You’ve focused only on your career and becoming successful… until one day you woke up and realized you don’t have someone to share it all with, and you wish you’d thought more about love before. So what do you do now? Is it too late already? What about children? We’ll talk about that in this episode.

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– How to start working on your love life right now

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Speaker1: [00:00:03] Hello and welcome to Single to Soulmate podcast where we help you the Love Warrior or a love word to be to go from single to with your soulmate Living the life of your dreams. If you’re thirties and looking for true love, this is for you. Because listen up. You’re running out of time and you don’t even know it. Now, Laura and I are co-founders of the Feminine Radiance and Courage Institute. We’ve been coaching smart, successful, professional women for over 17 years to find the love of their life and live the life of their dreams. And one of the things that our clients say that they really appreciate about us is that we are always kind and respectful, but we’re not going to B.S. anybody. So we’re going to give you the the real truth, the tough love. And that’s what this episode is all about, is we’re going to tell you I’m going to tell you there’s an episode with me today. I’m going to be telling you the real truth about just the circumstances that you find yourself in and your prospects for your future when it comes to finding love. So let’s talk about you and where you’re at. So you’re starting to get some traction in your career, right? You’re moving up. You’ve got your house, your condo, whatever it is, your nice car, your friends, you travel, you know, everything is not perfect, of course, but you got some things together and you’re like, all right, it’s going to be time for me, man, soon.

Speaker1: [00:01:29] You’re 35. Something like that, right? 35, 38, something like that. Right. So really, if you just had the man, the marriage, the family boom, you’d have it all. So let’s talk about where you’re at when it comes to that. Like I said, you’re running out of time. You don’t even know how far behind you are. But inside you probably feel that. You probably feel like, what the heck? Now, this is not something you talk about on social media, not something you probably even talk to your friends about. But deep down inside you probably feel like, What the heck am I running out of time here? Current conventional wisdom will tell you you have plenty of time. But let’s talk about some facts here. 50% of marriages end in divorce. 75% of second marriages end in divorce, and a high percentage of those that are still married that that 50% or that 25% find themselves in unhappy, often sexless marriages where there’s addictions, there’s cheating, there’s high levels of anxiety, very little feeling solid. And so so they don’t have like a solid and thriving relationship. So here’s the thing. When you’re like, again, you got some things going in your career and all that stuff, but you think, Oh, I got plenty of time. You are literally marching down a path right now. The age that you’re at, you’re marching down a path that’s like leading toward the edge of a cliff and you’re going to go over the cliff into the abyss and you’re like, look at how many people are on this path with me.

Speaker1: [00:03:13] Of course, I’m not doing the wrong thing. Here’s the thing. It’s not wrong in the sense that you’re bad, but is is not going to get you what it is that you want. So let’s let’s talk about that. What is that abyss, by the way? It leaves you childless husband lists or settling for some low ambition guy because you’re you know, you’re getting pissed, you’re getting hurt, you’re feeling like, what the heck? I did everything I was supposed to do, right? When you were in high school, what were you focused on? You were focused on getting yourself into the best college you possibly could when you were in college. What did probably someone even told you, probably more than one person told you, Don’t be falling in love and getting married here. Focus on getting your degree and getting out there. Right. So you you focus on getting your degree. You know, you had some fun. You learn some things that dated some guys, but then you got out there. Right now you’re in your career and they’re saying like, hey, don’t be messing around and getting married too young and everything like that. You should get married older. Just focus on your career right now. So you did that, right, climbing up the ladder, doing all that stuff.

