Have you ever felt even though life is going okay you don’t feel great and your dreams feel like they are eroding? Have you struggled to preserve your identity, love yourself and fight for your dreams? It’s something that can become very frustrating and but it doesn’t have to be like that, so let’s talk about what you can do to avoid it.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

– Why you might be letting go of yourself and your dreams

– How to love yourself and fight for your dreams

– What will happen when you make that switch

READY TO CHANGE YOUR LOVE LIFE FOR THE BETTER, FOREVER?

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to Single The Soulmate Podcast, where we help you the love warrior or love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate Living the life of your dreams. Hey, hey. We’re going to be talking about self love, self care. Let’s talk about self love, self care and self esteem. And so one of the things that we see is that there is a lot of women that in in accomplishing things in the world still find that their internal private at home self esteem ends up getting eroded over time. And I want to talk a little bit about why that happened. Self esteem and self confidence gets eroded over time, and I want to talk about why that that happens, what can can, what can be contributing to that. So when we look at self, self love and self care, a lot of times people don’t know really how to do self love and self care and they don’t know why to do self love and self care. And so a lot of times we think of self care, we think of getting a mani petty things like that. These things are really good, but one of the biggest areas of self care that gets ignored is honoring your your dreams and your desires. And when you think about the word desire, it means of the farther meaning it is given to you. Your desires are given to you by God, Spirit, the universe, higher power, whatever it is that you believe is outside of yourself, that is where our desires are.

Speaker1: [00:01:43] Deep desires come from. I’m not talking about a momentary instant gratification itch. You know, you want to have ice cream, You want to, I don’t know, watch this movie or that movie. Like, that’s an instant gratification kind of itch. You know, I’m talking about your deep desires, the things that are that stay with you, even when you try to push them away. One of the biggest deep desires that stays with you that even when you try to push it away, is a desire for love, a desire for not just like a relationship, but real love. Actual like true love, soulmate, love where you’re with a person forever. That’s a deep desire that often stays with you beyond. Just like, Hey, I’d be great to have a boyfriend or something like that, you know? That’s what we see. We we live in a society where often you as a woman are discouraged from believing in love, discouraged from actually admitting or being real about the fact that you want love. And so that’s actually a way of anti self care is not honoring your deep desires, not honoring what it is your hopes and dreams include in your life, because financial and career hopes and dreams are like socially acceptable hopes and dreams up to a point.

Speaker1: [00:03:05] But that’s a whole other story. But desires for love and. And marriage and a relationship and. And children, a family. These are actually desires that get discouraged by and large in our society today because it’s seen as an either or either you can have. Here or whatever your mission is. Or you can have a relationship, but you can’t have both. And what love warriors learn from us and we live it and we demonstrated is that you can have it all. But if you are denying a part of yourself, then when you self care, when you do self care, you’re not actually truly loving yourself. You’re just a you’re just kind of like limiting yourself and which ideas, dreams and stirrings of your heart will you allow to be expressed? And so what happens is it’s basically saying that is not acceptable for you to have that desire and that then you start to behave in a way that is in alignment with someone who has unacceptable desires. And so instead of going for the instead of making love a priority in your life, what you do is you make everything else a priority in your life. You move love relationships, focusing on on being your best self, learning about how men think, all of the stuff that we teach in our programs. But you put all of that stuff at a lower and lower priority level in your life, but that is a deep desire.

Speaker1: [00:04:48] That is what makes you feel lonely. That is what makes you wish that you you know, that you had a family. That deep desire is in you. But as you keep bumping it down the priority list, your self esteem goes down because you’re basically scolding yourself for having certain desires. Now, you know, is it healthy to scold yourself, to say, you know what, don’t have ice cream for breakfast, lunch and dinner? Yes, it is. But that’s not really an emotional thing. I mean, I know there’s emotional eating, but that’s more of a logical thing. Like it’s it’s not possible for you to be a healthy person and have ice cream for breakfast, lunch and dinner. As much as I would love that, you know, being in ice cream. But but when we tell ourselves that there are certain desires of our heart that we’ve had for years and years and years and those things are not acceptable, then we erode our self esteem. We say your desires are less than you. What’s important to you is less than is not important. And so, you know, it’s it’s difficult for you to have confidence that your desires that what you want, that where you want to go, what you want your life to look like. It’s it’s very, very difficult for you to accept that that is an acceptable desire when you’re busy smacking down the parts of you that want this, that or the other in your life.

Speaker1: [00:06:21] They want to live a life of this, that and the other. So self esteem and self care and self love actually start with doing more than just doing what is socially acceptable. Pay your bills, you know, do well in your career. All of that is socially acceptable. That doesn’t take any oomph to to do that. What takes oomph is to fight for your dreams. What takes oomph is to fight for your inner desires, your healthy inner desires. What takes oomph is to what we call be a love warrior for your dreams. These things are important. That’s what you’ve got to be willing to to fight for. That’s what you’ve got to be willing to reshuffle your priorities based on what truly matters. Sometimes with a brush with mortality or a feeling of that mortality is sooner or closer than we want. That’s when people get get hip to what their real desires are. And I’m I’m encouraging you to not wait until you have that brush with mortality. Or maybe you’re having that brush with mortality right now. Honor, what really matters to you. Honor your truth, honor the things that are important to you and allow yourself to take good care of yourself, to take care of your heart, to take care of your dreams and desires. And don’t scold yourself for having these desires.

Speaker1: [00:07:50] Don’t scold yourself for trying to trying it on your own and not not succeeding in anything, whether it be your business, your career, your love life. Don’t scold yourself. Allow yourself to love yourself right now and and be kind to yourself. We have a saying in our community kindness rocks. So I hope that was helpful. Bye for now. Thanks for tuning in to today’s episode. Hey, if you’re looking to make a major leap forward in going from single to soulmate, be sure to check out our free masterclass to learn the five step strategy arc. Clients used to meet and marry the man of their dreams without dumbing themselves down or using manipulative lines. Just go to single soulmate dot com forward slash learn that single to soulmate dot com forward slash learn for free masterclass on how to unlock the love you deserve and a life of your dreams. Also if you like this podcast, be sure to hit the subscribe button and maybe even leave us a review. Let us know what you love or just even like about the podcast because hey, when you leave us a quick and honest review that helps other awesome women just like you discover this podcast and helps them learn, live and love better just like you’re learning right now. So it’s a little bit of pay it forward, subscribe and leave us a review. Thanks so much.

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