I’m the kind of woman that’s only attracting high quality men. If you’re ready to do that, you ready to learn more about that Johnny and I have created. A free master class. Now, this is a 45 minute master class. We have just just put tons of our energy and tons of our 17 years of experience into this. So hours and hours have been put into creating a 45 minute master class where we’ve distilled the five key steps, the five vital shifts that all of our clients, all of our successful clients have made in order to go from single to soulmate and to do it quickly.

Speaker1: [00:08:58] And if you’re ready for that and if that if you want that to be you, you’re going to want to watch this this master class. And you’ll watch it. You’ll watch it. You’ll want to actually be able to sit down. You want to watch it where you don’t have any distractions, or you can be really focused and you can take notes because doesn’t your future, the life of your dreams, the dreams that you have for for true love, marriage and family, doesn’t it warrant you being undistracted and focused on it for 45 minutes and to take notes? And I’d say, yes, it does, but you have to say yes, I’ll be glad to give that to you. That’s a gift from me and Johnny. And it’s the five vital shifts that all of our clients have had to make to go from single to soulmate. So so that if you want 2022 to be your year for love, reach out to me. We’d love to help you with that. We’d love to support you in that. All right. So thanks for joining me here. I look forward to connecting with you soon. Take care.

Speaker2: [00:09:57] Thanks for tuning in to today’s episode. Hey, if you’re looking to make a major leap forward in going from single to soulmate, be sure to check out our free masterclass to learn the five step strategy our clients use to meet and marry the man of their dreams without dumbing themselves down or using manipulative lines. Just go to single to soulmate dot com forward slash learn that single or soulmate dot com forward slash learn for free. Masterclass on how to unlock the love you deserve and life of your dreams. Also, if you like this podcast, be sure to hit the subscribe button and maybe even leave us a review. Let us know what you love or just even like about the podcast. Because hey, when you leave us a quick and honest review that helps other awesome women, just like you discover this podcast and helps them learn, live and love better, just like you’re learning right now. So it’s a little bit of pay it forward, subscribe and leave us a review. Thanks so much.

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Hope you enjoyed this episode of Single to Soulmate! If you want to learn more about Johnny and Lara or want to start your own soulmate journey, go to johnnyandlara.com.