Dating sites can be such a headache! Weeding through creeps, players, and ghosts can feel pointless sometimes. So can online dating actually be done successfully? Listen in to hear the truth about dating sites and apps.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

– Why dating sites can be so challenging

– Why they might NOT work for you

– How dating sites SHOULD be used

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to Single to Soulmate podcast where we help you the love warrior or love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate Living the life of your dreams. Dating site is better than that dating site. Now, to a small degree, yes, that is true. Like Tinder is still mostly just a hookup site. Occasionally people find true love there, but mostly Tinder is just a hookup site. Then there’s some that are straight up a hookup site, you know. And so, yes, there are to some extent, there are some things like that. We steer our clients to the online dating sites that have the highest percentage of people who are looking for relationships. And But are there still knuckleheads and scammers on there? Yes, absolutely. But there’s this idea. The myth is that there are online that there is online dating. Now, that is the term that we use online dating. But really it’s online meeting. And there is a myth that there are online guys and in real life guys. This. This is. I’m just going to say it. This is preposterous. It’s just as if you met a guy in a grocery store and then two years later, you met another guy at a grocery store and both of them were knuckleheads. And you said grocery store guys, you got to stay away from them. Or you met a guy at church and he was a scammer. And you said, church guys are no good, or you met a guy through a mutual friend and you said meeting through friends is no good.

Speaker1: [00:01:46] The avenue through which they come is is irrelevant. You know. Is it true that there are better places to meet guys? Yes, but we’ve had clients that have met their guy in a bar. Is that a recommended place? No. We’ve had clients that have met them on it on an app that is a little bit more of a of a hookup site. Is that a recommended thing? No, but occasionally that does happen more so because of what’s going on inside. If you are on the exact same site that our clients are finding their guys, then. You have to open up to the idea that it’s not the site, it’s you. So the idea that that that online dating and stuff like that, that it’s all about the site is this is simply a a myth we’re getting close to now where 50% of relationships now start online and this goes up every year we’ve been doing this this work of helping single awesome women attract. True love, marriage, family. If they want that or have that for 15 years. And we have seen Take my sweater off. We have seen. That number climb from in the 30% range to the 40% range, like I said, now is getting closer to 50% of new relationships begin online. And the reason is because you’re not you’re not bumping into guys and people in general, but you’re not bumping into guys randomly the way you used to in the old days.

Speaker1: [00:03:38] So the places where you’re going to meet people that are serious about relationships is more and more on online dating sites, which are basically online meeting sites. And one of the biggest myths about online dating is that there are online guys and there are in real life guys. And here’s the thing. You just have to look at your own life when you’re doing online dating. Do you not exist in real life? Of course you do. You go to the grocery store. You go to your your work or go to the auto repair shop. You go to the post office. You exist in real life. And then in the evening you get on online dating sites and really are online meeting sites. Right? What’s the same thing for the guys? And just like there are scammers and knucklehead guys in the grocery store, at church, at at the post office, whatever, There are scammers and knucklehead guys online. So what’s different about online meeting is that you’re getting more feedback faster. And so if you’re meeting jerks and scammers and stuff like that online, you’re getting feedback about you. Does that mean that every time you attract a scammer, it’s your fault? No, it’s not. But it is your responsibility to look at Why am I only meeting up with guys that just want sex, guys that are knuckleheads, guys that are scammers or liars? Because. Those guys know what they’re doing in terms of like who to interact with and and if they’re interacting with you and you’re you’re allowing that or encouraging that unbeknownst to you, not that you’re a bad person wants that, but that has more to do with your preparation and your your beliefs about it than it does the fact that there are knuckleheads and scammers there because there are knuckleheads and scammers everywhere.

