On today’s episode, I (Lara) answer a question I received on how to deal with pain from the past. This is normal and something ALL of our clients have gone through as well. Letting go from past heartbreaks and tragedies can be difficult. But here’s how you can start that process and FINALLY let go of your past.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

– How to overcome your past

– What to look forward to

– How to act in the NOW

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Speaker1: [00:00:04] Hello and welcome to single The Soulmate Podcast.

Speaker2: [00:00:07] Where we help you, the love warrior or a love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate. Living the life of your dreams.

Speaker1: [00:00:22] Today’s question comes from Vanessa. And Vanessa is in Mexico City, Mexico, and this is her question. Basically, I started listening to Johnny and you for almost two months now, and the one thing I always hear you guys talk about is removing blocks. Well, my ex-boyfriend and I broke up about three months ago, and it’s mostly his decision. The breakup was very sudden for me, and it caused me a lot of horrible depression and anxiety attacks after it ended for about a month and a half. We were only together for nine months, but got to be very close during that time. And since our breakup, we have only had contact via text message and an email. And basically me telling him that I need in this email that I needed to remove our virtual connection on Facebook after he got tagged on a party picture with a new girl. I got very upset. I definitely don’t want to see that because it only upsets me. So I just decided to unfriend him. And this was exactly a month ago. Slowly but surely, I’ve been moving on and have been readjusting and feeling better about myself every day. I’m still going through it. And of course I want to find the right person for me and I’m well aware of my need to let go. My question is, does that include unfriending his friends on Facebook, too? And I know this might sound silly, as if breakups aren’t hard enough in real life.

Speaker1: [00:01:50] Now we have to deal with virtual society gossip and whatnot. I have been tempted to delete all of his friends. We have about 28 friends in common, but just yesterday one of his friends uploaded a picture of my ex and the new girl he’s going out with and they were holding hands. And once again, it made me feel awful to say the least, especially because my ex started dating so fast after me and I thought this man had loved me. And just like that, he moved on. So my point is, I’ve been wondering for a while if removing my ex’s friend from Facebook would be the right path into letting go of the past? Or am I just overthinking it? And now that she goes on to say, I’m quite torn because I like a lot of these people, even though I probably won’t hang out with them, I still see them around as most of them live in my neighborhood. And the breakup has been hard enough on me already, and I just don’t want to make this even more painful and awkward. I just want to let go, move on and let go of the past. So, Vanessa, thank you so much for this question.

Speaker1: [00:02:50] And I’m just sending you lots of love right now because I know how tough it is to go through a breakup. I remember those days, and especially if it’s not your idea, it’s not like you wanted to break up with them. It sounds like there was definitely a lot of love there. And yes, it sounds like he moved on fast for you. So I get it. I have five things, five things to share with you. And the first thing is, if it hurts too much to see pictures of him on Facebook with his new girlfriend, different, his friends unfriend them. It’s okay. It’s not the end of the world. It’s not like you said in your question to me, that you’re not that close or friends with them anyway and that you like them, but you won’t be hanging out with them. So go ahead and unfriend them if that’s going to help release some of your anxiety and help you keep moving forward. Releasing the past, then by all means, do it and don’t feel guilty about it. And the second recommendation I have for you is if you really want to move on and let go of the past, I’m highly recommending this to you, Vanessa. Go on. A man diet, take a break from dating. Give yourself at least six months.

Speaker1: [00:04:00] I challenge you to do this. A lot of our clients have told us, oh, six months. That’s way too long for me to go without dating. And this is what I’m going to tell you. I’m going to tell all of you this. Six months is the minimum I recommend from a break from dating. If you’ve been out there in the world and you’ve been dating, and especially if you’ve had a relatively recent breakup with last year, it’s okay to take a break. There’s no rush to your soulmate. And I’m going to tell you also, if you’re feeling rushed and you’re feeling anxious and you’re feeling in that kind of just a rushed energy, I’ll have a better word for it right now. But a rush of energy to find your soulmate now and got to get out there more that I’m going to tell you is not the energy from which your soul mate is going to be manifested. That is not the energy that your soulmate comes into your life. That is not magnetic energy to anything good in your life. So take a break. That’s my highest recommendation. I recommend at least six months. This is what I did for myself. I took a year and a half off, so if I can do it, you can do it. So my third recommendation is do the internal work necessary to really forgive yourself for the choices that you’ve made in the past in terms of your dating, in terms of the men that you’ve dated and really commit to raising, really raise your quality attraction factor.

Speaker1: [00:05:18] And what do I mean by that? What is your quality attraction factor? Your quality attraction factor is your magnetic energy. It’s your ability to look. If there’s a scale of 1 to 10 and ten being the best man for you, the highest quality man for you, and one being just not absolutely the opposite. Then you want to raise your quality attraction, factor up that scale. You want to go up to a ten and find your soulmate, and you may have to go kind of incrementally up. And that’s okay. You don’t always rush to the ten to your soulmate. So how do you do that? You commit, first of all, that you’re going to do that. And that means forgiving yourself of the past, doing the internal work. And I’m going to tell you, I’m tuning my own horn here. I know it. But I highly recommend, you know, the work that John and I the teachings that John and I deliver are all about this raising your quality attraction factor so you can be magnetic to the life of your dreams and your soulmate is the amazing cherry on top.

Speaker1: [00:06:23] Now, the fifth recommendation is no matter what, please, please, Vanessa, commit to yourself first owning your power, standing in your power, and really resonating with all these teachings that not only John and I do. There are other great teachers out there as well. We happen to be one of them, but start to resonate, start to magnetically attract in more teachings. Learn about yourself, do inquiry self inquiry inquiring about yourself, know thyself first and then your soulmate. He can’t be kept away from you the more you really own your power and stand in that. So treat yourself well in the form of self care, what I call extraordinary self care. What does that mean? That means taking really good care of yourself, doing things that make you feel passionate about yourself and about life, whatever that is. If it’s taking dancing classes, salsa lessons, if it’s going to a bookstore and just reading books all night, is it going on? A hike in nature with girlfriends? Whatever it is that makes you feel really good about yourself. Vibrant and high energy do more of that. So that along with all these other four steps below will combine to you, I believe, really getting on that road to your soulmate. And I hope this is helpful for you. Vanessa, thanks again for your question.

Speaker2: [00:07:46] Thanks for tuning in to today’s episode. Hey, if you’re a single professional woman who’s had success in your career or business and you want your love life to match that success, and you’re looking to get a lot of clarity right now about why true love hasn’t been knocking on your door and more importantly, what you can do about it. Then you’re going to want a book, a love breakthrough, clarity. Call right away with one of our love breakthrough specialists. So get on the phone or zoom call with you one on one to assess exactly what’s been holding you back in love. Why is it that other people are finding love and you aren’t? And she’ll also go over with you. What is it that you really want and how can you get it as quickly as possible? Now, by the end of this compassionate and professional assessment, you’ll finally have clarity plus an immediately actionable path forward. All you have to do is go to single to soulmate dot com forward slash call to book that free call. Again, it’s single to soulmate forward slash call for complementary love breakthrough call that is for you. If you’re a single professional woman who is as serious about her love life right now as you’ve been in your life, about getting your degree or degrees, your career or business success, all of that stuff. If you want to have it all and you’re ready to finally have some clarity and get a breakthrough and actionable path forward, then this is for you again, that single soulmate dot com forward slash call to book your life changing one on one assessment call right away.

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