If you want to attract your soulmate you have to be the perfect woman… Right? You might think so, but how true is it really? Do you REALLY need everything in your life in order before you start looking for love? And how much do quality men care about that?

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

– Can you find love if your life is a mess?

– How your other areas in life affect your love life

– How to be prepared to attract your soulmate

READY TO CHANGE YOUR LOVE LIFE FOR THE BETTER, FOREVER?

If you’re ready for the first step towards major transformation & true love at last, head over to https://singletosoulmate.com/call to book a FREE 1-on-1 call with Lara herself. She’ll assess exactly what’s been holding you back in love, how to get what you REALLY want, and if or how we can help you get it as quickly as possible.

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to single The Soulmate.

Speaker2: [00:00:06] Podcast where we help you, the love warrior or love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate. Living the life of your dreams.

Speaker1: [00:00:19] Hi, ladies, it’s me, Laura. And I just wanted to drop by and say hello, and I’m sitting on my couch in my home and just thought I would answer a question that I was going through some of the posts and comments and questions that I’ve seen on the Love Breakthrough Community here on this group. And I just wanted to answer it. So Camelia wrote in and she had a really good question. She said, I’m reading it here. I keep reading advice that a woman should have a life of activities. What about the woman struggling in a career and financial difficulties? She’s not allowed a relationship if she doesn’t have everything together. And Camellia I think that’s a great question and I want to address that. So it’s not required that you have like everything together and that you’d be totally perfect and your career be in perfect shape and your body being perfect shape and you know, everything. Just be like that kind of idealistic life that you see on TV and in the movies. It’s not required at all for you to find your soulmate. But there’s an important distinction here. I don’t know if you’ve ever seen and this is for all of you. You know, I don’t know if you’ve ever seen the movie Bridesmaids. Did you see the movie Bridesmaids? It’s such a silly movie. It’s really funny and hysterical. I mean, literally my stomach was hurting. I had like an AB workout because I was laughing so hard at the ridiculousness of it and there was a lot of truth in the movie and there was a lot of bullshit I really actually call bullshit on one of the big aspects of that particular romantic comedy and a lot of romantic comedies that I see out there.

Speaker1: [00:02:00] So the premise of many romantic comedies is that as a woman, you can be a mess. Actually, the message goes both ways. Men can be just a mess. I’m going to talk to you since I’m talking to women. Okay. So the premise is that you as a woman can just be a mess and do nothing whatsoever to improve your lot in life financially, emotionally, spiritually, health wise, and still find a really great guy. And I don’t think that’s actually a healthy message. I tell you what. So I’m going to use Bridesmaids as an example. So in Bridesmaids, the main character is a mess. She’s been down on her luck and we all have been. I’ve been down on my luck too, in the world. So I just want to say but here’s the thing. She brought a lot of it on herself. This is where taking responsibility for yourself is so important. And there are some women that actually push back at me when I say, take responsibility for your life and take responsibility for who you’re being. Like, Oh, I’m to blame for everything bad that happened to me.

Speaker1: [00:03:05] No, no, no. Nobody’s saying the word blame. Blame and responsibility are two totally different things. Actually, if you look them up in the dictionary, you’ll see that when I say take responsibility, what that is doing is helping you actually grab hold of the steering wheel of your life. And when you can grab hold of the steering wheel of your life, meaning that you can steer your life where you want it to be, then you are empowered and when you are empowered, you can make the changes that are necessary to get what you want in life, to go for your dreams, to become your own soulmate first. So taking responsibility now blame is a lower vibration energy. It actually puts you in a victim mindset. And we want you to know that there are victims, like many women, have been victims of abuse, rape, horrible things, cheating, lying, and not just in romantic relationships and a lot of different relationships. And we know this to be true. So you can be a victim, but you don’t have to have a victim mindset. And so blaming yourself is taking on like you’re becoming your own victim of yourself. And that’s not what we’re seeing here. I want you to take responsibility for your life and responsibility for becoming your best version of yourself, of who you are, of reaching the God given potential that your higher power has given you. There’s potential inside of you and potential to express and be your best self.

Speaker1: [00:04:35] You’re not perfect. You’re imperfect. I am very imperfect. I screw up all the time and I don’t have this perfect body or perfect life. And, you know, everything’s not perfect, but everything’s really good because I’m willing to keep learning and growing. And so Camellia, when you said I keep reading advice that a woman should have a life of activities, what about the woman struggling in a career and financial difficulty? So I want to speak to that. So when I was on my intentional and conscious journey of inner work to become the woman that could attract a man like Johnny, that could attract a man who loved me for myself and adored me and cherished me when I was on that. Journey. I had financial difficulties. I had challenges. I actually had the mistaken idea that I had to own my own home. I literally had this idea that before I could find my soulmate, I had to own my own home in Marin County, California. And as a single woman, that’s actually a really high level of perfectionism that I had on myself there. Like I had to own my own home in Marin County, California. I don’t know if you know about Marin County, California, but Marin County is like one of the wealthiest counties in the United States. And, you know, I was a single woman living in a small, teeny, tiny postage stamp studio in Marin County.

Speaker1: [00:05:59] And so, you know, and I was barely making ends meet. So during that process, though, it was actually several years of intentional, committed work on myself. Even though I was financially tight, I invested in myself, I invested time, I invested energy and I invested money actually invested money like real money resources. I actually committed I put myself in a little bit of debt and I committed to this internal growth work, the kind of growth work that we do with our clients. I committed to that and I’m so glad I did. It was the best investment that I ever could do, but I was financially strapped. There were months when I didn’t know how I was going to make my ends meet, and I certainly wasn’t perfect and I was growing my chiropractic business. I was chiropractor, I was in practice and I was relatively new at it and I was still making a name for myself. And so I had that idea that I had to have it all together. So that means that maybe ten years from then I could find my soulmate if I had to have it all together. So you see what I’m saying? So there’s like a little perfectionistic mindset that was in there. And if you’re anything like me, like a lot of our clients have said up, there’s a perfectionist inside. Like, I have to have it all together. And so I just want to let you know, Camellia And for all of you who may be kind of harboring those thoughts, you don’t have to have it all together.