Speaker1: [00:05:37] So looking at online dating sites and stuff like that, just recognize that the feedback that you’re getting there is telling something you something about yourself. It reminds me of a I had an acquaintance a while ago who a couple that were having tremendous difficulties with their daughter, and she was acting out. She was just she was doing a lot of things that were unhealthy for her and other people around her. And these parents who are generally well-meaning people and good people, they went to a couple of therapists and they for whatever reason, they didn’t click with the therapists and stuff like that. And then. I found out why they weren’t clicking with the therapist because they said, like the mom said, I need to find a really good therapist and I need to find someone that isn’t going to tell me that the reasons why I’m having trouble with my daughter is because of me. Okay, So you only want someone who’s going to tell you that you’re doing everything right, even though the results are showing you something else. And it’s the same thing when it comes to dating and relationships.

Speaker1: [00:06:54] If you want someone to tell you that everything you’re doing is right and perfect, then you’re not really looking for a solution to your situation. You’re just looking for someone to to to validate your your struggles, your your, your view of the world. You’re your y you’re a victim of this, that or the other. You’re just looking for validation. You’re not actually looking for a solution. We work with clients who are ready to actually find out the truth of their situation, and they are looking for a solution. They’re not just looking for validation. Now, are we going to validate that you’re a good person and deserves love? Absolutely. But you know what? If you’re going the wrong way on a one way street, we’re not going to say. Keep going and then kind of like, hope you don’t crash. We’re going to say, hey, you’re going the wrong way on a one way street. You’re going to need to turn this around and go in an opposite direction. We’re going to say it with love. We’re going to say it with respect, but we are going to tell you the truth. And if you’re like that, parents who I was telling you about, those parents who just wanted to get validated, that everything that they’re doing is right, then you’re not really focused on getting a solution. You just want to feel better in the moment, even though your results are showing you that something that you’re doing is not getting you where you want to go.

Speaker1: [00:08:25] So just to sum up that that that fourth big myth, it’s not about the site. It’s about you. And if your feedback that you’re getting from online dating is that, you know, you’re not ready for this higher quality, emotionally mature, commitment minded man, then accept that feedback and then look at what to do about it. That’s what our clients do. They come to us and they go, okay, I’ve gotten the feedback that for some reason that I’m unaware of. I’m attracting guys that are like this. How can I attract someone different? That right there, that’s a power question. But if you want to assert that the reason why you’re attracting these guys is because online guys are like this, or the reason why you’re attracting knucklehead guys is because there’s nothing but knucklehead guys in the world. You’re you’re flying in the face of just basic facts. How is it that women in your city are finding their dream guys today? How is it that women in your state are finding dream guys today? How is it that that our clients are finding their dream guys at every age, every walk of life, all of that today? How are they doing that? Because, like, God loves them and not you know, it’s just that they know something that you don’t know. So you can either assert that that the guys are the problem or their online dating site is the problem. Or you could start looking in the mirror and saying, What can I do about it? And if your only answer is the only thing I’m going to do is try harder at the thing that I’m doing that’s not working.

Speaker1: [00:10:07] That’s not a recipe for success. So consider that. Hey, thanks for tuning into today’s episode. If you’re a single professional woman who wants your success in your love life to match your success in your career, and you’re looking to get crystal clear right now about why Truelove hasn’t been knocking on your door and how to have that happen sooner rather than later. Like, not literally, though. That would be weird, but I hope you know what I’m saying. Anyway, you’re going to want a book, a call, a love breakthrough clarity call right now with my dear wife, Dr. Lara. Yes. Lara herself will get on the phone or Skype with you one on one to assess exactly what’s been holding you back and love what it is you really want and how to get there as quickly as possible. Just go to Single to Soulmate dot com forward slash call to book a call that’s Single to Soulmate dot com forward slash call for free love breakthrough clarity call that is for you if and only if you’re a single professional woman who is as serious about her love life right now as you’ve been about getting your degree or your career success. So again, that’s Singletosoulmate.com/call forward slash call to book your life Changing love. Breakthrough Clarity Call right away.

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