We either teach people to treat us with dignity and respect, or we don’t. Nobody deserves mistreatment. But we are partly responsible for the mistreatment that we get at the hands of someone else. I know it might sound wrong but let me explain in this episode why.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

– How to take loving responsibility

– Having a higher level of commitment to loving and valuing yourself and love

– Non-negotiable boundaries to help you have that space to attract ‘Real Love”

READY TO CHANGE YOUR LOVE LIFE FOR THE BETTER, FOREVER?

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Speaker1: [00:00:04] Hello and welcome to single The Soulmate Podcast where we help you, the love warrior or love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate. Living the life of your dreams. All right. So here’s our question for the day. Hi, Lauren. Johnny. I have a two part question. First, I was in a relationship for six years with a man I truly loved, but he didn’t always treat me well. How do I figure out what I’m doing wrong to cause or allow this mistreatment? I feel as if I’m a very loving, accepting person. So it’s hard for me to understand what it is that I’m doing to allow this. Second, my birthday is next week. I know I will hear from my ex. He’s hurt me very much, but I still loved him enough to marry him. He left me for another woman when I asked him for more of a commitment. Is it best to just ignore his calls and texts even if he wishes me? Happy birthday. All right, so this is a good question. Hey, leave a name. If you email in your question or call in your question, that would be great. But anyway, so this is a good question. I want to make clear, though, in my answer that you didn’t cause this mistreatment from your ex. You didn’t deserve that. Nobody deserves mistreatment. You know, you didn’t really say exactly what, but nobody deserves it. You deserve to be treated well. He is who he is. And you really don’t want to be blaming yourself for his unkindness or mistreatment.

Speaker1: [00:01:40] However, you can take responsibility for allowing it by maybe ignoring any red flags or yellow alerts that you saw coming up. So how to take loving responsibility. Let’s talk about that. You can just start with saying I’m responsible for missing or ignoring the red flags in that relationship. Now, that’s it. Just saying that you don’t have to beat yourself up or blame yourself or anything like that. Just saying it, you begin to shift your energy and take your power back. So there’s a saying We teach people how to treat us by what we tolerate. And so being loving and accepting is wonderful. And you don’t want to be accepting of mistreatment because that’s not loving and accepting of yourself. All right. So we either teach people to treat us with dignity and respect or we don’t. And so this means we are partly responsible for mistreatment at the hands of someone else. Again, this is not to blame you in any way, shape or form, but we want to recognize how powerful we are. So we shape others behavior when we teach them what they can and can’t get away with with us. All right. So that being said, you asked, like how to change. Well, you’re doing it right now. You’re reaching out for new love, learning for support. Maybe you’ve decided that you’re going to become a student of love, what we call a student of love. When you continue to do that and you invest more time, energy resources in yourself more than you ever have in your life, what happens is you’ll begin to value yourself more and you’ll begin to see the shifts in how people treat you because you will be treating yourself better.

Speaker1: [00:03:23] So you want to treat yourself as well as you want to be treated by your soulmate and you want to begin that. Now you commit to yourself first and foremost, when you have a higher level of commitment to valuing yourself and to love, you will attract someone who has a higher level of commitment to loving you and to love itself. And that’s what this podcast and all of our teachings is all about. It all starts with you, that relationship with yourself. So regarding your birthday, if he does call or text now, it’s hard to be too specific without knowing more about your situation. I don’t know if there was any children involved or anything like that, but it doesn’t sound like it. You didn’t say that. It sounds like you would benefit from some clear boundaries. And so you telling him very clearly to not communicate with you ever again, that would be self respecting behavior. Now may be hard to face, but although you loved him enough to marry him if he left you for another woman when that subject was broached, then it seems highly likely that he wasn’t the right guy for you, and he probably never was. So you go ahead and stand up for yourself. Boundaries or girls for us. Best friend Laura likes to say and you know, makes them clear non-negotiable boundaries to help you have the space to attract real love in your life.

Speaker1: [00:04:40] Someone who will love, honor and respect you. And you start by loving, honoring, respecting and valuing yourself. You get about the business of living your best life now. So hey, that’s my answer to your question. I hope that was helpful to you on the next episode of Single Day Soulmate. Hey, thanks for tuning in to today’s episode. If you’re a single professional woman who wants your success in your love life to match your success in your career, and you’re looking to get crystal clear right now about why true love hasn’t been knocking on your door and how to have that happen sooner rather than later. Like, not literally though, that would be weird, but I hope you know what I’m saying. Anyway. You’re going to want to book a call. A love breakthrough clarity call right now with my dear wife, Dr. Laura. Yes. Laura herself will get on the phone or Skype with you one on one to assess exactly what’s been holding you back and love what it is you really want and how to get there as quickly as possible. Just go to single soulmate dot com forward slash call to book a call that single to soulmate dot com forward slash call for free love breakthrough clarity call that is for you if and only if you’re a single professional woman who is as serious about her love life right now as you’ve been about getting your degree or your career success. So again, that’s single soulmate dot com forward slash call to book your life changing love. Breakthrough Clarity. Call right away.

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