Is soulmate love a high priority for you? If it’s so important, you must have a plan to find it… Right? Listen to this episode to find out WHY having a plan is so crucial. Just swiping through Hinge and watching tiktoks about dating is NOT a plan… Tune in to this episode to find out how to make a real, solid plan.

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– WHY you need a plan to find true love

– HOW to start planning for soulmate love now

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to Single to Soulmate podcast where we help you the love warrior or love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate Living the life of your dreams. Well, hello. I’m here just giving you a mini love lesson, and it actually came about from us coaching some of our clients recently. And yeah, so, so we have different coaching programs. And so one woman in our in our. We only do invitation only programs. But in one of our programs, one of the concepts that we talk about is what are you planning for in your life? Like? Are you planning to be in a relationship or are you planning to be alone? And so your decisions that you make when you’re planning to be alone forever are going to be different in terms of everything. And the decisions when you make, when you’re planning to be in a relationship are going to be different. So and I’ll give you the example, because we talked to a woman in another one of our programs where she was just looking back. She’s now in a great relationship and she was just saying, I remember that being such a game changing mood concept for me at first, which is that most women are planning to be alone forever and they they make that plan. They execute that plan with their decision about their finances, about how they view love and relationships, how they view men, all of that type of stuff.

Speaker1: [00:01:47] But if you’re planning to be alone forever, what are some things that you would need to do? Well, you’d need to make sure that you save up all your money, have a lot of money in retirement and stuff like that, because, hey, you never know. Even if you got into a relationship, he may leave you and stuff like that. So you should plan to be alone forever. Now nobody is saying don’t put money in retirement or things like that. However, if the reason why you’re doing it is because you’re you’re thinking, well, I don’t have anybody to depend on but me and I won’t have anybody to depend on but me. So I need to do that for myself so that I could be safe. That’s one way to go about it. But it brings to mind that that quote, I believe it was Einstein who said you cannot both prepare for and prevent war at the same time. So when you are preparing to be on your own with nobody to to partner with in life, then you are preparing for a life where you have nobody to partner with and nobody to depend on and nobody to share life with and stuff like that. So all of your thinking process about that and a different and more effective thinking process is to think.

Speaker1: [00:03:08] This period of time that I am going through as a single is simply that it is a period of time that I am going through, but I will have a partner in life. And because you are not going to be partnering with a dud, a guy who is just like a leech on you. You’re going to be partnering with a grown leech. If you work with us, you’re going to be partnering with a high quality grown ass man who will have a job of business, you know, finances, you know, stuff like that. Everything won’t be on you. But if you think of it, if you think of and make all of your decisions as if I have to make my money last forever because I got nobody to depend on. What you’re doing is you’re saying, well, I’m completely out of control. I’m not. I have no control over my love life. So I have to do the one thing that I can control. And what a lot of people fail to realize is you don’t have control over as many things as you think you have control over. Hasn’t COVID taught us that? If it’s taught us anything, it’s taught us that we don’t have as much control over these things that we thought we had control over? But I’ll tell you what, you do have control over much more control than society would let you on to believe, and that is your love life.

Speaker1: [00:04:27] In other words, if you treat your love life as an afterthought, you will get crumbs. If you treat your love life as really, really important. Because. It is the number one determinant of your happiness and fulfillment in your life. More so than money, more so than health, more so than job career, more so than anything else. Your number one determinant of your happiness and fulfillment in life and ability to live a life that feels meaningful and not with full of regrets is your primary romantic relationship. Well, if you understand that and the research is clear about that. And yet you treat it like an afterthought. Well, of course you have. You don’t have control over it. It’s like you’re driving. But instead of sitting in the front seat, in the driver’s seat, you sit in the passenger seat or you sit in the back seat and go, Well, I should put on more seat belts or I should hope that we’re in a car that has good air bags because I can’t control this. No. Climb into the front seat. Climb into the passenger seat and excuse me, into the driver’s seat and drive the car that everybody has told you you have no control over. But you do. If you’re meeting guys that are knuckleheads that you that that only want one thing or don’t treat you well, you actually have a lot more control and power over that than you realize.

Speaker1: [00:06:00] Learn about how to communicate with men. Learn about how to connect with high quality men. This is what we do with our clients. We teach women who are single, professional, badass, successful women, how to be successful in their love life as in their personal, as in their professional life. But you cannot just transfer over all of the same skills, but the mindset you can transfer over in this respect, You can transfer over the mindset of I want to be successful. If you want to be successful in love, do what winners do. If you want to be successful in love, if you want to win it, love to win, or do you want to be successful in love, do what successful people do, which is learn how to be successful. Should you learn how to be successful from the person that’s unsuccessful? No. You should learn how to be successful from the people that are successful. Laura and I are together over 20 years. Our coaches are women. That started out just where you are right now single, frustrated, sick and tired of being sick and tired. Sick and tired of being treated like an afterthought. They learned how to be the established and navigator of a high quality relationship with a high quality man. Now they’re both happily married to the man of their dreams, living an awesome life.

Speaker1: [00:07:27] And by the way, everything is not on them, not their finances, not their chores of life, not their career decisions, not being in the bubble like they don’t have to be alone now because they prioritize the thing that was important and they didn’t think that this being single was going to be going on forever. They made a decision to make sure that it doesn’t happen. If you sit back passively saying other people in other circumstances are in control of my love life, then yeah, you should prepare to be alone forever because that’s probably what’s going to happen. But if you decide that you don’t want to be alone forever and you do want to have a partner in life, start preparing for that as if it actually mattered. I’m a big sports fan. The NBA Finals are happening right now, and every one of those professional athletes got to be at the pinnacle of their profession because it was important for them. Isn’t your life as important as an athlete’s life? Do what successful people do and you will have the success that successful people have. You will have the marriage, you will have the relationship, not because you’re controlling another human being, but because you’re doing everything you can about controlling and being responsible for you and the things that you can control. Do what you can set another way.

Speaker1: [00:08:53] Do all that. You can do what you can and do all that you can so that God spirit, the universe can do what you cannot. Hey, thanks for tuning in to today’s episode. If you’re a single professional woman who wants your success in your love life to match your success in your career, and you’re looking to get crystal clear right now about why Truelove hasn’t been knocking on your door and how to have that happen sooner rather than later. Like, not literally, though that would be weird, but I hope you know what I’m saying. Anyway, you’re going to want to book a call, a love breakthrough clarity call right now with my dear wife, Dr. Lara. Yes. Lara herself will get on the phone or Skype with you one on one to assess exactly what’s been holding you back and love what it is you really want and how to get there as quickly as possible. Just go to Single to Soulmate dot com forward slash call to book a call that’s Single to Soulmate dot com forward slash call for free love breakthrough clarity call that is for you if and only if you’re a single professional woman who is as serious about her love life right now as you’ve been about getting your degree or your career success. So again, that’s Singletosoulmate.com/call forward slash call to book your life changing love Breakthrough Clarity Call right away.

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