Speaker1: [00:04:19] Right. And again, you’re you’re going through some dating maybe or maybe you’re not dating anyone because you’re like, I don’t know what the heck I’m doing. Let me just focus on my career where I know that I’m successful and at work and things like that. So maybe you find yourself with Low no man or just like situation ships or maybe even hook ups, you know? But. But you’re not finding a masculine grown man who wants to build a family. But in the last few years you probably been like, Hey, what’s what’s going on here? There’s like, no guy around what’s happening here, right? And so when I start talking about that, you’re already you may already be finding yourself saying, What are you saying? That I should give up my career? No, I’m not saying you should give up your career. We work pretty much exclusively with career women, doctors, lawyers, dentists, executives, managers, you know. We understand the professional woman’s dilemma around that. What I am saying is that so far in your life and you tell me if this is true, that love finding a husband, building a family that’s basically been like on the sidelines, like a side dish, it’s not like the main dish. The main dish has been your career. This is what you’ve been told, right? Is make the career the centerpiece of your life. Now, maybe this is because you you saw your parents or where your mom, like, sacrificed everything, gave up her life.

Speaker1: [00:05:49] Maybe, you know, she loves your dad, but maybe he’s not, like the greatest husband, right? Maybe she maybe you’re raised by a single mom. She’s like, don’t don’t you know? And so she didn’t really know how to pick a good man. So she’s like, don’t let a man determine your fate. Right? Makes sense if you have either a choice of a bad man who’s determining your fate or no man, better that you determine your fate. But what about another option? And we’ll talk about that in a moment. All right. So here’s the thing. As I said, you’re not you don’t want to be giving up your career, not by any stretch. But what I’m saying is putting your career as a high priority is how you got successful. Putting your love life at a as a high priority is how you will also be successful. So having it as a side dish of your life, that’s not really helping you. And here’s the thing You’re in your thirties now. We work with women in their thirties, but also sometimes they come to us in their forties. You know what they say? I wish I had taken this more seriously in my thirties. We have women that come to us in their fifties, sixties, seventies. You know what they say. I wish I had taken it more seriously right now, but you have a drumbeat by the mass media, the culture telling you the current conventional wisdom is telling you you got plenty of time.

Speaker1: [00:07:10] Don’t don’t make this a high priority, because the only option that that women are given is be desperate or focus on your career, settle or focus on your career. But that’s not the only options. The only option is you feel desperation when you’re not prepared for something. I want you to think about a project at work, a presentation at work. If you were not prepared for that presentation, wouldn’t you feel nervous? Wouldn’t you feel desperate? Wouldn’t you feel like, Oh, I may get found out here that I don’t know what the heck I’m doing, but if you prepared for that, you put in the time, you put in the energy, you put in the effort for that, and then you’d be prepared, right? It’s like, think about whatever you’re maybe you have a law degree or a medical degree or something. Great. But if someone asks you to fix their car, you’d be like, I don’t really. I didn’t put in any time energy money for that. I put in time, energy money for this. That’s why I have this level of success. But you didn’t put in time, energy and money to learn how to fix cars, so you don’t know how to do that. If you if you’ve spent your whole life putting time, energy and money into your profession or your career.

Speaker1: [00:08:21] Right. Ongoing classes and things like that. I’m a lawyer. Laura’s a doctor. We understand you got ongoing classes. We don’t obviously practice anymore. But. But I understand that that devotion to your career. But if you haven’t put anything or very little into your love life, into understanding masculine feminine dynamics, into upgrading your decision making framework around how to choose men, and we’ll talk about that a little bit later, then it’s understandable that you would be feeling unprepared and that you would feel not so confident. Right? Again, thinking about that presentation at work, all I’m saying is if you put your love life the thing that you want not only now, but when you’re older as a high priority right now, maybe the same level as your career, what’s going to happen? Number one, you’re going to not feel that you’re unprepared for it because you’re going to get prepared. You’re going to put forth time, energy, money toward it. Why? Because you’re going to actually act like it’s important, because if you act like your relationship is important, you’re going to attract someone who acts like you’re important, who treat you as if you’re important. But if you act like your relationship, your love life, your understanding, your skill, building, all of that stuff is just an afterthought. What are you going to attract a guy who’s going to think of you as an afterthought, right? So if you put your love life on the same level as your finances, your your, your career, then you’re going to start to see results.