Speaker1: [00:07:21] But here’s the thing. You do want to invest that time, energy and money, whatever you can in your self, in becoming your own soulmate first in getting a mentor that is the best time and energy. Money and I spent on myself is finding a mentor who could help me go down the path that she had gone down and in my whole life changed from that commitment. So I hope that answers the question. Camellia what else? She said she is not allowed a relationship if she doesn’t have everything together. Nobody’s saying that. Nobody in this community saying that maybe they are elsewhere. You’re not denied a relationship, a good, healthy relationship if you don’t have everything together. In fact, my experience is that you make the commitment first to yourself, to you have that growth mindset. What Johnny and alcohol being a student of love, that’s a growth mindset, meaning every relationship that you ever have been in has been a learning and a blessing for you, meaning that every relationship has given you something to learn about yourself, giving you something to learn about men, about what you want and what you don’t want, right in relationship. And you don’t have to have everything together, but you want to be committed on the path as if you could have everything together.

Speaker1: [00:08:40] But that doesn’t happen. Our first date anniversary was July 17th of the year 2000, so I still haven’t gotten it together. It’s not great and I teach this stuff I still haven’t got together. The key is, is I’m committed. I’m that student of love. Once you find your husband, like before that, there’s that commitment to yourself to growing and learning. And then even after you find your husband, you’re still growing and learning hopefully, right? You’re not just resting on your laurels, just sitting back, okay. Everything’s just fine and dandy. I found my guy. So you’re still doing that? And you know, anybody who says that they’re a master of love unless they’re Jesus or Buddha or some high level kind of elevated being like that, I call bullshit on it. I’m still learning and growing. I’m still a student of love and I’m teaching this. I’m teaching you after 18 years of learning and growing. Actually, before that I was learning and growing. So that’s what I’m talking about. Camelia We’re not saying you have to arrive at a certain destination to find your soulmate, but you need to be on the path, on a real path, not just talking about it, not just saying I’m on the path, not just going to random meditation retreats, which are great, but actually committed to specific learning in this area of becoming your own soulmate first. And then in that process, learning about yourself, learning about your blocks.

Speaker1: [00:10:11] You know, John and I, in our research, we have discovered the ten most common blocks to find. Finding soulmate love. And in that research, we’ve seen this over and over again in women that we work with, there are ten major blocks. There are other blocks, but the ten biggest ones that are most common and this is what we reveal and help our women. Our clients are participants in our live level breakthrough weekends, which is actually coming up. We actually help them break through them, actually realize what they are, have huge ahas and breakthroughs around themselves, like how they contributed to where they’re at in their relationships and breakthroughs around men, breakthroughs around their love ancestry, meaning they’re love role models. Like who have been your role models, right? So there’s ways to have breakthroughs around that get on the path camellia and this is for all of you even if you’re in a soulmate relationship right now, like some of you here are clients and you have found your soulmate, you’re married. Some of you I know are expecting babies. Some of you I know are planning a wedding anniversary soon. You know, a lot of women that we have worked with here who will be or who are watching and I know you know what I’m talking about. You have found your soulmate and yet there’s still learning and growing to do. But the thing is, is what you did is you committed first to this path of being a student, of love.

Speaker1: [00:11:32] And from that commitment and again, it’s not just a commitment in words. It’s a commitment in your time. So you look at your calendar, right? What is on your calendar? It’s a commitment in your energy, right? Putting forth actual energy, doing things differently, getting out of your comfort zone. Right. And money actually investing. And you don’t have to you can invest a lot, a lot of money in it and you can invest. You can start off small and then little by little invest more. I personally feel that the investment that I put in myself, which was really tens of thousands of dollars, y’all, and I’m so grateful I did, that was worth every penny because of that. It’s not like I just caught a guy, a court, Johnny, my whole life up, leveled my chiropractic business, grew my health grew, my friendships shifted for the better. I mean, I had better quality friends. So all this require Camellia and all of you is getting on the path, investing that time, energy and money. So Camellia, I hope this answers your question. Get on that path, invest that time, energy and money and you will see your life shift. You will see it shift, it will change around. Everything will get better. That’s my experience and that’s the experience of so many of our clients. So thank you for that question. All right. I’ll talk to you later. Bye bye.

Speaker2: [00:12:52] Hey, thanks for tuning into today’s episode. If you’re a single professional woman who wants your success in your love life to match your success in your career, and you’re looking to get crystal clear right now about why Truelove hasn’t been knocking on your door and how to have that happen sooner rather than later. Like, not literally though, that would be weird, but I hope you know what I’m saying. Anyway, you’re going to want to book a call, a love breakthrough clarity call right now with my dear wife, Dr. Laura. Yes. Laura herself will get on the phone or Skype with you one on one to assess exactly what’s been holding you back and love what it is you really want and how to get there as quickly as possible. Just go to single to soulmate dot com forward slash call to book a call that’s single to soulmate dot com forward slash call for free love breakthrough clarity call. That is for you if and only if you’re a single professional woman who is as serious about her love life right now as you’ve been about getting your degree or your career success. So again, that’s single soulmate dot com forward slash call to book your life changing love breakthrough clarity call right away.

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