It seems like now a days finding a man that opens up is impossible. You keep looking for one but simply can’t seem to find him. Aren’t you tired of that? I know you probably are. So let’s talk about what you can do to stop meeting these men.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

– How to deal with emotionally unavailable men

– Being committed to yourself

– The importance of external help

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to single The Soulmate Podcast.

Speaker2: [00:00:07] Where we help you, the love warrior or love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate. Living the life of your dreams. So we have different types of episodes here on our Singles Soulmate podcast, and today we’ll be our first of this particular type. Today it’s our Q&A episode. And what that means is that I’ll be reading a question previously submitted and now I’ll be answering it. Now, right now I’m actually reading the question that people have emailed in because we’ve just started the podcast, but we’d really like to hear you, your voice, ask your question. So at the end I’ll tell you how you can easily ask your question. Question about men love dating, attracting your soulmate, anything to do with your going from single to soulmate? And I’ll be happy to replay your actual question and then answer it here on our Q&A episode. All right. So here’s our first question. All right. I seem to have a pattern of meeting emotionally unavailable and disrespectful men. Do you think I am unavailable to myself and disrespectful to myself? Or am I holding some type of energetic pattern and practice or even programming within myself or both? All right. So really good question and shows also a lot of awareness that you have about some stuff. So your awareness of your pattern, like being at the core, is really an excellent awareness.

Speaker2: [00:01:41] And let’s get about the talking about the reprogramming of those old patterns. So those old patterns come from old programming. And since the programming didn’t help and didn’t like happen overnight, the reprogramming to what you want it to be won’t happen overnight either. Unfortunately, a lot of times people think, Oh, they can just kind of like snap your fingers and undo years, maybe even decades of programs in their mind and their consciousness and unhealthy practices. So that’s not really real. It doesn’t have to take decades, but it’s not like boom, instant and overnight, but really step by step, we can definitely help you get there. So this is something that we’ve done for ourselves, Laura and I, we’ve helped others through it. You’re on the path now. The key is to not get off the path and really don’t give up because you’re awareness is really a fantastic foundation. So if you do as you notice, if you keep attracting emotionally unavailable men and disrespectful men, then yeah, on some level you really are unavailable. Now, of course it’s not a conscious, but it sounds like you’re bringing this up to your awareness, which is really empowering and can really and I don’t say this lightly, can be life changing. And you asked about whether or not you’re holding some sort of pattern in practice of unavailability within yourself.

Speaker2: [00:03:00] And so I don’t know you personally, but from what you’ve just described, yeah, it’s slightly likely. And the way you can tell in the way I’m telling you is that you’re looking at your results. Right. And it sounds like you have looked at your results. And so that’s what brought you to bring this up. So if you’ve really been wanting to find your Mr. Right, find so many love for a while now and you’ve been looking and looking and doing things and nobody’s clicked. Nothing is clicked, at least not for a long time. Maybe years then. Yeah, there’s a pattern here. Right. And the evidence, of course, is your results. So that pattern mindset or belief is like a blind spot. This is why I’m so glad you’re here, because getting a support from a love mentor who’s been there is actually consciously and intentionally attracted love. This is so important. So let’s get back to what you said for a moment. Most likely. Yes, I said you are unavailable. Right. That was your question. Is that what it is? So you might be thinking like either you’s listening or the person who submitted the question like what does that mean? Like unavailable to what? Well, it’s being unavailable to your great life. It’s being unavailable to great love. It’s being unavailable to different and better.

Speaker2: [00:04:19] And here’s the core of it being unavailable for change. And that doesn’t make you bad. That makes you human because change is scary. Like changes what we want, right? So what I suggest is that you look for ways to commit to something that will bring change in your life. Look for ways to demonstrate to yourself and to the universe that you’re very available for great love. You’re very available for a great life. Not just like available, but the next step that you’re actually committed to great love and a great life, committed to change and to allowing yourself to like stop depriving yourself of good experiences in life. There’s this idea that, like, we got to push ourselves and whip ourselves and stuff like that. And that comes from an old paradigm. If you haven’t listened to our first podcast where we talk about the four main premises, you might want to go ahead and listen to that when we talk. The old paradigm, the kind of patriarchal paradigm, but that’s where that comes from. It’s like, push yourself, whip yourself, no pain, no gain, that type of thing. So you want to be committed to allowing yourself to stop depriving yourself of good experiences in life. It lights you up as a person and as a woman. It especially lights you up to allow yourself to have good experiences in life.

Speaker2: [00:05:43] So that’s being more than just available, that’s being more than interested, really committed is a much deeper. It’s what you want to find in your man, right? Not just a guy who’s available to you and not even just a guy who’s interested in you. I mean, haven’t you already had that? Although those things are important, right? It’s a good place to start. But ultimately, you want to be with a man who is committed to you, right? So I’m going to guess the answer is like a big resounding yes. So you want to commit to you now, commit to great love in the upcoming like year or before the next year or before your 30th birthday or before your 40th birthday, whatever marker you want to use, if you like. A beautiful reminder of what it is that you’re committed to. We’d like to provide something for you that you can actually print out, hang up on your wall, maybe bathroom mirror as a daily reminder. And so to get that, you can just go to single to soulmate dot com forward slash three just the number three. You can also get show notes there. Leave comments. Thanks for listening. I hope that was helpful and I look forward to answering your question on the next Q&A episode of our single to Soulmate Podcast.

Speaker3: [00:06:57] Like what you hear so far. Make sure to never miss an episode by clicking the subscribe button. Now, if you’ve ever wondered if there are patterns in your life in an in terms of like how you relate to men and love, that maybe these patterns are sabotaging your love life. You’re going to want to check out our quick but shockingly accurate five minute quiz so that you can identify your particular love planner and right now and learn what to do to address it so it doesn’t hold you back any more. So you can make progress toward living a life of your dreams and attracting the love of your life. Just go to single soulmate dot com forward slash quiz that’s single to soulmate dot com forward slash quiz for that five minute quiz to identify your love pattern and learn exactly how to unlock the love you deserve and life of your dreams.

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Hope you enjoyed this episode of Single to Soulmate! If you want to learn more about Johnny and Lara or want to start your own soulmate journey, go to johnnyandlara.com.