Speaker1: [00:10:03] Here’s the thing. You cannot be married to your career and a good man and family. Just add it in like an afterthought. You’ve got to allow yourself to recognize that. Being married to a man is going to make that relationship important, which means he’s going to make you important, which means you’re going to have success there, just like you’ve had success in your career. So that that path that you’re walking down, going toward off the cliff, that’s just going to lead you into the abyss of being no family, no true love, ten, 20, 30 years older, feeling frustrated, maybe bitter, maybe hopeless, because you don’t have anybody to share life with. You’ve got this nice house and car and traveling, but you’ve got nobody to share with. That thing that you’re marching on is basically making your career the centerpiece of your life and everything else revolves around it. And what we’re seeing saying is give it a shot for a period of time to make your your relationship life, your personal life, your personal life the centerpiece of your life and have your career revolve around that. You don’t have to stop your career. You can be just as successful. In fact, our clients end up becoming more successful in their career because they’re not looking for their career to give them a fulfillment that they simply simply can’t do.

Speaker1: [00:11:33] Your career can’t keep you warm at night, right? You can get you can be sleeping with your laptop. Maybe you already are, but that’s not going to keep you warm at night. Right. And you can knock out a few more emails, communicate with a few more people, but that’s not going to keep you warm at night. It’s not going to bring you soup and you’re sick. It’s not going to cuddle you when you’re afraid, when you’re nervous, when you have a high level of anxiety, the career won’t do that, right. And so the mid thirties woman again, I remember I said, I’m going to give you some tough truth here. The mid thirties, late thirties, a woman who has success. Think about this. When you look at your options, you want to have a man that has same similar level success or more, right? You want them to be same similar like age as you, mid thirties, forties, things like that. Right. So that man, that high quality man who is that successful like that, he has way more options than you do. Why is that? Now, Now don’t shoot the messenger here. He’s got way more options. Why? Let’s say let’s say you’re 35. You want a guy who’s, you know, at your age, 35, 40, even up to 45, Right. If he’s 42, 43 years old.

Speaker1: [00:12:54] He can be with a woman who’s 40. He could be with the woman who’s 35. He could be with the woman who’s 32. You know, more than ten years. You start to get into like a completely different generation. But I’m not talking about some creepy guy who wants, you know, a child. I’m talking about someone who’s like, yeah, you know, that’s about the same because women are a lot more mature than men. So, like, I’m my lawyer is five years younger than me. But she’s probably more mature than me, or at least at the same level. Why is that? Because women are more mature than men. So you’re talking about a man that you want. Well, you know who else wants him? Every other woman wants him, including the woman who’s five years younger than you. Including the woman who’s seven years younger than you. And she would be right at his level. You know, again, you get into ten, 15, 20 years younger. That’s a whole different thing, right? That’s someone who just wants, like I said, a child live out his fantasy of being with an 18 year old. That’s not what I’m talking about. Right? So. So he has more choices. And you have less choices. He has more options. You have less options. And so what does every day that goes by bring more of more of that? You have dwindling amount of choices and options. He has an expanding amount of choices and options.

Speaker1: [00:14:11] Why? Because he’s becoming more and more successful at his career, which is quite attractive to you. But as you become more and more successful in your career, it doesn’t really matter that much to him. It matters about who you are. So when women come to us in their late thirties, forties, feeling frustrated, worried about their future, it’s it’s a it’s a fantasy in your mind that you were told you were going to get by the current conventional wisdom, all of the media and everything versus the reality that you’re living, which is I’m not seeing any good guys around. And the guys that I do see that I want, they don’t want me or I don’t get second dates and I don’t know what the heck is going on because I’ve done everything that I was told. So it can breed frustration. And the thing is that this is basically arguing with reality. And when you’re arguing with reality, this is a losing battle. It is what it is. You’re at where you’re at. So this is not a reason to like I said, don’t shoot the messenger. But the question is now what to do, Right. So the first thing is to stop arguing with reality. Like when I talk about he has more choices, You have less choices. Stop arguing with reality. That that is what it is. Now the question is what to do? Well, first is let’s get a whole new approach that actually works.

