If you’ve been single for years or going from one relationship to another you might have gotten the habit of being alone. But how can this be if you are actively trying to find true love? Let me explain in this episode

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

– Discovering if being alone has become a habit

– What to do to stop this habit

– Why you should work on this bad habit

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to single The Soulmate.

Speaker2: [00:00:06] Podcast where we help you, the love warrior or love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate. Living the life of your dreams.

Speaker1: [00:00:18] Hello. Hello. This is Laura Fernandez, and I’m so happy to be here with you today. And the title of this training today is Are You In the Habit of Being Alone? Are you in the habit of being alone? So let’s let’s discuss that. So being alone, being single, especially if this has been going on for four years, where you’re either going from break up to taking a break from dating to back to another waste of time dead in relationship that lasted you two or three years and wasted your precious prime years. Or maybe the toxic kind of dating cycle continues where you date for a few weeks, date for a few months, and then he goes to you, he leaves you. Or maybe you haven’t been dating in months or years. And it’s getting kind of harder and harder to imagine that the man of your dreams is even out there. And maybe even deep down. It might be a little bit afraid to admit it, but. Do you secretly worry? Sometimes at time is actually kind of running out on you and that you’re going to be alone forever. Like, has that started yet? Because you see, being single can become a habit. And what is really a habit anyway? What is that? Well, the technical definition is a habit, is a regular tendency or a practice, especially one that’s hard to give up. So your habits are formed by your micro decisions, your little tiny, small decisions that you make throughout your days, throughout your weeks, throughout your months and the years as they go by and those these little micro decisions, they become conditioned, they become even unconscious, and they harden and crystallize into habits that unfortunately they can keep you blocked from your soulmate.

Speaker1: [00:02:12] And you try and you try to overcome the blocks. You try to date different types of men even. Or maybe you get out of your comfort zone and you get on three or four or five or six dating apps. But something is keeping your true love from you. Something’s blocking you and you’ve tried everything again. You try those dating apps, maybe even you’re switching them up thinking that’s the app, that’s the problem. Or you’re listening to all these podcasts with love and relationship experts, you’re reading tons of books, you’re reading the blogs, you’re going to therapy, you’re YouTube. You’re watching YouTube for different tips and tricks on on texting and and men and all this stuff. And, you know, you’re a good person, right? You’ve got a lot of love to give. If friends tell you that you’re a catch even in the but you’re seeing the years flying by that calendar just keeps going by. And and if you’re wanting to build a family, you really start to feel like those those years are kind of just ticking by.

Speaker1: [00:03:15] Right. So if, as you probably already noticed, just wanting soulmate love isn’t enough. It isn’t enough in this day and age because dating in 2022, it’s different. It’s yes, it’s it’s harder than at any other time in history. Did you know that do you feel that you’re probably feeling that like this is too hard, it shouldn’t be so hard. And you know what? You’re right. Because if you’re using the old way, the old approach of dating, mating and relating to men and unconsciously and habitually giving your power away to men, you’re going to stay stuck. You’re going to be repeating the same toxic dating cycles again and again. The same patterns keep coming up. You see, here’s the thing. Your parents, God bless them, they may not have been the best loved role models for you, right? Maybe they were good, but it doesn’t matter whether they were not good or they weren’t or they were good and they or they weren’t. But they simply could not have modeled or prepared you for dating in this day and age, with all those dating apps, with all the distractions that that men and yes, us women have now and you know it, you feel that somehow, right? So you’re going to need a whole new approach with new conscious habits and a solid decision making framework, meaning a solid way to make decisions and choices about men. Like when you meet a man, is he even worth giving your phone number to? Is he worth that first date? Is he is he worth going out on a second date? Is you know, is he worth getting into a relationship? You need a way of making decisions inside of your head and making choices that is healthy, one that works for this new dating world that we live in.

Speaker1: [00:05:14] And if you’re really at a point where you’re really sick and tired of kind of the the just the the low quality men that you’re meeting or meeting no men at all. And you’re really ready to try a radically different approach that doesn’t waste any more time for you. And, you know, you need to build those new habits and, you know, but you don’t really know what they are. And, you know, you need to make new decisions around your love life, but you’re not really sure what that looks like. I have just recorded a brand new training masterclass, so this is called your five step game plan to go from single to soulmate faster than you ever dreamed. This is an altogether new and valuable content, and I pulled it directly from our advanced programs and I’m pulling back the curtain for you. So it’s a 45 minute masterclass and it is a game changer. It is a habit changer. But here’s the thing. And it’s free. It’s absolutely free for you.

Speaker1: [00:06:17] You have to be willing to invest 45 minutes of your time. You want to sit down with notepad, maybe your journal and a pen, and you want to take good notes and you want to do it and you want to listen. You want to watch it. It’s a it’s a it’s a masterclass that you watch and you want to do it where there’s no distractions. Because, again, you know how we’re talking about like in this world of in 2022 and in this. So many distractions, right? There’s just, like, so many things coming at you on your news feed. You need to turn off all the other browser windows. Just close them all. Give yourself the gift. Act like this is a priority in your life. And when I say act like it, you may be like, kind of like, what do you mean, this is a priority? No. When I say act like it, I mean prioritize it. Close off all the other windows. Shut your phone down for 45 minutes. Take notes. Act as if this is important. Prioritize your love life. If you want to attract an amazing man who prioritizes you, you’re going to need to prioritize you. You’re going to need to prioritize this dream like you prioritized your college education. Like you prioritize raising your children if you have any. Like you prioritized moving up the ladder in your in your successful career.

Speaker1: [00:07:43] So you’ve got to give this area of your life as much focus and attention because, again, this is not like it was 20, 30 years ago. This dating, you have to give it attention now. You have to give it more attention than anybody has ever done before in the history of man, because it’s a different world right now and you’re noticing that it’s hard. It’s a free masterclass. I’ve poured my heart and my soul and my expertise. I’ve been coaching Johnny. My husband Johnny and I have been coaching hundreds and hundreds and hundreds and hundreds and probably thousands at this point of women to their soulmate, consciously and intentionally, for the past 17, almost 18 years now. And we’ve been married for 21, almost 22 years. So we we know what we’re talking about. We have a ton of of proof here in this group. If you go into the into the the media section and you want to get inspired about what’s possible for you, go into the media section and look at all of our albums. Look at the albums of women, tons and tons of women who have changed their lives, change the way they made decisions, change their their habits and went from single to soulmates. Right. So thanks for joining me here today. I look forward to connecting with you in the near future. God bless. Take care.

Speaker2: [00:09:04] Hey, thanks for tuning in to today’s episode. If you’re a single professional woman who wants your success in your love life to match your success in your career, and you’re looking to get crystal clear right now about why Truelove hasn’t been knocking on your door and how to have that happen sooner rather than later. Like, not literally though, that would be weird, but I hope you know what I’m saying. Anyway, you’re going to want a book, a call, a love breakthrough clarity call right now with my dear wife, Dr. Lara. Yes. Lara herself will get on the phone or Skype with you one on one to assess exactly what’s been holding you back and love what it is you really want and how to get there as quickly as possible. Just go to single to soulmate dot com forward slash call to book a call that single day soulmate dot com forward slash call for free love breakthrough clarity call that is for you if and only if you’re a single professional woman who is as serious about her love life right now as you’ve been about getting your degree or your career success. So again, that’s single soulmate dot com forward slash call to book your life changing love breakthrough clarity call right away.

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