SPECIAL EPISODE! This is the 3rd out of 7 episodes where we let you take a peek inside one of our exclusive online events held for our Love Warrior clients!

Listen to this episode to hear what optimism REALLY is, how most people get the definition wrong, and how true optimism can propel you to the life of your dreams. 

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

– Why most people don’t fully understand optimism

– How optimism can save you

– What REAL optimism is

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to single The Soulmate Podcast where we help you, the love warrior or love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate. Living the life of your dreams. Welcome back to today’s episode. If you haven’t watched or listened to the first one in this series, I recommend you go back, listen to the first one, because every one of these in this series build on each other. Now, this is an exclusive inside event for our clients. Love words as we call them, and we’re giving you access to it because think would be really helpful. Enjoy. So the next part of stocking yourself up for the storms ahead, the storms that we’re in right now or they’re just the the storms of life in in general is, oh, optimism. Optimism. So what is optimism? What’s the definition of optimism? It’s hopefulness and confidence about the future or the successful outcome of something. I’m going to say that again, it’s hopefulness and confidence about the future or the successful outcome of something. So optimism is critical. Now, most people think optimism is just seeing the bright side, seeing the silver lining, and those things are certainly part of it. But to really stop yourself and really prepare yourself for the storms these days, the storms in life in general, regardless of these times, whatever, any time you’re going to need real optimism. And so let’s actually break down what real optimism is. Let’s go back to the definition hopefulness. So what’s at the root of that hope? Right.

Speaker1: [00:01:47] Hope is a great start. So what exactly does hope mean? It’s a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen. So if you have hopefulness, you have expectation and desire. So I’ve seen hope explain this way. A desire of some good accompanied with at least a slight expectation of obtaining it, or a belief that it is obtainable. Hope differs from a wish and desire in this that it implies some expectation of obtaining the good desired or the possibility of experiencing it or possessing it. So hope therefore always gives pleasure or joy, whereas a wish and a desire may produce or be accompanied with pain and anxiety. Because with hope there is actually something that you feel could actually happen, whereas a wish or desire often doesn’t have that. So that’s why it can be accompanied by pain and anxiety. So you may find pain and anxiety running rampant in your life these days, right? Anxiety in America. And now we have people from all over the world. But I’m going to focus on America right now. Anxiety in America is at an all time high, with around one third of Americans reporting significant anxiety these days. For a variety of reasons, anxiety is actually the number one mental health issue or disorder today. Now, one reason is that we have many wants, many wishes, many desires, but we have very we have like little real expectation that will actually obtain the good that we wish for, want for or desire to get.

Speaker1: [00:03:37] What I’m saying there. It’s that wishing, wanting and desire, but no real expectation that it’s going to happen that causes an anxiety. So what can be done about that? Well, let’s look at the second part of that word, optimism. So hopefulness and confidence about the future or the successful outcome of something. So confidence and successful outcome. Now let’s look at the words confidence and success. Confidence. Confidence means being sure of yourself and your abilities, not in an arrogant way, but in a realistic, secure way. Confidence isn’t about feeling superior to others. It’s a quiet inner knowing that you’re capable. It’s that it’s the feeling that a confident person has, that they feel secure rather than insecure. So here’s a slightly different worded or explained definition of confidence. Confidence is a state of being clear headed either that a hypothesis or prediction is correct, or that a chosen course of action is the best. Or most effective. So confidence comes from the Latin word fidelity, which means to trust. Therefore, having self confidence is having trust in oneself. So to be truly optimistic. To have real optimism, you must have confidence, which means that you have a knowing that you’re capable, you’re feeling secure and peaceful, that your chosen path or course of action is the best or most effective in helping you experience or obtain what is that you want? And it’s having that feeling of trust in yourself, first and foremost. So let’s look a little bit more into knowing that you’re capable.

Speaker1: [00:05:26] So we all have moments or seasons when we don’t feel capable. But the question is, how do you kind of like get your mojo back, right? Increasing skills, learning, growing your capability. As a woman, for example, you are what’s called the relationship established year and navigator, what we call the Ren, right? Whether you know that or not, whether you’re effective at it or not, you are. And so as you go, so goes the relationship. So are you capable of that important role that you have, whether you know it, like it or not? So when you have your skills in something that is important to increase, you increase your knowing that you’re capable. Therefore, you increase your your your confidence. When you increase your confidence, you increase your optimism. And then those see, the bright side actually has some some substance to it, right? So increasing your skills in anything and knowing that you’re capable, whether it be driving, playing piano, learning how to dance salsa, be a more effective rent, whatever it is. Increasing your skills and understanding and getting tools to help you with that increases that feeling of capability. So we, as you know, we share practices, principles and tools that help you be more capable at whatever it is you’re wanting to get better at. Right. So let’s look at that whole second part of that, which is feeling secure that your chosen path or course of action is the best and most effective in helping you experience or obtain what it is that you want.