Speaker1: [00:15:35] Now, you can be a good person, but with the wrong approach, with the wrong game plan or no game plan, just like, Well, it’ll happen when it happens. Well, that’s not working, is it? You’ve been thinking about this for more than a minute and it’s not happening. And there’s like, no good guys in sight, and you keep running across these creeps and weirdos and or just like, low ambition guys. I’m not saying that these guys aren’t out there. They are. There’s a lot of them. Low ambition guys, not very masculine men, not very successful men. And you want a masculine, successful man who wants true love, marriage and family just like you do. Right? And so but he’s got other options. So you you’re like, Oh, no, Johnny, are you saying to settle? No, not at all. In fact, don’t settle at all. But you have to recognize that your game plan so far has been marching you toward that cliff where you’re going to go off and into an abyss and you’re going to lose that that like, well, it’ll happen when it happens or wishing that things were different while at the same time hoping that you get different results. It’s like if you’re doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result, what do they say? That’s like the definition of insanity, right? So. So stop the insanity. Years ago, there was this ad on TV.

Speaker1: [00:16:50] Stop the insanity. So understanding like starting to understand why it is that you’re still single after all of these years is the place to start. But the one thing is it can’t be all his fault. It can’t be all men’s fault. It can’t be 100% the man’s responsibility to show up and be X or super fabulous from minute one. Otherwise, what the heck? If it’s all his fault, if it’s all the men’s fault, then there’s literally nothing you can do. You have no power over the situation. That doesn’t that seem crazy? You have actually no power over the situation. We call our clients love wars. They call themselves love wars because they take responsibility for their role not fault, but their role in attracting these kind of low ambition, low quality guys being attractive to the low. Ambition low. Why is it that a low quality guy thinks that he has a chance with you? Because you’re putting off signals. You’re letting him know that that that’s possible because of what’s going on inside. That’s why he has this idea that he could actually have a shot with you. You might have even let a few of those guys in because he’s cute, because you were like, wow, whatever. You know, that kind of thing. So that that stuff is the reason why you want to start looking for a completely different approach, because you want to recognize that this approach that you’re doing is not working.

Speaker1: [00:18:26] How do you know not only look in the mirror and look at your life. Look around you. Most of your friends I know this because statistically speaking, most of your friends are probably single themselves or in bad relationships or bad marriages or just ho hum marriages. Right. So learning why you’re still single after all of these years, after all the things that you’ve tried, all the the books you’ve read, the TED Talks, you’ve watched the the, the the Enneagram, that this is that all of these different things. Why is that? Because there’s a lot more going on here than you than you recognize. And most of the time you’re not getting a masculine and feminine perspective on things. You’re not really understanding how men think. You’re understanding and learning about how women think. Men should think instead of actually hearing from a man how men think. So again, you’re marching on that path, heading toward that cliff, and you don’t even know it, Right? Again, look around you. Right. And just look at this statistics. The most unhappy person in America is a woman who’s in her late thirties, forties, who’s either a single mom or childless, married to her career and frustrated about the type and quality of dates and relationships that she’s being presented in that that she is basically attracting without knowing it. That is the most unhappy person. That’s why so much anxiety, so much depression, so much frustration and a lot of anger.

Speaker1: [00:20:02] And again, is some of it men’s fault? Absolutely. Is all of it man’s fault? How could that be? That would mean that they have all of the power in 100% of the power. And you have no power, no responsibility, no chance at changing your destiny? Well, how is it that our clients are changing their destiny all the time? How is that happening? How are they finding men in their thirties or forties who want to have families? How are they doing that? Why is it when that man who we talked about, who’s more successful and has more choices, why is it that he’s choosing love? Where’s our clients? Why is that happening? You may think it’s because it’s a different city, a town country. It’s not it’s not. Our biggest challenge with our clients is I’ve actually never been treated so well. So I’m I’m unfamiliar with how to even deal with this because we take them step by step through how to stop arguing with reality and start actually becoming the best version of yourself where you’re going to be attractive as a radiant feminine woman to a healthy, masculine man. A man who wants to protect, to provide, adore, cherish, treat you well and and allow you to to not have everything on your shoulders. All the pressure on your shoulders. Their current conventional wisdom is taking you away from that man.

