Being a single woman for years, Lara kept attracting men who are emotionally unavailable to her. In today’s episode, she shares her thoughts and experiences on the topic of being single and available- and what it really means to be ‘ready’ for a relationship.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

– The truth- and how it will set you free

– Why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable men

– The trait you probably have that attracts noncommittal men like moths to a flame

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to single The Soulmate Podcast.

Speaker2: [00:00:07] Where we help you, the love warrior or love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate. Living the life of your dreams.

Speaker1: [00:00:21] So welcome to another audio blog episode of the single The Soulmate Podcast. This article was kind of controversial on our blog and I really wanted to update it for you and share it with you here. So. So, here we go. Are you single and available really now as a single woman? For years I kept attracting men who were emotionally unavailable and scared or not ready for commitment. I think you probably know what I mean. The relationship would start out seemingly on track with a guy really, really into me, and then invariably around the fourth to six month mark, we’d break up. And the reasons we’re almost always the same. He’s not ready or it’s too soon after his previous relationship. Something along those lines. And I, as the oh so innocent and helpless victim, would be angry or sad or after a particularly painful breakup, I’d be numb. Never did it occur to me to see my part in the breakup. Well, actually, that’s not true. I blame myself entirely for the whole thing, thinking I’m not enough or I’m too much for him, or I blame him entirely for the breakup because of his issues. At the time, I was not emotionally mature enough yet to recognize that. Yes, he definitely had his part in the dissolution of the relationship, as did I, and that if there was a similar pattern over and over again of me attracting the same type of guy that that pattern had to do with me. Ouch. That really hurt to think about that. But through the inner work that I did, the kind of work that we do with our clients and our courses and programs, I learned that those men were simply a mirror for where I was at emotionally. Now, I didn’t like this. It certainly made me uncomfortable to look at this.

Speaker1: [00:02:25] But realizing that there were parts of me that were unemotionally or excuse me, rather emotionally unavailable, there are parts of me that were scared and parts of me that were not ready and realizing this was one of the major blocks I was able to overcome over time. Now it was crucial for me to recognize that I was all of those things. And from that awareness and from taking responsibility for that and owning it, things started to change at a core level. That’s when my whole life started to change for the better. I mean, talk about empowerment now. The Bible says that the truth will set you free. And I know that that message is in all spiritual teachings, all spiritual books on some level, that the truth will set you free. Now, here’s my edition. The truth will set you free. Yes, but not until it pisses you off, humbles you. And not until you can claim it as the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, so help you God. So the title of this audio blog could have been Maybe you attract unavailable guys because you are unavailable now. You could shift that a little and it would still be the truth to say maybe you attract wishy washy guys because you’re wishy washy, or maybe you attract critical, judgmental guys because your critical and judgmental. Now, does that piss you off? Do you see this as truth or as BS? Are you brushing it off like, Oh, that doesn’t apply to me. Just check in for a moment. Notice yourself. Really notice? Don’t know. I’m out here. Notice your reaction to what I’m saying here now. Thank you so much for listening and I look forward to connecting with you on the next audio blog.

Speaker2: [00:04:16] Hey, thanks for tuning in to today’s episode. If you’re a single professional woman who wants your success in your love life to match your success in your career, and you’re looking to get crystal clear right now about why Truelove hasn’t been knocking on your door and how to have that happen sooner rather than later. Like, not literally though, that would be weird, but I hope you know what I’m saying. Anyway, you’re going to want a book, a call, a love breakthrough clarity call right now with my dear wife, Dr. Lara. Yes. Lara herself will get on the phone or Skype with you one on one to assess exactly what’s been holding you back and love what it is you really want and how to get there as quickly as possible. Just go to single soulmate dot com forward slash call to book a call that’s single to soulmate dot com forward slash call for free love breakthrough clarity call. That is for you if and only if you’re a single professional woman who is as serious about her love life right now. Has. You’ve been about getting your degree or your career success. So again, that’s single to soulmate dot com forward slash call to book your life changing love breakthrough clarity call right away.

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