Speaker1: [00:06:55] Once again, we all have moments or seasons of feeling insecure, wondering if our course of action is the best or most effective. The question is how do you get back on track and how do you get back on track to what you know or believe is the best, most effective course of action? But if you’re on your own, the question is still there. What can you do to make yourself feel secure that your path or course of action is is the best, most effective one? Right. So now let’s look at having that feeling of trust in yourself. These are all parts of what it takes to be truly optimistic, right? Trusting that your chosen course of action is the best and most effective, how can you trust yourself more as a lover? You know that all of our programs help you build that trust of yourself. But what happens when you lose trust in yourself or your trust gets shaken? It happens to us all. So you make some mistakes. You fall down, right? You maybe you you lose your your your trust in yourself or your trust erodes. So remind yourself what trusting yourself feels like. What are you proud of? What can you reflect on in your life where you’ve made good decisions, where you did something big or small that you’re proud of and something that makes you feel good about yourself and you want to dwell on that. What have you accomplished? What have you done well? Where have you made good decisions? And then build on that, right? Because if you don’t trust you, how can anyone else? Now let’s talk about success as in hopefulness and confidence about the future or the successful outcome of something.

Speaker1: [00:08:36] So reach your research into success across the board concludes that many people think that success means just like money or social status. And while those are definitely nice, to be sure, a fuller definition of success is that we want. Like when we think of like we want success, we’re wanting success, we’re wanting a successful outcome. But success is not only about having more money or higher social status. Success also means manifesting in less stressed and less worried and experiencing more peace and more happiness. So while the dictionary definition of success is an accomplishment of an aim or purpose, when we say that we want to be successful, we mean so much more than that, right? Listen, no one is saying that money and wealth and abundance aren’t fun and important. As you may have heard me say before, money may not be the most important thing in life, but it can certainly be the most impactful thing in life. So, like I said, yes, money matters. The question is, is money and material success your God? Or do you have it in the proper place in your life? Do you have perspective or are you letting money fears rule your every move? So let’s summarize what it takes to feel real and experience the benefits of optimism.

Speaker1: [00:10:03] Right. When we talk about success, you want to look at that full picture of success. And like I said, yes, money is important, but you don’t want to be making it your God. You don’t want to have your money. Fears rule your every move. All right. So you want to be moving away from anxiety and to not only see the bright side. But to feel secure that the bright side will happen for you. Right. This is different. I see the bright side. But if that’s for other people and not for you, you’re not putting yourself squarely in the middle of it and doing all those things we just talked about, which is increasing your knowingness, your capability, increasing your trust in yourself. Right. So you need hopeful ness. You need confidence and need a focus on success. But we’re talking about the full meaning of success. So people think having a whatever, a certain amount of money in the bank or credit score or whatever, that success, that’s a like a one or two dimensional look at it, right? It’s looking at the full meaning of success. Where has your optimism about your life been shaken? Is it a little lower than you want it to be right now? So that’s actually a simple yes or no question for you. Could your optimism use an uplift right now? All right. I hope you got a lot out of this episode and hope you enjoyed getting a sneak peek inside one of our exclusive online events for our clients.

Speaker1: [00:11:34] Now, remember, this is a multiple series of episodes here that are all part of it. So be on the lookout for the next episode so you can complete this. Right. Bye for now. Hey, thanks for tuning in to today’s episode. If you’re a single professional woman who wants your success in your love life to match your success in your career, and you’re looking to get crystal clear right now about why Truelove hasn’t been knocking on your door and how to have that happen sooner rather than later. Like, not literally though, that would be weird, but I hope you know what I’m saying. Anyway, you’re going to want to book a call, a love breakthrough clarity call right now with my dear wife, Dr. Lara. Yes. Lara herself will get on the phone or Skype with you one on one to assess exactly what’s been holding you back and love what it is you really want and how to get there as quickly as possible. Just go to single to soulmate dot com forward slash call to book a call that’s single to soulmate dot com forward slash call for free love breakthrough clarity call. That is for you if and only if you’re a single professional woman who is as serious about her love life right now as you’ve been about getting your degree or your career success. So again, that’s single soulmate dot com forward slash call to book your life changing love breakthrough clarity call right away.

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