Speaker1: [00:21:32] The current conventional wisdom is taking you away from that true love, marriage and family that you want. If you see love around you, maybe you are blessed with seeing that around you. Well, learning about how they had that, it’s not because while I met this guy at church. So the trick is to get a church, man. Come on now. There’s knuckleheads at church, too. I met him at work. So the trick is to meet a guy at work. Well, come on. There’s knuckleheads at work, too, right? I met him online. The trick is to meet him online. It’s not. There’s no trick here. There’s about growing yourself from within and building your skills in masculine feminine dynamics, in having a solid, clear decision making framework and recognizing that that if you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always got. Seems pretty obvious, right? But. But what you see around you is everyone just marching lockstep toward that cliff and that abyss that is coming. And deep down inside you kind of know that you can feel that, right? Like, I am fricking going nowhere here and I’m starting to freak out inside, but I have to keep it all together and look like I’m not freaking out because I have all this trapped. Success and what am I going to be? Ungrateful, right? So you don’t want to just roll the dice, even like I said, if you have great looking, you know, relationships around you.

Speaker1: [00:23:04] So you don’t want to just roll the dice and hope that that happens for you. You want to prepare yourself. Again, this idea of of preparing yourself, like we talked about earlier, about a like a presentation at work, let’s imagine that you had an ordinary presentation at work and and you you prepared for it. Okay, great. Probably do. All right. Now, what if they said, well, this presentation is going to determine how successful you’re going to be for the rest of your career. 30 years? Well, you probably prepare a lot more for that presentation, wouldn’t you? And what if they said not only would this. Excuse me. What if they said not only is this going to determine how successful you’ll be in your career, but it actually will determine how happy and fulfilled you feel in this career for the next 30, 40 years. Oh, my God. You probably prepare even more. What if they said it’s actually going to determine whether your net worth will be going up or down in the next 34 years? Why you’d prepare even more? Well, here’s the thing. Who you choose as a partner in life is the number one. Number one, I’m like, pointing at two different fingers. It’s the number one determinant of your happiness and fulfillment in life is your primary romantic relationship. Why wouldn’t you prepare as if it was the thing that it is? Why wouldn’t you prepare as if it actually is going to determine not just the next 30 or 40 years, but God willing, let’s say you’re going to live to 80, 90, 100 and you’re in your thirties now.

Speaker1: [00:24:48] We’re talking about the next 50, 60, 70 years. Why wouldn’t you prepare as if the number one determinant of your fulfillment and happiness was something that you wanted to be prepared for rather than just roll the dice and wing it? Right. Rolling the dice and winging it. Showing up to a presentation would make you feel a high level of anxiety, wouldn’t it? That’s why you don’t do that at work. Because you’re a professional, Because you take your career seriously. You take your profession seriously. Right. And so allowing yourself to recognize that also your primary romantic relationship determines your net worth. Women that are that are happily married have a much higher net worth than those that are unhappily married or those that are not married at all. And so, yeah, it’s basically about anything that you want to be successful. Just think about college. Maybe you did a few classes where you just kind of winged it in through presentation together at the last minute or paper or winged it on a test and lucked out. But you probably didn’t do that for the harder ones for the classes in your major, for the like the bar exam or the boards. Like when I took the bar exam and passed it on the first shot in New York and New Jersey, I prepared like crazy for that.

