What would you say would be the ideal way for you to find love? What is your way of finding love and is it working? Or could it work? Let’s talk about finding love your way.

In this episode you’ll learn

– How to find love your way

– Looking at the past as having happened for a reason

– The re-framing process

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to single The Soulmate.

Speaker2: [00:00:06] Podcast where we help you, the love warrior or love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate. Living the life of your dreams.

Speaker1: [00:00:17] Hi there. I’m Laura Fernandez, and along with my husband, Johnny Fernandez, we are holistic, love and life coaches. And we help women, single women who want to find the love of their lives. We help them to become their own soulmate first and use that path of becoming their own soulmate first to attract the love of their lives. I want to talk about creating your own recipe for what do you want to manifest in your soul mate? What qualities do you want to enjoy in Mr. Right for you? So what would that look like for you? What would finding your soulmate look like for you? I’m going to ask you to really think about that because you’re kind of cooking up a recipe. You’re putting in a desire out to the universe, to God that you want to have a really, really, really special relationship. And it’s the woman that we work with there, single women who want to get married someday, actually want to have children. A lot of them not. Some of them don’t. Or they’re past that age where they could. And they’re clearly deeply desiring a monogamous relationship with somebody committed a monogamous lifetime type of relationships. So that’s the kind of women that we work with. So for you, I want you to think of your own recipe. What would make finding your soulmate recipe? Would you need? What would you need to make him amazing? What qualities would have you feel safe? How do you want to feel? It’s really what I want to ask you is like, how do you want to feel? Do you want to feel safe? Do you want to feel seen? Do you want to feel cherished? You want to feel adored.

Speaker1: [00:01:51] You want to feel respected. You want honesty. What kind of traits? I mean, these all kind of seem kind of basic, but I think that the clearer you get, the better. And here’s one thing I really want you to think about what experiences you’ve had in the past in relationships where, number one, the bad thing. So what things that you didn’t like, like he cheated on you, he lied to you, he ghosted you. It just wasn’t a match, whatever. And then write that on one. Like if you had a piece of paper in front of you, like, put a line like a t shirt a line. So the things you didn’t like about different relationships, just list them. He lied to me. He cheated on me, whatever the thing is. And then on the right side, put the positive things about the guys that you like. Like even if the guys were jerks, what were the positive aspects of what did you learn? What did you get out of it? What the good parts of those relationships? And then I want you to get really clear by writing out a list of qualities in your soulmate that you want to have.

Speaker1: [00:02:47] So start with a positive qualities. Put the positive qualities of those guys that you’ve been with. Even if they were jerks, there were some positive qualities. Otherwise I hope you weren’t with them at all. So they had to be something positive, right? So put the positive qualities and then the negative qualities of the guys you’ve been with. I want you to write out on your list the opposite of those negative qualities. Let me give you what I mean by that. So he lied to me. So on your soulmate list you would write. So that’s a negative quality. He was a liar. So in your soul mate list, my soul mate is honest and in integrity with me. He cheated on me. So the positive would be on your list that you write down on your list because you’re focusing on the positive on your list. The positive is, ah, the opposite of he cheated on me as he’s completely faithful and loves being faithful to me. So here’s why I’m going to have you do that. I want you to have a soulmate list so you get clarity about who your soulmate is.

Speaker1: [00:03:44] Because here’s the thing. All of your relationships that you’ve ever had in the past happened for a reason. Now, that sometimes pisses me off when I hear people say everything happens for a reason, because I don’t always know that that’s really true. But if you can frame it in your mind, like every single relationship I had, even the jerks happen for a reason and happen for me to get clarity about who I want, what kind of guy that I want, and the kind of guy I don’t want, and how I deserve to be treated and how I don’t deserve to be treated. In other words, everything has been working together for your good up into this point right here and now. So that’s a reframing process that’s empowering, that actually has you kind of take the steering wheel back on your life by looking at the past as having had happened for a reason. So I’d love to know if you’re doing this exercise or if you have any questions about this, go ahead and post it below. Let me know what you think about it. I’d love to know and how it goes for you. And how does this is this a new point of yours? Like everything has happened for a reason and it serves you and just your thoughts about it.

Speaker1: [00:04:53] I’d love to hear so you can post below in the comments and I’ll come back the next day or two and take a look. So I hope that’s helpful. I hope that gives you some real world actionable item for you to do and for you to get clarity. Because the clearer you are, in other words, the clearer your recipe is for your soul mate. Then the better recipe you can make, the better dish you can be served. And so if you can just think of all of these guys that have been kind of like appetizers and have helped in the past and they kind of helped you develop a palate for what you want and don’t want, then you can actually see that like someday with the right guy, you do the inner work, you become your own soulmate. First you get clarity about yourself and about what you want and what you desire and how you tick. Then someday in divine right timing. But you, having taken the action, you will attract the right man who is the main course and so delicious, even better than you could have ever imagined. So I hope it’s helpful for you. I’d love to know your thoughts and thanks for joining me. Take care. Bye bye.

Speaker2: [00:05:54] I hope and trust you. Enjoy today’s episode. And hey, if you’re a single professional woman who is sick and tired of having great things happen in your career business but nothing much happening in your love life or all wrong things are happening. You’re going to want a book, a love breakthrough clarity call right now with my dear wife, Dr. Laura. Yes. Laura herself will get on the phone or Skype with you one on one to assess exactly what’s been holding you back and love what it is you really want and how to get there as quickly as possible. Hey, maybe we can help you, and maybe we aren’t the best option for you, but we won’t know unless and until we can personally connect with you and see what’s going on. Laura has very limited availabilities for these very special love clarity calls. So this is. Only for you if you’re so frustrated or fed up with the way things are going that you’re ready to get clear on what’s holding you back and then break through that once and for all so you can live the life you’ve been dreaming of for so many years. With love by your side and everything rolling. Just go to single soulmate dot com forward slash call to book a call that’s single to soulmate dot com forward slash call for a free love breakthrough clarity call that is for you if you’re a single professional woman who has is as serious about her love life right now as you’ve been in the past, about getting your degree or getting your career success again. That single day soulmate dot com phone call to book your life changing love. Breakthrough Clarity.

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