Most of us find it hard to break out of our comfort zone, especially with something as touchy as love. That’s understandable- but here’s how your comfort zone could be KILLING your love life.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

– Comfort and convenience addiction

– Why your comfort zone is crippling EVERY area of your life

– How to push through the discomfort of doing something new

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Speaker1: [00:00:01] Hello and welcome to the Single Soulmate Podcast.

Speaker2: [00:00:04] Where we help you, the love warrior or love warrior to be to become your own soulmate first as the path to the life of your dreams with your soulmate by your side.

Speaker1: [00:00:14] So are you addicted to comfort and convenience? Now, that seems kind of like already accusatory, right? Let me just start out by saying I am addicted to comfort and convenience. I want comfort and convenience just like you do. We all want comfort and convenience. That’s why there are so many products, services designed to make our life more comfortable and more convenient. The question here is, is that what we really, really want is comfort and convenience. Well, here’s an example. So I am walking to the office right now. I’m outside. I’m doing what we call a natural healing walk. That’s a topic for another day, but it would be more convenient for me to drive. Now it’s a ten minute walk or like a two minute drive, so it would be more convenient to just drive, right? And we’d be more comfortable. You just sit there and all of a sudden you’re magically transported practically to your destination. But that’s not really what I want, is comfort and convenience in every situation. Now, if it was pouring rain, would I want to drive? You know, I might want to drive. I don’t know. Right. But it’s not. It’s a beautiful day. So I want more than just comfort and convenience, and so do you. But we have to look at is what do we really, really want? What do we really want? I want to share a saying or I don’t know if it’s a poem, really, that my father in law shared with Laura a lot.

Speaker1: [00:01:50] And we have I’ve really adopted it as something to look at. We’ve shared it with our clients and our advanced programs, things like that. Comfort comes as a guest, lingers as a host and stays to enslave you. I’m going to say that again. Comfort comes as a guest, lingers as a host and stays to enslave you. And so what that is, is recognizing that, yeah, we all want to be comfortable, you know, but you got to watch out because if that’s really all you’re going for, you’re going to miss out on the magic and the joy of life. Now, the reality is that the more comfortable your life is, the more comfort you want. Like Westernised society, us especially. We’re totally addicted to comfort and convenience. But when you allow that to bleed into every area of your life, it’s not healthy. Just like it wouldn’t be healthy for me to do this ten minute walk, to avoid this ten minute walk and drive every day. It’s good to use my body to exert some energy, right? To put forth some effort. And I do walk a lot of times in rainy times also just to get out and do stuff. You know, we’ve set up our life where we work and live so close to each other because of comfort and convenience.

Speaker1: [00:03:10] But at some point it becomes counterproductive. And that may be the same thing in your life as well you want to look at. Is that really what you want to stay comfortable in your kind of bubble, where you’re at, your cocoon, where you’re at, or do you want to break free? I think about that. Just the cocoon, right? For a caterpillar. It’s incredibly uncomfortable and not convenient at all to go into that cocoon and like basically break down as a living being and then be reformed into a butterfly. But it’s totally worth it, isn’t it? Right. I don’t know. I never talk to a caterpillar or a butterfly, but you know what I’m saying, right? What will you do to have love in your life? Are you willing to give up what you used to be in order to become all that you could become? This is not about not being yourself, but are you willing to give up that scared self? Are you willing to confront the reality that while you may be somewhat comfortable in the life that you have, this is not all that you’re meant to to experience in your life. This is not all that your life is meant to be. So what are you willing to do to allow yourself to have the life that you truly, truly want in a relationship that you truly, truly want with a man that you truly, truly want? What are you willing to do? And you know what? What we have seen in our clients is the ones that end up marrying their soulmate, living the life of their dreams, getting out of that feeling of loneliness and isolation and just frustration that happens year after year when you’re single longer than you want to be, when you’re going to bed at night, like, Damn, I’m alone again.