Speaker1: [00:26:04] When Lara took the boards for her to become a doctor of chiropractic, she studied like crazy. She prepared like crazy for that because it was important, right? That’s what you’ve done to pass the bar, the boards, whatever it is, is CPR Series seven, whatever the different things that you that you did to get your professional title, you prepared for that. Just being a teacher, you have to do things every year, right? I was a teacher as well. So you have to do these things every year to keep your your professional skills up because it’s that important, right? So that high quality man that you want. Going back to that, he knows that he’s a high quality man. But if you don’t know how to be what we call the prize and meaning the prize in a masculine and feminine dynamics, if you don’t know how to flip his masculinity switch, you’re going to be like one of many instead of his one and only. And you probably have already had that experience of being a feeling like, I feel like I’m just one of many to this guy. And that’s that’s what’s missing, is you really owning your role that you you have that you don’t even know that you have, which is the relationship established. You’re a navigator, and so you are the relationship.

Speaker1: [00:27:16] Establish your navigator. But it’s not in the way that you probably think. Like when you’re at work, you know, maybe you’re a project manager or something like that, you direct things. But that skill right there is literally the opposite of how you need to navigate things in a relationship. But if you don’t have the skills to do that, you’re going to navigate it at home in your personal life the way you do at work, because you’re like, This is successful at work, but it’s not. There’s a whole communication style that you use at work that is not effective in your relationship. There’s a whole way of thinking about who’s has what role in a relationship that you’re doing it one way at work. It doesn’t work in your in your relationship. But but if you don’t know how to flip his masculinity, switch, if you don’t know how to step into your authentic feminine radiance, then you’re going to, like I said, you’re going to be one of many instead of his one and only. So if you’re if you’re really ready to get into action and into like not run out of time because the clock is ticking and you know that, again, don’t shoot the messenger. You already know that. That’s true. The clock is ticking. Not only your biological clock, but the clock of of like having this many men to choose from like a wider circle as opposed to, like every year that goes by, you have a dwindling circle.

Speaker1: [00:28:39] And a lot of times, to be honest, I know a lot of women get mad at saying that or me saying that or. You may be mad right now me saying that. So this is this goes back to the idea of just arguing with reality. It is what it is. Arguing with reality is not really like the best game plan. Right? But if you’re a smart and successful professional single woman, then then it may be time to get into action. Now. Now, here’s what I want to say. If you are kind of one paycheck away from sleeping in your car or getting kicked out of the place that you’re renting, then you really need to focus on that area, on your your your structures. But if if the only thing missing in your life is love, then it’s time to really focus on that. And I’m not saying that everything is perfect in your finances, your career and all that, but a lot of times the way you’re approaching that is I’m going to be alone forever. So I need to have like $1,000,000 in my 401 K because I need to be able to take care of myself. What you need to do is get into the right relationship with the right man so that then you won’t ever feel this unsettled feeling again and it won’t all be on you.

Speaker1: [00:30:00] So. So anyway, so like I said, if, if, if you’re one paycheck away from, from sleeping in your car, getting kicked out of where you are, you really should be focusing on on that area of your life and really up leveling your game in terms of that. So you don’t have that that feeling of like that he’s going to come save you. The women that we work with, they don’t need anybody to save them. They’re professional, they’re successful, they can take care of themselves, but they are aware that they’re missing someone special to share all this awesomeness with. Again, not that everything’s perfect, not that you’re where you want to be or as rich as you want to be or anything like that. But you’re not one step away from sleeping in your car. You’re not like, you know, like you actually have a career like those kind of things, right? So so I’m going to give you an opportunity to get on the phone with Laura, my my wife, co founder of the Feminine Ratings and Courage Institute, and have what we call a love breakthrough call. And a love breakthrough call is a place where you’re going to need to get honest and get real about what’s actually happening in your life, what you really want, not just what society tells you you should want and stuff, but what do you really want and get really in touch with that? A lot of women are not even in touch with what they want because they’ve been so busy just going from in high school.

Speaker1: [00:31:22] Got to get a degree in college and college, got to get graduated and get a good job in your job. Got to move up the ladder so you’re not even in touch with what it is you want. And in that that call with Laura, you’re going to actually be able to Laura or a member of our team, you’re going to actually be able to get in touch with what it is that you want, and then you’ll have an opportunity to move forward toward what it is that you you want. Now, if you think you have it all figured out, you just need one little tip or something like that. Just Google that stuff. Don’t get on the phone. It’s like an hour to an hour and a half. It’s like 60 to 90 minutes. You know? Our team is busy. Laura’s busy. You’re a busy woman. Don’t don’t do do it like that. Do it where you’re like, Hey, I’m ready to to change my life. I’m ready to get off of that path, leading to the cliff going into the abyss. And I’m really wanting to get on the path of true love, marriage and family today. I’m fully aware that I don’t have that. I’m kind of running out of time and I don’t want to be desperate.

Speaker1: [00:32:25] Because here’s the thing again, going back to that presentation at work, if you are just winging it, you’re going to feel desperate on unsettled and not confident. But if you’re prepared, even if the presentation as high stakes, you’re going to feel a lot more confident. You’re going to be able to sleep at night. And it doesn’t mean that there won’t be some nerves about it, but you’re going to feel a lot more confident because you know that you’re prepared. Well, we have I mean, we’ve been doing this for about 18 years, for over 17 years now. And so we actually have a completely different path. There’s not leading to a cliff is actually leading to true love, marriage and family. Whatever family looks like for you. Maybe you have kids already. Maybe you want kids, maybe you want you have your own kids. You want to blend with his kids, all of that type of stuff. But true love, maybe your your kids that you want or have is is is fur babies, you know, dogs, cats, whatever. But whatever family looks like to you, then it’s going to take a new approach. And you really want that today? Not some day, not next month, not when work slows down, not when the projects are finished, not when the, you know, the new moon, the the the whatever, you know, all this type of stuff. You don’t want to go through another birthday alone.

Speaker1: [00:33:43] You don’t want to go through another holiday alone. You don’t want to go through. You know, another new year is alone. You just don’t want to do that. So book a call with Laurie. Just go to Single to Soulmate dot com for slash call that Single to Soulmate dot com forward slash call. For your free love breakthrough call with Lara or member of our team right now. Again, this is only for women that are. Successful professional single women, which again means like you’re not one step away from sleeping in your car. You got some things together. It’s just that you’re missing this man in your life, and you’re not going to try to get on the call to prove that you’ve got it all together. You’re actually there because you recognize there’s not turn out the way I want and I actually need a new approach. Now, whether we invite you to work with us is a whole other matter. Only like two, maybe three women out of ten that even have these calls or even invited to to become a client. Now, why is that? I’m just going to lay it out for you here. The reason is because we only accept clients that we are certain that we can help. And what does that mean? That means if whatever is going on with you, it’s not a match. Then we’ll refer you to someplace else where you can get help.

Speaker1: [00:35:12] Maybe we’re not the best people for you. But. But one thing is for certain is that if you show up honest, if you show up real, if you show up not like a know at all, but just like a person who’s like, Hey, I’m successful in this area, not so much in this one, something must be going on. I must have I must be playing some role in this. And I’d like to know what I don’t know and get a game plan to get me the heck out of this situation that I’m in. Then something is going to you’re going to have some opportunity to have a breakthrough. And again, maybe you’ll be invited to to work with us and you’ll decide right there on the phone like, yeah, I want to do that or I don’t or whatever. But but you won’t even have a chance for a breakthrough if you don’t show up. Honest, prepared. Like I said, it’s 60 to 90 minutes, hour and a hour and a half and totally dedicated. Not like driving, washing dishes, walking your dog, like, totally dedicated. Then you have a chance to really change your life. Now, so many women have said this is literally a life changing call. Whether they decide to work with us or not, either one is fine, but this is absolutely a life changing call. But you have to decide that your life and that future is that important.