Speaker1: [00:05:10] Or You know what? Or worse yet, were you going to bed with some? But we still feel alone. You know what I’m talking about? Right. Like, what are they willing to do to get out of that? They got to push through the discomfort of doing something different. They got to push through the discomfort of, like, just allowing themselves to recognize that, you know what? It’s harder right now than ever to find a good guy. You know, it is harder than ever. It’s not like your imagination. I want you to think about how you live your life right now. You go from your home to your most likely to your garage, right into your car, and then you go to the office and the office garage. Right. The chances of you even just randomly bumping into someone these days is so much more it’s so much less than what it used to be.

Speaker1: [00:06:07] So just from a sheer numbers game, right? And then when you go to the coffee shop, which used to be a place where people could, you know, meet and shoot the breeze and, you know, who knows what. You got your headphones on, right? So just from a sheer numbers alone, it’s harder to meet people these days, right? Then maybe you decide, okay, I’m going to try online, you know, and you don’t know what you’re doing. So you fall into the category of what a lot of people are doing online and they’re attracting, they’re broadcasting their insecurities and problems and issues, and they’re drawing in people that basically fit their experience of relationships in the past, and they have no idea how they’re doing it. Now. In our advanced programs, we actually help women do what we call an online profile makeover, and it completely changes their experience of online dating. But the point is that in order to even get there, you have to push through the discomfort of like being willing to do something, something different. You know, it is harder these days. Like I said, if you’re you’re not meeting people in person. So then you go online, but you do it the way most people do it.

Speaker1: [00:07:19] And you keep broadcasting your insecurities, attracting more of this, of what you’ve already gotten. You’re not meeting people online. You’re not meeting people in person. And doesn’t there seem to be like more schmooze, more knuckleheads, more jerky guys? Yeah. You know what? What if it’s the majority out there? Yeah. So then how are you going to distinguish between the jerks, the players, the knuckleheads from the good guys, the commitment? Ready, guys, if you aren’t prepared, if you don’t know how to distinguish between them, then you’re going to end up in a relationship with a guy who is really more of the knucklehead persuasion or more of the guys that you’ve had because you don’t know how to tell the difference between a good guy and that type of guy. Right. And so it’s harder than ever these days is a reality. So if you are addicted to comfort and convenience and you allow your comfort, your convenience to rule your life, then nothing’s going to be different. And we’re coming to the end of the year soon and you know, at the end of next year is going to be the same as the end of this year. Single alone, same thing, not feeling confident, hoping something will be different, secretly afraid that nothing will be different. And the year after and the year after, because nothing changes if you’re comfortable.

Speaker3: [00:08:46] Oh, gosh.

Speaker1: [00:08:47] Don’t we wish it was different? Yeah, but it’s not. So look everywhere in your life about where you can just go a little bit outside your comfort zone because everything that you have is in the comfort zone, also known as the convenience zone, also known as just the. What’s known to you? The known zone. Right. It’s just what’s known to you. So are you allowing yourself to get a little bit outside of that comfort zone, a little bit outside of that known zone? And try something new. Try something different that could be with your health. That could be with your fitness. That could be with your career. Maybe give that recruiter a call back, maybe try to update that resume, maybe meet that new colleague, maybe allow yourself to go to a new gym or try a different routine, or just drive home differently today. But get out of the known zone because everything that you have is in the zone. Everything that you want is outside of that comfort zone. You’ve got to be willing to be a little bit uncomfortable, sometimes a lot and comfortable, but it doesn’t have to be painful, but it does have to be different.

Speaker3: [00:09:56] Hey, thanks for tuning into today’s episode. If you’re a single professional woman who wants your success in your love life to match your success in your career, and you’re looking to get crystal clear right now about why Truelove hasn’t been knocking on your door and how to have that happen sooner rather than later. Like, not literally, though, that would be weird, but I hope you know what I’m saying. Anyway, you’re going to want to book a call, a love breakthrough clarity call right now with my dear wife, Dr. Laura. Yes. Laura herself will get on the phone or Skype with you one on one to assess exactly what’s been holding you back and love what it is you really want and how to get there as quickly as possible. Just go to single soulmate dot com forward slash call to book a call that’s single to soulmate dot com forward slash call for free love breakthrough clarity call. That is for you if and only if you’re a single professional woman who is as serious about her love life right now as you’ve been about getting your degree or your career success. So again, that’s single to soulmate dot com forward slash call to book your life changing love. Breakthrough Clarity. Call right away.

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