Speaker1: [00:36:33] You have to decide that that presentation, so to speak, that’s going to affect the next 30, 40, 50, 60, 70 years of your life that will determine your happiness and fulfillment more than anything else is actually worth devoting time, energy, money into. And like I said, maybe you’ll be accepted into our premium Advance Private Love Mentoring program. But like I said, that’s only about two or three out of ten even get invited. And so this is a process of determining what really is going on in your life, where it is that you want to go and what’s the best way to get you there, What’s the best way to get you there with as much solidity, with as much confidence, with as much speed as possible? Because as we started out talking about, you’re running out of time and you don’t even realize how much you’re running out of time. You’re running out of time. And because current conventional wisdom is telling you you have plenty of time, you’re ignoring the fact that literally every day your options dwindle while the very same man that you’re going after, his options expand. So what does that mean? That means that you want to be prepared for this presentation. It’s not a presentation. It’s you living your life. But you’ve got to be able to be in that feminine, radiant self, authentically and naturally and effortlessly. And if that were already happening, you wouldn’t be. Where you’re at right now.

Speaker1: [00:38:10] Again, doesn’t mean you’re a bad person and it doesn’t mean that there aren’t aren’t jerks, narcissists, assholes, all of that stuff out there. It’s just how do you avoid them and start to get the guys that are looking for love? Because here’s the thing that you got to understand that this society and the mating, dating and relating has been like, it’s just a clusterfuck. It’s just a mess right now. And you already know that, right? It’s a mess. Men are looking for coaching. Men are looking for and getting coaching. There’s. There’s men coaching men about how to be men like. And more than you can possibly imagine, because they’re not directing their ads, their information, any of that stuff to you. But it’s happening right now because women are having or are struggling with how to be more feminine and men are struggling with how to be more masculine. But the ones that are masculine, either because they have done the work to learn how to do that, or they just naturally are that they’re looking for a woman who. Who is more feminine, is able to be strong and feminine at the same time and don’t believe the lies in your head or the lies that current conventional wisdom tells you, which is that you have to give up your independence or you have to give up your career, or you have to give up being the smart woman that you are in order to catch a man.

Speaker1: [00:39:38] That is not the truth as the opposite of the truth. You have to be authentically you. But the funny thing is, being authentically you is harder now than ever because there’s so much pressure around, whether it be the dating apps or porn or whatever. The examples in mass media of men and women are all dysfunctional. They really, really are. And so the messages that you’re getting from mass media, from the culture, from movies, from TV shows, is not leading you to where you want to go. It’s just marching everybody down this path, leading off a cliff into an abyss. So if you want to get off of that path, get on to a different path. Not some day, but literally today. Apply for a love breakthrough call with Laura or a member of our team and let’s see if or how we can help you. You just got to show up and be honest. The call is completely free, but you got to show up ready to change your life. You can’t show up like I know it all. I’m so smart, all of this type of stuff. You can be very, very smart and be kind of clueless when it comes to men and relationships and stuff. And if you’re at that place where you kind of are at that honest place about it, well then you want to apply for a for a call.

Speaker1: [00:40:57] All right. So I hope this was helpful for you. If you’re put comments below, if you’re listening on our podcast, like review the podcast, all of that and subscribe. All right. Take care. Have a good rest of your day or night whenever you’re listening to this or watching this. Hey, thanks for tuning in to today’s episode. If you’re a single professional woman who wants your success in your love life to match your success in your career, and you’re looking to get crystal clear right now about why true love hasn’t been knocking on your door and how to have that happen sooner rather than later. Like, not literally, though that would be weird, but I hope you know what I’m saying. Anyway, you’re going to want to book a call, a love breakthrough clarity call right now with my dear wife, Dr. Laura. Yes. Laura herself will get on the phone or Skype with you one on one to assess exactly what’s been holding you back and love what it is you really want and how to get there as quickly as possible. Just go to Single to Soulmate dot com. Forward slash call to book a call that’s Single to Soulmate dot com for slash call for free love breakthrough clarity call that is for you if and only if you’re a single professional woman who is as serious about her love life right now as you’ve been about getting your degree or your career success. So again, that’s Single to Soulmate dot com forward slash call to book your life changing love breakthrough clarity call right away.

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